[X&Y Emily] Sweet Stuff And Sugar Smacks

Published: Wed, 03/13/24

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WHAT'S INSIDE:  Have you ever wondered why we give
"pet names" to those who we feel affectionate toward?  Here's
a fun look at the whole concept...

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OK, I've been at it again.  I was reading some more of Scot's
earliest newsletters that he sent to an audience that was mostly
women at the time.

While doing so, I rediscovered this gem...Scot's very first
newsletter ever.

Don't ask me why he picked such an off-the-wall topic to start
things off with, but in it he talks about the incredibly fun topic
of "pet names".  Why do we use them, and what do they really
mean?

While reading it, I couldn't help but smile.  Early on in our
relationship, Scot had casually mentioned to me that he finds
it sexy when women call their man, "baby".

You know, as in, "How was your day, baby?"

I've been calling him "baby" ever since...



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THE LANGUAGE OF PET NAMES


It's a definite turning point in a relationship, isn't it?  She blurts
it out innocently enough, but there it is--it's out there, "Honey"
(or, if the Angels of Affectionate Blessing are working extra hard,
"Sugar Smacks"...or "Beanly"...or "Goodness"). 

The proverbial cat is out of its bag.  Just don't call me that in
front of my friends, okay, "Sweet Thing"?

Pet names.  What a concept.  A topic I genuinely like, and have
thought about in detail.
 
I believe it's all about adding a new level of identity to a
certain person so as to set apart the relationship between parties
as sacred (or something like that). 

Pet names are a lot like nicknames in this respect, demonstrating
that someone "cares" enough to call you in a way more private or
familial than your given name. 

But see, just about anyone you know can "care" enough to tag you
with a mere nickname, and the end result can be questionable, right
"Pigeon Lips"?

Oh yeah.  Make no mistake, pet names are nicknames made perfect.
This is all part of that elusive "language of love" made famous by
Pepe LePew, et al.

Women, I'm guessing, typically get the ball rolling, and may wonder
where the reciprocation is.  Well, there's good cause for concern.
A man might very well feel that "pet names" are a feminine thing,
so during the normal course of life he may carefully guard his
"macho" exterior and act embarrassed by them and/or refrain from
using them--especially in public I'd think.

During the passion of sex, however, he may feel more uninhibited or
quite frankly may not be able to help himself from coming out with
the little names he already has in mind for her.
 
Did you know that it's very common for women to open up their 
playful side when they are both attracted to and comfortable with a
man?  It's a very clear sign. 

"Baby talk" and pet-names are by products of this, and yes...it's a
feminine trait.  You know what I mean: all those little "cute-isms"
used around the house that all healthy couples seem to have, but
which the man would NEVER acknowledge outside of the safe confines
of the house or the car. 

A while back Match.com used to have "baby talk" among a list of
"turn on/turnoffs" for members to select from when creating profiles. 

Women almost always checked it as a "turnoff" (e.g. if coming from
a guy).  My educated guess, however, is that a man really likes when
women do that stuff because it gives him the security of knowing
she's into him...as bizarre as that sounds.

And what about those pet names themselves? 

There are "universal" or "safe" pet names (e.g. baby, honey, cutie)
that everyone can use over and over. 

Others, like "pumpkin", "sweet stuff", etc. probably aren't
'transferable' to the next relationship.  It would feel weird. 

Re-using the "sacred" ones would be kind of like calling out an
ex-lover's name in bed, right?

All of this said, I do believe there are distinct words a man can
use when talking to a woman he likes that accomplish the same
endearing purpose as the "femmie" pet names, YET project all the
right things about manhood. 

This is a tricky one, and highly variable depending on a guy's
personality...or the woman's for that matter.  Oddly enough, "girlie"
and "blondie" are examples I've heard can be used effectively...
especially within a particularly playful context.



 




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