[X&Y Emily] 4 Ways To Get More Men To Approach You And Introduce Themselves
Published: Sun, 07/23/17
EMILY McKAY'S KEYS TO BLISS NEWSLETTER
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IN THIS EDITION: Here's an eye-opening insight into the minds
of men...
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IS IT REALLY MID-SUMMER...ALREADY?
Just this morning I heard back from a lovely lady who had originally
written me a few weeks ago. She had somehow begun to think dating
was a hopeless cause.
But only a couple of weeks after discovering just a few disarmingly
simple ways to represent herself as the kind of woman who naturally
and effortlessly attracts great men only, she's already on her fourth
date with a man who she may have thought was "too good to be true"
before.
All of this after she spruced up her online profile based on what
she's just discovered from Scot and I...and wouldn't you know it,
e-mails started FLOODING her inbox!
Gals, summer is in FULL SWING and love is in the air.
Don't think for a minute that guys aren't in tune with that and ready
to meet YOU.
Whether you're ready to meet the RIGHT man online, offline or BOTH,
Click With Him contains all the secrets to unveiling the very most
attractive version of your true self to the kind of man you've
always deserved:
www.clickwithhim.com/50off
One of the first things you'll notice when you click that link above
is how I talk about meeting the man of your dreams in 30 days...or
less.
The more I hear from women who have Click With Him, the more I know
how true it is that Mr. Right doesn't have to be far away...even
though sometimes that's not so easy to see.
That's why Click With Him is 100% guaranteed. If for some reason it
doesn't work for you, just email me and say so and I'll refund every
penny.
What's more, right now I've brought back my special 50% OFF promo, so
Click With Him is as easy as possible to get your hands on.
There's no coupon necessary or anything. You can even split the
payment over three months.
So what do you have to lose? Don't waste another minute thinking
about what might be or what could be...meet the kind of man you've
been really wanting to meet.
I'll share every secret with you, and you can start today:
http://www.clickwithhim.com/50off
When you get Click With Him, you can even get a f-r-e-e month of
e-mail coaching and terrific surprises from my friends and me if
you'd like. It's all yours as part of my Keys To Bliss inner
circle.
And now, let's get on to today's topic...
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ARE MEN AFRAID TO APPROACH US?
I think that most of us as women love those "movie moments", don't
we?
You know what I mean, right?
When you least expect it, a great guy appears out of nowhere and
introduces himself to you in a dashing, confident matter that takes
your breath away.
In the movies it always seems like "boy meets girl" right at the
perfect time, doesn't it?
Either they meet while walking their dogs in the park, bump into
each other in the grocery store, or end up face to face with each
other in the most romantic spot imaginable.
But in real life? Not so much. Right?
If we have guys come up to us at all, they likely just say something
quick and leave just as quickly. Isn't that kind of weird?
And, of course, getting whistled at by construction workers and/or
"hit on" by a slightly inebriated guy at a bar or two along the way
hardly count as "movie moments".
So where are all these guys we WANT to meet hiding?
Well, guess what?
They're REALLY out there.
There's just one small problem. As a group, they're generally
nothing short of TERRIFIED to talk to us.
I know what you're thinking. "Me? How could a guy be scared of
little ol' ME? After all, he's a MAN for Heaven's sake."
In fact, if you're like me, you've probably always thought that if a
guy didn't come and introduce himself, he must simply not be
interested.
Well, consider this.
According to Scot, the NUMBER ONE issue he hears from guys about is
something called "approach anxiety" in the world of men's dating
advice.
That's right: The BIGGEST DATING CONCERN guys tend to have is that
they are paralyzed by fear of rejection when they see a woman who
they find attractive.
Make no mistake...they WISH they could talk to us. But they're
AFRAID we'll REJECT them.
Scot says that at least 90-95% of all guys out there generally
avoid introducing themselves to women--even when they very much
WANT TO.
Further, even if they DO succeed at approaching us, they ALMOST NEVER
find the courage to actually ask for our phone number...even if the
conversation GOES WELL.
Well, that explains a lot, doesn't it? Like why the Homecoming Queen
back in high school didn't have a date to the prom.
Maybe it's all those bad TV commercials where the girls laugh at
a guy when he tries a "cheesy pickup line"...if they don't throw
they're drink on him in disgust.
You really can't blame a guy for wanting to avoid that.
Yet, I think the TRUTH is that most of us are more that happy to
respond to a man who approaches us in a tasteful, dignified manner
in a friendly, cordial way, aren't we?
I know I certainly have never thrown a glass of Chardonnay at a guy
just for saying "hello"!
So what's a girl to do about all this?
We want guys to be man enough to introduce themselves to us.
Going around starting all the conversations ourselves just doesn't
seem like much of a "movie moment" by comparison, does it?
Well...now that we know what's REALLY going on, here are a few simple
but very powerful hints for maximizing your chances of actually
having a good guy approach you and say "hello".
Follow these steps and it'll go far toward instilling that extra
boost of confidence a guy may need to do exactly that:
1) BE APPROACHABLE, LOOK FRIENDLY
If a woman is stone-faced--or worse, wearing a scowl instead of a
smile--I can't really blame any guy for staying away.
The next time you are out and about, pay careful attention to how
you are presenting yourself to the world. Is your countenance
welcoming to others, or telling them to keep their distance?
2) INTERACT WITH THOSE AROUND YOU
If you are actually talking to others--and seeming like a reasonable,
friendly human being in the process--that goes a long way toward
cluing a guy in that starting a conversation with you may be a
pleasant experience for him also.
Now granted, if you are in a meeting and/or engaged in a heavy-duty
conversation with five of your girlfriends you can't really expect
a guy to interrupt. That would be rude, anyway.
What I'm referring to here is more in line with day-to-day
interactions with waitstaff, the teller at the bank or the lady at
the grocery store checkout.
If you seem friendly in those situations, THAT'S what will really
cause a guy to take notice and feel comfortable talking to you also!
3) SLOW DOWN
My goodness...if you are always in a rush to be somewhere how's a
guy supposed to get a word in edgewise?
I realize life is hectic, but if you are SO busy, busy, busy all the
time then a guy's going to get a strong message that you just cannot
be "bothered".
If you can, relax and take time to smell the roses when you are
going about your daily errands or out on your lunch hour.
If you can pause and take a deep breath while waiting for your latte
in the morning, don't be surprised when guys suddenly start striking
up conversations more often.
4) SEND A SUBTLE HINT
OK, I understand not wanting to be "forward" or "aggressive". And
yes, I've always preferred for guys to take the lead in first-time
conversations myself.
But you CAN smile when he makes eye contact with you. You CAN move
a bit closer to a guy you'd like to get the attention of. And YES,
you can EVEN ask him for the time and see if he makes a conversation
of it.
Be INTERESTING, and he'll be INTERESTED. You don't have to be a
"wallflower"!
Based on what we hear from guys here at X & Y Communications, MOST
truly wish that women would indeed make themselves more approachable.
Men almost unanimously agree that were women to do so more often,
they'd be much more likely to approach.
So it all comes down to the simple fact that we as women REALLY CAN
make a big, big difference when it comes to encouraging great men
to introduce themselves.
The only question that really remains is: Do you WANT more "movie
moments" in your life?
The choice is yours...more than you may have ever realized.
As always, be sure to send your letters to me at:
=====
IN THIS EDITION: Here's an eye-opening insight into the minds
of men...
=====
IS IT REALLY MID-SUMMER...ALREADY?
Just this morning I heard back from a lovely lady who had originally
written me a few weeks ago. She had somehow begun to think dating
was a hopeless cause.
But only a couple of weeks after discovering just a few disarmingly
simple ways to represent herself as the kind of woman who naturally
and effortlessly attracts great men only, she's already on her fourth
date with a man who she may have thought was "too good to be true"
before.
All of this after she spruced up her online profile based on what
she's just discovered from Scot and I...and wouldn't you know it,
e-mails started FLOODING her inbox!
Gals, summer is in FULL SWING and love is in the air.
Don't think for a minute that guys aren't in tune with that and ready
to meet YOU.
Whether you're ready to meet the RIGHT man online, offline or BOTH,
Click With Him contains all the secrets to unveiling the very most
attractive version of your true self to the kind of man you've
always deserved:
www.clickwithhim.com/50off
One of the first things you'll notice when you click that link above
is how I talk about meeting the man of your dreams in 30 days...or
less.
The more I hear from women who have Click With Him, the more I know
how true it is that Mr. Right doesn't have to be far away...even
though sometimes that's not so easy to see.
That's why Click With Him is 100% guaranteed. If for some reason it
doesn't work for you, just email me and say so and I'll refund every
penny.
What's more, right now I've brought back my special 50% OFF promo, so
Click With Him is as easy as possible to get your hands on.
There's no coupon necessary or anything. You can even split the
payment over three months.
So what do you have to lose? Don't waste another minute thinking
about what might be or what could be...meet the kind of man you've
been really wanting to meet.
I'll share every secret with you, and you can start today:
http://www.clickwithhim.com/50off
When you get Click With Him, you can even get a f-r-e-e month of
e-mail coaching and terrific surprises from my friends and me if
you'd like. It's all yours as part of my Keys To Bliss inner
circle.
And now, let's get on to today's topic...
=====
ARE MEN AFRAID TO APPROACH US?
I think that most of us as women love those "movie moments", don't
we?
You know what I mean, right?
When you least expect it, a great guy appears out of nowhere and
introduces himself to you in a dashing, confident matter that takes
your breath away.
In the movies it always seems like "boy meets girl" right at the
perfect time, doesn't it?
Either they meet while walking their dogs in the park, bump into
each other in the grocery store, or end up face to face with each
other in the most romantic spot imaginable.
But in real life? Not so much. Right?
If we have guys come up to us at all, they likely just say something
quick and leave just as quickly. Isn't that kind of weird?
And, of course, getting whistled at by construction workers and/or
"hit on" by a slightly inebriated guy at a bar or two along the way
hardly count as "movie moments".
So where are all these guys we WANT to meet hiding?
Well, guess what?
They're REALLY out there.
There's just one small problem. As a group, they're generally
nothing short of TERRIFIED to talk to us.
I know what you're thinking. "Me? How could a guy be scared of
little ol' ME? After all, he's a MAN for Heaven's sake."
In fact, if you're like me, you've probably always thought that if a
guy didn't come and introduce himself, he must simply not be
interested.
Well, consider this.
According to Scot, the NUMBER ONE issue he hears from guys about is
something called "approach anxiety" in the world of men's dating
advice.
That's right: The BIGGEST DATING CONCERN guys tend to have is that
they are paralyzed by fear of rejection when they see a woman who
they find attractive.
Make no mistake...they WISH they could talk to us. But they're
AFRAID we'll REJECT them.
Scot says that at least 90-95% of all guys out there generally
avoid introducing themselves to women--even when they very much
WANT TO.
Further, even if they DO succeed at approaching us, they ALMOST NEVER
find the courage to actually ask for our phone number...even if the
conversation GOES WELL.
Well, that explains a lot, doesn't it? Like why the Homecoming Queen
back in high school didn't have a date to the prom.
Maybe it's all those bad TV commercials where the girls laugh at
a guy when he tries a "cheesy pickup line"...if they don't throw
they're drink on him in disgust.
You really can't blame a guy for wanting to avoid that.
Yet, I think the TRUTH is that most of us are more that happy to
respond to a man who approaches us in a tasteful, dignified manner
in a friendly, cordial way, aren't we?
I know I certainly have never thrown a glass of Chardonnay at a guy
just for saying "hello"!
So what's a girl to do about all this?
We want guys to be man enough to introduce themselves to us.
Going around starting all the conversations ourselves just doesn't
seem like much of a "movie moment" by comparison, does it?
Well...now that we know what's REALLY going on, here are a few simple
but very powerful hints for maximizing your chances of actually
having a good guy approach you and say "hello".
Follow these steps and it'll go far toward instilling that extra
boost of confidence a guy may need to do exactly that:
1) BE APPROACHABLE, LOOK FRIENDLY
If a woman is stone-faced--or worse, wearing a scowl instead of a
smile--I can't really blame any guy for staying away.
The next time you are out and about, pay careful attention to how
you are presenting yourself to the world. Is your countenance
welcoming to others, or telling them to keep their distance?
2) INTERACT WITH THOSE AROUND YOU
If you are actually talking to others--and seeming like a reasonable,
friendly human being in the process--that goes a long way toward
cluing a guy in that starting a conversation with you may be a
pleasant experience for him also.
Now granted, if you are in a meeting and/or engaged in a heavy-duty
conversation with five of your girlfriends you can't really expect
a guy to interrupt. That would be rude, anyway.
What I'm referring to here is more in line with day-to-day
interactions with waitstaff, the teller at the bank or the lady at
the grocery store checkout.
If you seem friendly in those situations, THAT'S what will really
cause a guy to take notice and feel comfortable talking to you also!
3) SLOW DOWN
My goodness...if you are always in a rush to be somewhere how's a
guy supposed to get a word in edgewise?
I realize life is hectic, but if you are SO busy, busy, busy all the
time then a guy's going to get a strong message that you just cannot
be "bothered".
If you can, relax and take time to smell the roses when you are
going about your daily errands or out on your lunch hour.
If you can pause and take a deep breath while waiting for your latte
in the morning, don't be surprised when guys suddenly start striking
up conversations more often.
4) SEND A SUBTLE HINT
OK, I understand not wanting to be "forward" or "aggressive". And
yes, I've always preferred for guys to take the lead in first-time
conversations myself.
But you CAN smile when he makes eye contact with you. You CAN move
a bit closer to a guy you'd like to get the attention of. And YES,
you can EVEN ask him for the time and see if he makes a conversation
of it.
Be INTERESTING, and he'll be INTERESTED. You don't have to be a
"wallflower"!
Based on what we hear from guys here at X & Y Communications, MOST
truly wish that women would indeed make themselves more approachable.
Men almost unanimously agree that were women to do so more often,
they'd be much more likely to approach.
So it all comes down to the simple fact that we as women REALLY CAN
make a big, big difference when it comes to encouraging great men
to introduce themselves.
The only question that really remains is: Do you WANT more "movie
moments" in your life?
The choice is yours...more than you may have ever realized.
As always, be sure to send your letters to me at:
Your question may be answered right here in this newsletter!
I'll talk to you again soon.
Have Fun,
Emily McKay
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