[X&Y Emily] She Wanted A Relationship, But He Just Wanted To Stay "Casual"
Published: Wed, 01/08/25
Updated: Mon, 01/13/25
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IN THIS EDITION: Sometimes we really like a guy, but we don't
exactly like...well...*everything* about him. Maybe it's one of
his habits, part of his lifestyle or even how he feels about YOU.
Can you change how he is?
=====
BECAUSE THIS *SHOULD* BE WAY TOO MUCH FUN
Have you still been putting off trying online dating?
Let me tell you, it's an amazing feeling to log into your
computer and find a bunch of new messages from all sorts of
guys who are hoping to get the chance to ADORE you.
YES...there are great men on sites like Match.com (I married
one!) and the best news ever is that they really want to
meet YOU.
Yet, I hear from plenty of women who are either too scared to
try it or who've tried it in the past only to get, well...
different results than they had hoped.
Well, let me assure you that your fabulous self IS going to
be in high demand by high quality men...BUT (and this is
a "biggee") you've GOT to know what it takes to get their
attention.
Do you need to be a former prom queen? Nope.
Do you have to work out a little more before you can get
started? Definitely not.
Do you have to put up with creeps, weirdos and other
disappointing guys? Not if I can help it.
The new year is almost here, ladies, and it's time to meet the
man of your dreams--maybe even in time to ring in the new
year with him.
Join the movement that so many women are already a part of.
Discover the secrets in my Click With Him program and start
HAVING FUN again, for a change:
http://www.clickwithhim.com/50off
It's SO thrilling to get messages from cute and funny guys,
and it's amazing to feel the "butterflies" in anticipation
of a great first date.
You'll feel almost like you're in high school again.
How sure am I that you'll LOVE online dating once I show you
the secrets?
SO sure that I'll not only give you the chance to try Click
With Him risk free for up to a whole year, I'll let you have
it for half-price:
http://www.clickwithhim.com/50off
There's no coupon necessary. Simply click the link above and
let the fun begin...all for less than a month's gym membership,
and with a LOT less sweat!
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SHE WANTED A RELATIONSHIP, BUT HE JUST
WANTED TO STAY "CASUAL"
Dear Emily,
What if a woman is being less available, enjoying her own activities
and not putting priority on the man she actually really is interested
in--but this man keeps dating the same way and shows just little
interest in her?
What if a man keeps asking her out a couple times a month, prepares
a nice fun date, but keeps it cool (no sweet words or kisses)?
After a few months have passed, can he date like this forever?
Well, I need to learn much more about dating, so I'm waiting for
your newsletter very much. And I'm really interested in getting your
new products, looks like you both are great experts of relationships.
Thank you for your answers.
Kind regards,
Lina (Vilnius, Lithuania)
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Hello Lina:
Thank you for your message and for your kind words.
The simple answer to your question about whether a man can continue
dating casually indefinitely is "Yes, of course he can."
He's likely dating several women and you are simply one of many
options.
This doesn't make him a bad guy, necessarily. Especially since it
sounds from your e-mail like he's not exactly pressuring you
sexually or anything.
Is sure looks to me like he's a guy who is very much leaving his
"options open".
Ultimately, this means he's someone with very different priorities
from what yours appear to be.
If you want a man who is interested in pursuing a steady
relationship, you have to find a different man.
You can't just change his mind.
Actually, we as women talk a lot about changing the men in our lives.
This isn't necessarily limited to trying to tweak his level of
commitment to a relationship either.
For example, we might start dating a guy who smokes but then try to
get him to quit.
We might try to get him to stop seeing certain friends of his. Or
we could want him to sell his motorcycle, stop traveling so much
for business and/or change his hairstyle.
But when it all comes down to it, just like you are your own person,
he's his own person also.
And as a matter of fact, it's often the case that if a man WERE to
change for us, we might inexplicably appreciate the "new improved"
version LESS than we did the guy we became enthralled with from the
start.
Actually, as silly as it sounds, some women report losing respect
for a man when he succumbs to pressure to change. Strange how the
mind works sometimes, isn't it?
On top of all of that, here's another thing to think about.
Consider how frustrating it would be if you met a man who said he
liked you lots, but kept telling you the ways he wanted you to be
different.
After a while, that would wear on your nerves, wouldn't it?
Well, trying to get a man to change in order to better meet your
needs puts a similar strain on the relationship.
It doesn't sound like you are nagging him. Nonetheless, your e-mail
presented a perfect opportunity to talk about this crucial issue.
Bottom line? You mentioned that he plans nice dates but doesn't
exactly sweep you off your feet with "sweet words and kisses".
It's time to stop dwelling upon a man who is already falling short
of your expectations and put yourself in the position of meeting
a man who is more relationship-minded and who knows what it means
to be romantic.
Otherwise, you're just trying to fit a square peg in a round hole,
right?
I'm also glad you mentioned being interested in trying Deserve What
You Want, Attraction Makeover or Click With Him.
In fact, the Women's Version of Scot's book Deserve What You Want
is an incredible way to prepare yourself for meeting the most
fantastic guy ever.
Put the past behind, discover what you really want in a man,
deserve what you want and go make it happen! It's all in there.
And a while back Scot put the finishing touches on something
really cool: the AUDIOBOOK version of Deserve What You Want,
read by the author himself.
Now you can get the e-book, all the bonuses PLUS each chapter on
MP3 audio:
http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com/women
If you'd much rather have Scot read the book to you while you are
at the gym or doing laundry, then this is the break you've been
waiting for!
http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com/women
WANTED TO STAY "CASUAL"
Dear Emily,
What if a woman is being less available, enjoying her own activities
and not putting priority on the man she actually really is interested
in--but this man keeps dating the same way and shows just little
interest in her?
What if a man keeps asking her out a couple times a month, prepares
a nice fun date, but keeps it cool (no sweet words or kisses)?
After a few months have passed, can he date like this forever?
Well, I need to learn much more about dating, so I'm waiting for
your newsletter very much. And I'm really interested in getting your
new products, looks like you both are great experts of relationships.
Thank you for your answers.
Kind regards,
Lina (Vilnius, Lithuania)
=====
Hello Lina:
Thank you for your message and for your kind words.
The simple answer to your question about whether a man can continue
dating casually indefinitely is "Yes, of course he can."
He's likely dating several women and you are simply one of many
options.
This doesn't make him a bad guy, necessarily. Especially since it
sounds from your e-mail like he's not exactly pressuring you
sexually or anything.
Is sure looks to me like he's a guy who is very much leaving his
"options open".
Ultimately, this means he's someone with very different priorities
from what yours appear to be.
If you want a man who is interested in pursuing a steady
relationship, you have to find a different man.
You can't just change his mind.
Actually, we as women talk a lot about changing the men in our lives.
This isn't necessarily limited to trying to tweak his level of
commitment to a relationship either.
For example, we might start dating a guy who smokes but then try to
get him to quit.
We might try to get him to stop seeing certain friends of his. Or
we could want him to sell his motorcycle, stop traveling so much
for business and/or change his hairstyle.
But when it all comes down to it, just like you are your own person,
he's his own person also.
And as a matter of fact, it's often the case that if a man WERE to
change for us, we might inexplicably appreciate the "new improved"
version LESS than we did the guy we became enthralled with from the
start.
Actually, as silly as it sounds, some women report losing respect
for a man when he succumbs to pressure to change. Strange how the
mind works sometimes, isn't it?
On top of all of that, here's another thing to think about.
Consider how frustrating it would be if you met a man who said he
liked you lots, but kept telling you the ways he wanted you to be
different.
After a while, that would wear on your nerves, wouldn't it?
Well, trying to get a man to change in order to better meet your
needs puts a similar strain on the relationship.
It doesn't sound like you are nagging him. Nonetheless, your e-mail
presented a perfect opportunity to talk about this crucial issue.
Bottom line? You mentioned that he plans nice dates but doesn't
exactly sweep you off your feet with "sweet words and kisses".
It's time to stop dwelling upon a man who is already falling short
of your expectations and put yourself in the position of meeting
a man who is more relationship-minded and who knows what it means
to be romantic.
Otherwise, you're just trying to fit a square peg in a round hole,
right?
I'm also glad you mentioned being interested in trying Deserve What
You Want, Attraction Makeover or Click With Him.
In fact, the Women's Version of Scot's book Deserve What You Want
is an incredible way to prepare yourself for meeting the most
fantastic guy ever.
Put the past behind, discover what you really want in a man,
deserve what you want and go make it happen! It's all in there.
And a while back Scot put the finishing touches on something
really cool: the AUDIOBOOK version of Deserve What You Want,
read by the author himself.
Now you can get the e-book, all the bonuses PLUS each chapter on
MP3 audio:
http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com/women
If you'd much rather have Scot read the book to you while you are
at the gym or doing laundry, then this is the break you've been
waiting for!
http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com/women
Have a great weekend, and I'll write to you again soon.
Have Fun,
Emily McKay
Have Fun,
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