[X&Y Emily] More Ways Jealousy Can Creep Into Your Life...
Published: Sun, 04/05/15
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Here are three more devious ways that jealousy can make your life miserable...often before you even realize what's happened.
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MORE WAYS JEALOUSY CAN CREEP INTO YOUR LIFE
As you'll recall, last time we talked about four scenarios that tend to cause jealous feelings to arise.
It really is true that as we our experiences in life have a lasting
impact on us. Hopefully, those experiences build us up rather than leaving us damaged.
Do you let broken relationships you've had with men who turned out to be less than perfect scar you emotionally?
Or do you treat them as learning experiences that will help you recognize a better man in the future?
I believe we all want to claim the latter. And as such, it's all the more important (amazingly so, even) to root out ways jealousy can establish itself in our minds and wreak havoc on even solid relationships.
As promised, here are three more situations to look out for:
5. You Trust Your Man, But You Don't Trust Other Women:
The feeling may creep in that women are out to get your man and that he is weak enough to fall for it.
Make no mistake about it. There are women who are attracted to men who are taken and gain a thrill out of winning over another woman's guy.
But in the end, that's their problem not yours...if you are with the right man.
Most men are strong enough to see what is happening and to refuse such advances. This is especially when his emotional and physical needs are being met...by YOU.
Men who are in healthy and happy relationship do not want to jeopardize that. They're indeed as sensible and smart as you are, if you're indeed a woman who deserves what she wants and has gotten it.
In most case those type of men would be upset that a woman would try to brake up his happy life.
Make no mistake about it. There are women who are attracted to men who are taken and gain a thrill out of winning over another woman's guy.
But in the end, that's their problem not yours...if you are with the right man.
Most men are strong enough to see what is happening and to refuse such advances. This is especially when his emotional and physical needs are being met...by YOU.
Men who are in healthy and happy relationship do not want to jeopardize that. They're indeed as sensible and smart as you are, if you're indeed a woman who deserves what she wants and has gotten it.
In most case those type of men would be upset that a woman would try to brake up his happy life.
6. Settling:
If you make the mistake of feeling like he could do better than you but has "settled" then it could stand to reason that your point of view could be that he is waiting for someone better to come along.
That is a horrible feeling, isn't it?
You're left always wondering who he would rather be with, or perpetually worried that a "more perfect" woman will show up tomorrow.
The real question is, "Does he feel like he is really settling or is the reality that he indeed does see you as that great woman in his life?" If he's telling you so--or better yet acting like it's so--why not take him at face value?
He really could think you are the greatest woman he has ever met, you know.
If this is the case--and you can believe it--your way of thinking on this matter could in time push him away.
Remind yourself that he chose you over of all the other millions of women on this planet. And as a rational human being, he probably knew what he was doing.
However, if you find that he is feeling like maybe he has settled than now is the time to found out what is missing in the relationship.
Perhaps it is an easier fix than you might think.
For example, maybe he would like more excitement and more time with you.
An easy fix in that situation is to make sure you have at least one date night a month or drive to an interesting place you both have never been before every once in a while.
That is a horrible feeling, isn't it?
You're left always wondering who he would rather be with, or perpetually worried that a "more perfect" woman will show up tomorrow.
The real question is, "Does he feel like he is really settling or is the reality that he indeed does see you as that great woman in his life?" If he's telling you so--or better yet acting like it's so--why not take him at face value?
He really could think you are the greatest woman he has ever met, you know.
If this is the case--and you can believe it--your way of thinking on this matter could in time push him away.
Remind yourself that he chose you over of all the other millions of women on this planet. And as a rational human being, he probably knew what he was doing.
However, if you find that he is feeling like maybe he has settled than now is the time to found out what is missing in the relationship.
Perhaps it is an easier fix than you might think.
For example, maybe he would like more excitement and more time with you.
An easy fix in that situation is to make sure you have at least one date night a month or drive to an interesting place you both have never been before every once in a while.
7. Low Self-Esteem:
Do you ever get the feeling that another women is prettier or even better than you? I'm sure we've all been there at one time or another.
While this point is similar to the one above, it really is a separate subject unto itself.
A woman with low self-esteem by definition believes that others are better than she is.
Since we see the world though our own eyes that is how we tend to perceive the world to be in everyone else's eyes also.
So in a woman with low self-esteem's mind how can a man see her as better than she sees herself?
It's not until she can see herself the way he sees her that she can feel more secure.
Now another problem with low self-esteem is that it there are often times past experiences like we talked about above and last time that have happened.
Those experiences add to the stress of jealousy.
Unfortunately, a current boyfriend who is trustworthy and faithful can get accused of cheating based solely on unresolved issues we are dealing with.
That's not fair to him, and if you think about it it's not very fair to you either. How will you ever discover a good man if you always think the worst of every guy you meet?
While this point is similar to the one above, it really is a separate subject unto itself.
A woman with low self-esteem by definition believes that others are better than she is.
Since we see the world though our own eyes that is how we tend to perceive the world to be in everyone else's eyes also.
So in a woman with low self-esteem's mind how can a man see her as better than she sees herself?
It's not until she can see herself the way he sees her that she can feel more secure.
Now another problem with low self-esteem is that it there are often times past experiences like we talked about above and last time that have happened.
Those experiences add to the stress of jealousy.
Unfortunately, a current boyfriend who is trustworthy and faithful can get accused of cheating based solely on unresolved issues we are dealing with.
That's not fair to him, and if you think about it it's not very fair to you either. How will you ever discover a good man if you always think the worst of every guy you meet?
If you find that you are experiencing any of these issues we've covered in this newsletter and the last, then it's important to work on resolving them.
You will find that your relationship, and your life itself can only become happier.
Understanding why we are jealous is a start.
However it is not so easy to just say "stop being jealous", is it? After all, sometimes there's good reason for what we're feeling.
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