[X&Y Emily] This Brought Me To Tears...
Published: Sat, 04/08/17
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IN THIS EDITION: Today I share a story with you about what a truly
committed relationship looks like. Then, we'll discover five stepsto meeting a great man for yourself!
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BE THE WOMAN WHO ATTRACTS HIM
Complete movies and novels are written about understanding the
opposite sex.
For many, understanding how men think is the most elusive secret of
all time.
But what if someone was able to share even a few simple thoughts
that were guaranteed to make your "attraction transformation"
easier?
Well, my friend Mirabelle Summers from Meet Your Sweet has recently
cracked the code on the "secret" truth about the opposite sex, and
how to make attraction work for you.
You can get see what I mean here:
She has been busy working for the last few months on her
Attraction Transformation Series, and has gathered a few of her
most juicy gems and secrets.
By now you know that Mirabelle really understands her subject, and
best of all, you get the benefit of her wisdom at *no cost* and can
start applying this priceless info immediately.
And with all the "man bashing" going on out there, I personally find
it refreshing that Mirabelle actually ENJOYS men. That mindset
always seems to be THE KEY to attracting the kind of men who
RESPECT women.
Let's just say that Mirabelle totally GETS IT.
So if you are serious about transforming your attraction success
with men, you JUST GOTTA stop by Mirabelle's site.
I took a peek myself and it's a great read:
Let me know what you think.
And now, here's today's newsletter...and it's a REALLY good one.
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WHAT A RELATIONSHIP *SHOULD* LOOK LIKE (This
Brought Me To Tears)
Brought Me To Tears)
To get things started today, I want you to think about the kind of
relationship you want in your life as of today, and what that
relationship may look like in the distant future.
Can you envision it? Close your eyes if you need to.
Now the bigger question: Do you believe such a relationship
exists?
Better yet, do you believe such a relationship can become reality
in YOUR LIFE?
Recently I came across an article in our local newspaper that was so
touching it brought me to tears.
It was about a couple named Connie and Ike who loved each other
dearly, and had done so faithfully for many, many years.
In fact, Connie met Ike 38 years ago at a country-western dance
hall.
Ike fondly remembers their first date it was like it was yesterday.
They had talked all night until the sun came up.
It wasn't long before they were in love and married.
They raised two sons and looked forward to the day they would play
and laugh with their grandkids on the front porch of their house.
This was part of their retirement lifestyle, as they had envisioned
it.
But life took an unexpected turn along the way.
Back in 2002 Connie was diagnosed with Alzheimer's at the age of 52.
Ike retired early to take care of her.
As time went on, eventually he had to dress her and put double
locks on the door to keep her from wandering off and getting lost.
Then one day Connie lifted a picture from the shelf and gazed at it.
It was their wedding photo.
She took it to him and asked Ike who the couple was.
"Oh, that was a killer," Ike had quoted to the newspaper reporter,
his voice choking with emotion.
(I get a lump in my throat just thinking about this.)
Connie's condition worsened to the point where Ike could no longer
take care of her by himself.
Today the precious time they have together is limited to visits at
the nursing home where she now lives.
"I'm having to live for now, because there's no future," Ike says
in the article, his voiced laden with sadness. "We were planning to
retire together, to grow old together, to sit on rocking chairs and
rock them grandbabies, and it's just not going to happen now."
But there are still some bright spots, according to the article.
Connie's face often lights up when Ike walks into the special care
unit.
She seems to enjoy his shoulder rubs.
And after she has eaten and they go back to her room--which he has
decorated with colored lights--Ike puts a country-western CD on the
player.
And Connie and Ike are then able to do the one thing the fog of
Alzheimer's hasn't yet destroyed:
They dance.
After reading Connie and Ike's story I cried.
But on the lighter side, Connie has the relationship she dreamed of.
She had a happy family for as long as she was able to.
And she has a great man in her life who loves her to the point of
taking care of her despite her condition.
It made me think about how relationships are so important for
emotional and physical support.
But if you're not yet in a relationship or dating the wrong guy,
then the question is how do you change that situation and meet a
great man?
Simply put, if you don't have that relationship in your life today,
what it will take to attain it?
The first step, as basic as it sounds, is to believe that such a
man even exists.
Pronouncing that "all men are the same" (read: "no good at all") is
NOT going to draw a man to you who thinks that changing your mind
about that is a "nice challenge".
It just doesn't happen like that in the real world. The truth is
that the good men will AVOID a woman like that.
Great men know that attempting to "change" a woman typically ends
similarly to when we as women try to "change" a man!
The fact remains, however, that I personally know of lots of men
who make great life partners.
And there ARE more out there.
The second step is to make a list of at least 10 qualities you
desire in a partner with all your heart. List them in order of
importance.
Make sure any man you choose to date regularly has all 10
qualities. The time to make this list is BEFORE you get emotionally
involved with someone to the point of rationalizing away your
"dealbreakers".
The third step is to actually make yourself available to meeting him.
If you go to work and then go straight home...every day...how is he
supposed to meet you?
Get out there and do something like dancing, taking classes or
joining social groups. A key tip is to remember to smile in public
so you seem personable and therefore approachable.
Fourth, make it a goal to meet as many men as possible. This means
being open-minded to ideas as to where and how to meet men.
Fifth, go on dates. Don't do so with the intent to quiz guys and
get to know everything about them on the first date or two.
Instead, simply relax and enjoy the company of the men you meet.
Go have fun together--by going bicycling or fishing, for example.
If you click, THEN start asking some personal questions by date 3
or 4 to get to know him better.
For richer or poorer, sickness or health, Connie's husband Ike
knows the meaning of "commitment". Such men are true "knights in
shining armor", aren't they?
I'll be visiting with you again soon...
Have Fun,
Emily McKay
P.S. I believe everyone who wants a great relationship is able to
have one. Everyone should enjoy being loved and having a happy
family. It comes with not settling for just any man but finding a
great man who wants to dream of the two of you growing old together.
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