[X&Y Emily] How Quickly Can A Man Fall In Love?
Published: Sun, 11/12/17
EMILY McKAY'S KEYS TO BLISS NEWSLETTER
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IN THIS EDITION: Can a man really fall in love quickly? Or could he
have ulterior motives for saying those "three little words"?
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COULD HE REALLY BE IN LOVE ALREADY?
Hey Emily,
I hope things are going great for you with Scot and your kids.
I met this guy and I ended up spending three whole days with him
after which he said he loved me.
After the three days I had to move to a different city and it has
been three weeks since we met in person.
We talk regularly on the phone and he says he can't sleep at night
without hearing the sound of my voice.
He seems pretty nice so far.
My question is this - can a guy actually fall for a woman that fast?
I've always heard that men take time to think in terms of a
relationship.
I might go back to this place and the guy says that if I do he will
be with me and only me and no other girl.
It's just so fast and I'm so confused.
Also, should I wait for sex and if I do then, how long? We've
already been a bit physical.
Lastly, I'm a virgin. I'm twenty-three, the guy's twenty-five.
He says that men find virgins more appealing than women who sleep
around and that men respect virgins. Is this true?
Any insight on these matters would be greatly appreciated. Have a
great weekend!
With warm regards,
Abha (Bangalore, India)
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Hello Abha,
Thank you so much for writing me. The family is doing great.
Junior is in fourth grade already and Sarah is almost six. Where
does the time go? :-)
I trust you're starting to get some cooler weather in your
beautiful country. We've visited there and were really amazed.
Well, you've asked some really great questions.
First of all, can a man fall in love quickly?
Sometimes people know what they want and have solid intuition about
and good intentions for the people they meet.
That means they can validate good choices and let their emotions
run wild rather rapidly.
However, it's also true that a man who has trouble finding a woman
to like him could also fall VERY hard VERY fast once he finally
gets a girlfriend, couldn't he?
In that scenario, however, it's as likely that he'd be acting on
desperation as true "love", doing whatever you want in an attempt
to keep his girlfriend around.
For most women, that's a major psychological factor in feeling like
they are "settling".
And let's not forget that some men out there are unscrupulous and
will say what they believe you want to hear in order to bed you.
Unfortunately, that can often include the "three little words".
Considering you're a virgin, you may very well spark the fantasies
of guys like this in exactly the way you'd most want to avoid.
Here is the real point, though, no matter what.
Three days is NEVER enough to really know what kind of man this is.
Besides, REAL love comes from getting to know someone over a period
of time.
You can indeed have a very good feeling about someone within a
short amount of time, but that level of sound judgment comes from
having dated lots and therefore knowing from experience exactly what
you want from a man.
But ironically, that same level of experience will ALSO tell you
that both men and women should take time to think about getting
into a relationship.
Too many people let themselves fall in love too quickly with
someone who is just not a good match for them.
My question to you is, "What do YOU really think about him?"
Your emotions matter every bit as much as his, remember.
You never said that you have feelings for him, which I found
conspicuously absent given the rest of the subject matter of your
message.
Is the fact that he said he loves you ALONE what caught your
interest?
Your virginity should be special to you.
When you decide to have sex for the first time it should be based
on want YOU want, not what a man thinks or said.
And yes, some men will key in on your virginity, considering it a
challenge or even a particularly satisfying sexual conquest to go
after.
So with that said, don't take your virginity lightly in the least.
You're 23 years old, and if you are more comfortable waiting for
the right guy who has through time and action proven to you that he
is committed to you, that's a solid plan.
A respectable man will appreciate that and never pressure you. He
will understand that you want to wait for the right man and time.
By the way, have you considered finding someone closer to where
you live?
As we talk about often in this newsletter, it's so much easier
to get to know someone more naturally that way without letting
so much water slip under the bridge.
When I was single, I met several men who believe they loved me and
wanted to marry me. But that was not good enough. I wanted the
right man--a great one who was my match.
You will meet the right man as long as you don't settle for the
first man who says he loves you or wants to marry you.
I wish you the best in life. Have fun out there dating and meeting
some great men who will honor and respect you as you deserve!
Have Fun,
Emily McKay
=====
Decoding a man's behavior and finding out quickly what his true
intentions are is incredibly important.
Even if you are a high-quality woman who deserves a great man, you
STILL have to know how to recognize the kind of man who is right for
you and weed out the wrong ones.
After all, that's HALF of what deserving what you want is all about.
In the Women's Edition of Scot's book Deserve What You Want, he
shows you ALL ABOUT what it takes to know what you DON'T WANT so that
you can make empowered decisions:
http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com/women
Getting a guy's perspective on all of this is GOLDEN. And what's
more, now he's got the AUDIO version for you along with the e-book
so you can hear him TELL YOU all of his secrets and really hear the
passion and meaning in his voice.
And of course, you can expect to discover everything you'll need to
know about how to attract a high-quality man, and what exactly to
do to make him TRULY want to stay with YOU and ONLY YOU forever once
you find him.
Right now, I've added some really fun bonuses, too. Read about it
all here:
http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com/women
Thanks as always for reading, ladies. Remember I LOVE to hear from
you so keep your e-mails coming!
Have Fun,
Emily McKay
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=====
IN THIS EDITION: Can a man really fall in love quickly? Or could he
have ulterior motives for saying those "three little words"?
=====
COULD HE REALLY BE IN LOVE ALREADY?
Hey Emily,
I hope things are going great for you with Scot and your kids.
I met this guy and I ended up spending three whole days with him
after which he said he loved me.
After the three days I had to move to a different city and it has
been three weeks since we met in person.
We talk regularly on the phone and he says he can't sleep at night
without hearing the sound of my voice.
He seems pretty nice so far.
My question is this - can a guy actually fall for a woman that fast?
I've always heard that men take time to think in terms of a
relationship.
I might go back to this place and the guy says that if I do he will
be with me and only me and no other girl.
It's just so fast and I'm so confused.
Also, should I wait for sex and if I do then, how long? We've
already been a bit physical.
Lastly, I'm a virgin. I'm twenty-three, the guy's twenty-five.
He says that men find virgins more appealing than women who sleep
around and that men respect virgins. Is this true?
Any insight on these matters would be greatly appreciated. Have a
great weekend!
With warm regards,
Abha (Bangalore, India)
=====
Hello Abha,
Thank you so much for writing me. The family is doing great.
Junior is in fourth grade already and Sarah is almost six. Where
does the time go? :-)
I trust you're starting to get some cooler weather in your
beautiful country. We've visited there and were really amazed.
Well, you've asked some really great questions.
First of all, can a man fall in love quickly?
Sometimes people know what they want and have solid intuition about
and good intentions for the people they meet.
That means they can validate good choices and let their emotions
run wild rather rapidly.
However, it's also true that a man who has trouble finding a woman
to like him could also fall VERY hard VERY fast once he finally
gets a girlfriend, couldn't he?
In that scenario, however, it's as likely that he'd be acting on
desperation as true "love", doing whatever you want in an attempt
to keep his girlfriend around.
For most women, that's a major psychological factor in feeling like
they are "settling".
And let's not forget that some men out there are unscrupulous and
will say what they believe you want to hear in order to bed you.
Unfortunately, that can often include the "three little words".
Considering you're a virgin, you may very well spark the fantasies
of guys like this in exactly the way you'd most want to avoid.
Here is the real point, though, no matter what.
Three days is NEVER enough to really know what kind of man this is.
Besides, REAL love comes from getting to know someone over a period
of time.
You can indeed have a very good feeling about someone within a
short amount of time, but that level of sound judgment comes from
having dated lots and therefore knowing from experience exactly what
you want from a man.
But ironically, that same level of experience will ALSO tell you
that both men and women should take time to think about getting
into a relationship.
Too many people let themselves fall in love too quickly with
someone who is just not a good match for them.
My question to you is, "What do YOU really think about him?"
Your emotions matter every bit as much as his, remember.
You never said that you have feelings for him, which I found
conspicuously absent given the rest of the subject matter of your
message.
Is the fact that he said he loves you ALONE what caught your
interest?
Your virginity should be special to you.
When you decide to have sex for the first time it should be based
on want YOU want, not what a man thinks or said.
And yes, some men will key in on your virginity, considering it a
challenge or even a particularly satisfying sexual conquest to go
after.
So with that said, don't take your virginity lightly in the least.
You're 23 years old, and if you are more comfortable waiting for
the right guy who has through time and action proven to you that he
is committed to you, that's a solid plan.
A respectable man will appreciate that and never pressure you. He
will understand that you want to wait for the right man and time.
By the way, have you considered finding someone closer to where
you live?
As we talk about often in this newsletter, it's so much easier
to get to know someone more naturally that way without letting
so much water slip under the bridge.
When I was single, I met several men who believe they loved me and
wanted to marry me. But that was not good enough. I wanted the
right man--a great one who was my match.
You will meet the right man as long as you don't settle for the
first man who says he loves you or wants to marry you.
I wish you the best in life. Have fun out there dating and meeting
some great men who will honor and respect you as you deserve!
Have Fun,
Emily McKay
=====
Decoding a man's behavior and finding out quickly what his true
intentions are is incredibly important.
Even if you are a high-quality woman who deserves a great man, you
STILL have to know how to recognize the kind of man who is right for
you and weed out the wrong ones.
After all, that's HALF of what deserving what you want is all about.
In the Women's Edition of Scot's book Deserve What You Want, he
shows you ALL ABOUT what it takes to know what you DON'T WANT so that
you can make empowered decisions:
http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com/women
Getting a guy's perspective on all of this is GOLDEN. And what's
more, now he's got the AUDIO version for you along with the e-book
so you can hear him TELL YOU all of his secrets and really hear the
passion and meaning in his voice.
And of course, you can expect to discover everything you'll need to
know about how to attract a high-quality man, and what exactly to
do to make him TRULY want to stay with YOU and ONLY YOU forever once
you find him.
Right now, I've added some really fun bonuses, too. Read about it
all here:
http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com/women
Thanks as always for reading, ladies. Remember I LOVE to hear from
you so keep your e-mails coming!
Have Fun,
Emily McKay
=====
Did a friend forward you this message? To receive this free
newsletter on finding the right man online OR offline from X & Y
Communications on a regular basis, simply go to:
http://www.keystobliss.com
...and sign up. Or, just email emily@aweber.com. Easy stuff.
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2017. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please use the
link below to securely remove yourself from our mailing list.