EMILY McKAY'S KEYS TO BLISS NEWSLETTER
 
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IN THIS EDITION:  Hear directly from Scot which kind of guys we all
should definitely stay away from.

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Hello Ladies:

Today I have a surprise for you.  Recently, Scot wrote what
follows to his guys. 

As it turns out, his "man-to-man" talk with them is also exactly
what we as women need to hear more of.  

To be sure, what you're about to read is addressed to a male
audience, but you get to be a "fly on the wall" and hear from A
MAN'S PERSPECTIVE about what kind of guys DO NOT deserve a

high quality woman like you.

The way I see it, anytime a guy is actually telling other guys what
they need to work on before deserving a great woman, that can only
mean we gals should probably pay attention--and definitely NOT
settle for any guy who fits the description Scot's about to give.

Enjoy this one...it's a real "wake-up call", for sure.
 

Have Fun,

Emily McKay



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WOULD I RECOMMEND YOU TO A WOMAN?  (HERE ARE

5 GUYS I WOULDN'T...) 

-- by Scot McKay


I've noticed something really weird about the e-mails we get. 

Whenever a guy writes us, he's almost always wondering how to get a
women (or six) into his life.

But when women write us, they're almost always asking what to do
about a guy they're ALREADY dating.

Pretty wild, huh?

For whatever reason that phenomenon exists, it is what it is.  I
have to say, though, that a similar thought often crosses my mind
when women write us.
 
"Man...this would be a lot easier to solve if it were the guy talking
to us instead of the woman he's dating."

By now you know that Emily and I are "equal opportunity" dating
coaches.  Both men and women can get things right, and both can
mess things up.   And there are representatives of both genders who
have good intentions with MOTOS (members of the oother sex), and
others whose intentions are not so good.

So yes, there are times I'll tell a woman exactly why she's
screwing up her relationship.  And I'm not shy about it.

But don't kid yourself.  Other times I'll tell her to drop
everything and RUN AWAY from the guy she's seeing.

So my question to you today is a poignant but important one:  What
would I tell a woman you're dating to do about YOU if she called me
and asked?

Here are five guys I universally tell women to buck up and say
"next" to:



1)  "DISAPPEARING GUY"


If only I had a dollar for every woman who has ever written us
wanting to know what to do about a guy who's dropped off the face
of the Earth...

Yeah, well...you and I already know he's no longer interested.  But
the point is he should have been man enough to give her the
straight truth about there being a better match out there besides
him.

But most of us as guys would rather avoid the potential emotional
drama of being forthright with a woman than man-up and do the
respectable thing.

Seriously...if a woman likes you, she really BELIEVES "you had fun"
and that "you'll call her" when you say you will.  If you utter
phrases like that and don't do what you say you're going to, you
lack character...period, end of story.

And if you lack character, then I'm not going to by shy about
telling women to move on.



2)  "LYING GUY"


There's a hilarious new commercial from a mobile provider where a
man and a woman are at a speed dating event.  The man tells her
that "all he wants is to settle down and have kids", but the woman
counters by reading his bio-statement that says the opposite. 
From there, everything he says turns out to be in direct contrast
to what he's said elsewhere.  

I don't personally believe that "all men are liars" like some "lady
guru" dating coaches tend to assert.  But there are some of us who
perpetuate that belief, much to the chagrin of the guys out there
who have integrity.  This really is a case of the "bad apples"
spoiling the whole bushel.  Horrible.

The bottom line is that if you've been telling women whatever you
think they want to hear just to get in their pants, I'm going to
recommend to the women you've been seeing that they keep their
panties on...just like I'd tell you to watch your wallet if a woman
was whispering empty "sweet nothings" to you.

 

3)  "NEUTER GUY"


Look, if you're NOT coming off as a masculine man, you're not
attracting women.  Sexual polarity is what keeps you from hearing
the dreaded "just be friends" talk.  By now you know how much I
harp on you to stay out of that "JBF zone".

But I have to tell you, women deserve to feel sexual attraction
every bit as much as you do.

So when women write us expressing crushing guilt because they're
dating a "great guy" who they "just don't feel it for", we explain
to them exactly why they feel the way they do and help lift the
guilt of "kicking him to the curb" off their shoulders. 

Never hide your masculine presence because you think it'll turn
women off.  The opposite is true, as long as you're not pushy or
predatory about it.



4)  "LITTLE BOY GUY"


Not only should you be a man who shows responsibility as a
provider, protector and a leader, women have every right to NEVER
settle for a guy who demonstrates anything less.

When women tell us how frustrated they are by a guy's double-talk,
bad decisions, lack of a plan, inability to make her feel safe
and/or overall flakiness we affirm her frustration and do what we
can to assure her there's ANOTHER GUY out there who really "gets
it".  That's the guy she should be with instead.



5)  "SUBTLE RED FLAG GUY"


The more I think about this one, the more I'm tempted to just call
him "Manipulative Guy".   When you think about it, a person (man or
woman) who shows you just a glimpse of what he or she is like in
hopes you'll believe something else is going on that head of theirs
is really just trying to "warm you up" to accept whatever they send
your way later.

We've heard from women who see a "really, really nice guy" verbally
abuse a waitress or a relative early on but dismiss it in the
moment.  Sure enough, once there's more "water under the bridge"
between them he starts verbally abusing her also.

A more innocuous example would be the lighter found in the guy's
silverware drawer that's allegedly used to "start the grill", when
a month or so down the road his closet smoking habit turns out to
be for real.

A more extreme example would be the guy with a vicious jealous
streak who seems "normal" up front, but knocks up his girlfriend
and marries her VERY quickly so as to "lock her down" from even so
much as leaving the house later.


 
Now that I've given you some hints that might help you arrive at a
well-informed answer regarding whether I'd recommend you to a woman
or not, let me make one thing perfectly clear.  The point of this
exercise is to give you some 20/20 foresight.  I'm all about
helping you WIN with women from the very start.

So if some of what I'm about to say hits home, that's a GOOD thing.

This message is going out to around 50,000 guys so please don't
take it personally.  Use it to correct your course and thrill
women's brains out instead of making them write to Emily.

Rest assured that if you're a "big four" man who is confident,
masculine in the way women respond to as women, able to make a
woman feel safe and comfortable in your presence and has strong
character I'll be sure to tell a woman she'd be absolutely crazy
not to treat you right and do what she could to keep you interested.

And yes, it'd be up to you whether you stayed with her or not.
That's no coincidence.


Be Good,

Scot McKay




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