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EMILY McKAY'S KEYS TO BLISS NEWSLETTER
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IN THIS EDITION: You have an online profile. You even have great guys writing you. But what happens when it's time to actually MEET a new guy? Will you be ready?
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DOES IT HAVE TO BE SO COMPLICATED?
Getting e-mails like the one highlighted in today's newsletter reminds me of how complicated dating can get if we allow it to be.
Does it have to be so long, drawn-out and difficult to meet a great man?
I promise you it doesn't.
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WHAT IF YOU'RE TOO CHICKEN TO MEET THE GUY YOU'VE BEEN TALKING TO ONLINE?
Hello Emily:
Ok, I messed up BIG TIME.
I met this fabulous man online we had amazing conversations, deep, philosophical, fun n more. I live on the east coast, he on the west.
Robert asked to fly to me several times, i said no because i am overweight and afraid to tell him that. He's an entertainer.
He called me from JFK Airport telling me he loves me and to meet him (He flew to Italy via NY for vacation) and again i refused to meet him.
The other strange thing is in the interim of his silence another man started writing me asking me if i am alone or dating? Turns out its one of his best friends (steve) - who also asked to meet me in NY!
My intuition tells me Robert put steve up to this to find out more about me. (Which tells me he is still focused on me, yes or no?) I have fallen in love with this man and trying to get over my insecurities.
Robert stopped talking to me and not answering my emails (only 3 didn't want to bombard him)
WHAT DO I DO NOW? HOW DO I GET HIM TO BREAK THE SILENCE?
No Name In New York
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Dear No Name In New York:
OK, what I'm about to tell you may possibly include some things you don't want to hear, but if you're going to be successful at online dating, I really do hope you'll at least give it some thought.
If you have put accurate pictures on your profile and have interacted via webcam with Robert then your insecurity about your weight is unfounded.
If he has a realistic picture of who he's going to meet, then you have nothing to worry about...at least as far as that's concerned.
On the other hand, if your profile pictures do not represent the current version of you then you have essentially been deceitful.
While it's true that many, many more men prefer curvier women than you'd probably guess, the secret here is to make sure you are attracting the ones with your profile who will be attracted to you in real life.
Portraying yourself accurately in an online profile is an absolute must. Otherwise the entire system breaks down.
Robert is most likely not online to make "pen pals". He's there to actually meet women.
When he offered to fly to meet you several times and you refused, that honestly should have clued him in to the fact that you we're concerned about disappointing him.
When he is actually in New York and hoping to meet you--and you still refuse--what does he have left to go on? I'm sure he was greatly disappointed if not utterly frustrated.
So I'm hard pressed to blame him for not communicating with you further.
Now as far as Steve goes, my first thought is that if he has told you he's Robert's friend then his contact to you is with Robert's blessing.
Notwithstanding that, he must not value his friendship with Robert much. Either that or there's game-playing going on as you suspect.
But ALL of the above is really of little consequence considering the "big picture".
The heart of the matter is this: Why in the world are you searching for men in Los Angeles when you live in the largest metro area in the United States...on the opposite coast?
It really appears that your insecurity about weight is relegating your online experience to nothing more than e-mail exchanges and perhaps phone conversations that offer you the temporary butterflies of having received attention from men.
But without the intent of actually meeting anyone, you are only doing what we call "living vicariously through yourself".
Not only are you deceiving men who could mean well, you are now coming face to face with the fact that the emotions you begin to feel are very real.
You've set yourself up for heartbreak. It's as if you've "painted yourself into a corner" as the saying goes.
My encouragement to you is very simple. Simple, but perhaps not easy.
Boldly represent yourself as accurately as you can in your profile.
Take brand new pictures of yourself dressed as stylishly as you can, indoors in a naturally-lit environment.
Be sure to smile your warmest and most confident smile. Think of yourself as a celebrity posing for your "autograph picture" to be signed and handed out to your adoring fans.
And then, agree to trust that the men you attract genuinely want to meet you. Then trust yourself to have the courage to meet those men in person. And please...stick to the New York metro area (or the Tri-State area, at least).
One more very important step.
If you really do believe that you are not the best version of yourself to attract a man, make a decision right now to become that person.
Do not be passive about this, but instead take control of your life, your health and your future happiness. This is how you begin to deserve what you want and attract the kind of man you dream of...for real this time.
Have Fun,
Emily McKay
X & Y Communications
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