[X&Y Emily] More Ways Jealousy Can Creep Into Your Life...
Published: Thu, 03/25/10
EMILY McKAY'S KEYS TO BLISS NEWSLETTER
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Here are three more devious ways that jealousy can make your life miserable...often before you even realize what's happened.
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Here are three more devious ways that jealousy can make your life miserable...often before you even realize what's happened.
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A PRESENT FOR YOU FROM NEW ZEALAND
Well, Scot and I just returned from a fun trip to New Zealand and we brought back something special for YOU.
No...it's not one of those shirts that say "My friend went to New Zealand, and all I got was this t-shirt!"
It's much better than that.
While we were visiting that beautiful country, we had the chance to spend time with our friends from Meet Your Sweet...who just so happen to live there.
Well, one night over drinks we were having so much fun talking about how much we all think alike when it comes to dating and attraction that Mirabelle Summers came up with a great idea.
"Hey Emily, why don't we give all of your subscribers that 6-part mini-course that shares all of our secrets for attracting great men?", she said.
Far be it from me to refuse such generosity...especially when YOU'RE the one who stands to benefit from it, right?
So all you have to do is click on the link below and tell her which e-mail address to send the course to:
A Gift For You
But that's not all. On the next page you'll discover Mirabelle's "magnum opus": The Get A Guy Guide.
It is a complete guide that teaches you how to enjoy close, heart-felt connection with the kinds of great guys most women think either don't exist or are out of their league.
We're talking about the men who not only exude power and charisma, but who also want the strong, committed, genuine relationship you have always fantasized about!
The Get A Guy Guide
Now usually The Get A Guy Guide goes for $99.95...and lots of women all over the world have gladly paid that amount for it. And they've raved about their results (as you'll soon see).
But Mirabelle said she'd give it to the first 50 women reading this newsletter who snap up their copy for just $37.
And YES...all the great bonuses are still included. See for yourself and I'm sure you'll agree that The Get A Guy Guide is one incredible way to put "spring fever" into full effect and finally meet the man of your dreams:
Mirabelle's 6-Part Mini Course
No matter what, definitely make it a point to accept Mirabelle's generous gift--her 6-part mini course called "Secrets To Attracting Men". It's the first thing you'll see when you click that link above.
And now, as promised, here are those other three ways that jealousy can wreak havoc on your life...but only if you let it.
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MORE WAYS JEALOUSY CAN CREEP INTO YOUR LIFE
As you'll recall, last time we talked about four scenarios that tend to cause jealous feelings to arise.
It really is true that as we our experiences in life have a lasting
impact on us. Hopefully, those experiences build us up rather than leaving us damaged.
Do you let broken relationships you've had with men who turned out to be less than perfect scar you emotionally?
Or do you treat them as learning experiences that will help you recognize a better man in the future?
I believe we all want to claim the latter. And as such, it's all the more important (amazingly so, even) to root out ways jealousy can establish itself in our minds and wreak havoc on even solid relationships.
As promised, here are three more situations to look out for:
5. You Trust Your Man, But You Don't Trust Other Women:
Well, Scot and I just returned from a fun trip to New Zealand and we brought back something special for YOU.
No...it's not one of those shirts that say "My friend went to New Zealand, and all I got was this t-shirt!"
It's much better than that.
While we were visiting that beautiful country, we had the chance to spend time with our friends from Meet Your Sweet...who just so happen to live there.
Well, one night over drinks we were having so much fun talking about how much we all think alike when it comes to dating and attraction that Mirabelle Summers came up with a great idea.
"Hey Emily, why don't we give all of your subscribers that 6-part mini-course that shares all of our secrets for attracting great men?", she said.
Far be it from me to refuse such generosity...especially when YOU'RE the one who stands to benefit from it, right?
So all you have to do is click on the link below and tell her which e-mail address to send the course to:
A Gift For You
But that's not all. On the next page you'll discover Mirabelle's "magnum opus": The Get A Guy Guide.
It is a complete guide that teaches you how to enjoy close, heart-felt connection with the kinds of great guys most women think either don't exist or are out of their league.
We're talking about the men who not only exude power and charisma, but who also want the strong, committed, genuine relationship you have always fantasized about!
The Get A Guy Guide
Now usually The Get A Guy Guide goes for $99.95...and lots of women all over the world have gladly paid that amount for it. And they've raved about their results (as you'll soon see).
But Mirabelle said she'd give it to the first 50 women reading this newsletter who snap up their copy for just $37.
And YES...all the great bonuses are still included. See for yourself and I'm sure you'll agree that The Get A Guy Guide is one incredible way to put "spring fever" into full effect and finally meet the man of your dreams:
Mirabelle's 6-Part Mini Course
No matter what, definitely make it a point to accept Mirabelle's generous gift--her 6-part mini course called "Secrets To Attracting Men". It's the first thing you'll see when you click that link above.
And now, as promised, here are those other three ways that jealousy can wreak havoc on your life...but only if you let it.
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MORE WAYS JEALOUSY CAN CREEP INTO YOUR LIFE
As you'll recall, last time we talked about four scenarios that tend to cause jealous feelings to arise.
It really is true that as we our experiences in life have a lasting
impact on us. Hopefully, those experiences build us up rather than leaving us damaged.
Do you let broken relationships you've had with men who turned out to be less than perfect scar you emotionally?
Or do you treat them as learning experiences that will help you recognize a better man in the future?
I believe we all want to claim the latter. And as such, it's all the more important (amazingly so, even) to root out ways jealousy can establish itself in our minds and wreak havoc on even solid relationships.
As promised, here are three more situations to look out for:
5. You Trust Your Man, But You Don't Trust Other Women:
The feeling may creep in that women are out to get your man and that he is weak enough to fall for it.
Make no mistake about it. There are women who are attracted to men who are taken and gain a thrill out of winning over another woman's guy.
But in the end, that's their problem not yours...if you are with the right man.
Most men are strong enough to see what is happening and to refuse such advances. This is especially when his emotional and physical needs are being met...by YOU.
Men who are in healthy and happy relationship do not want to jeopardize that. They're indeed as sensible andsmart as you are, if you're indeed a woman who deserves what she wants and has gotten it.
In most case those type of men would be upset that a woman would try to brake up his happy life.
Make no mistake about it. There are women who are attracted to men who are taken and gain a thrill out of winning over another woman's guy.
But in the end, that's their problem not yours...if you are with the right man.
Most men are strong enough to see what is happening and to refuse such advances. This is especially when his emotional and physical needs are being met...by YOU.
Men who are in healthy and happy relationship do not want to jeopardize that. They're indeed as sensible and
In most case those type of men would be upset that a woman would try to brake up his happy life.
6. Settling:
If you make the mistake of feeling like he could do better than you but has "settled" then it could stand to reason that your point of view could be that he is waiting for someone better to come along.
That is a horrible feeling, isn't it?
You're left always wondering who he would rather be with, or perpetually worried that a "more perfect" woman will show up tomorrow.
The real question is, "Does he feel like he is really settling or is the reality that he indeed does see you as that great woman in his life?" If he's telling you so--or better yet acting like it's so--why not take him at face value?
He really could think you are the greatest woman he has ever met, you know.
If this is the case--and you can believe it--your way of thinking on this matter could in time push him away.
Remind yourself that he chose you over of all the other millions of women on this planet. And as a rational human being, he probably knew what he was doing.
However, if you find that he is feeling like maybe he has settled than now is the time to found out what is missing in the relationship.
Perhaps it is an easier fix than you might think.
For example, maybe he would like more excitement and more time with you.
An easy fix in that situation is to make sure you have at least one date night a month or drive to an interesting place you both have never been before every once in a while.
That is a horrible feeling, isn't it?
You're left always wondering who he would rather be with, or perpetually worried that a "more perfect" woman will show up tomorrow.
The real question is, "Does he feel like he is really settling or is the reality that he indeed does see you as that great woman in his life?" If he's telling you so--or better yet acting like it's so--why not take him at face value?
He really could think you are the greatest woman he has ever met, you know.
If this is the case--and you can believe it--your way of thinking on this matter could in time push him away.
Remind yourself that he chose you over of all the other millions of women on this planet. And as a rational human being, he probably knew what he was doing.
However, if you find that he is feeling like maybe he has settled than now is the time to found out what is missing in the relationship.
Perhaps it is an easier fix than you might think.
For example, maybe he would like more excitement and more time with you.
An easy fix in that situation is to make sure you have at least one date night a month or drive to an interesting place you both have never been before every once in a while.
7. Low Self-Esteem:
Do you ever get the feeling that another women is prettier or even better than you? I'm sure we've all been there at one time or another.
While this point is similar to the one above, it really is a separate subject unto itself.
A woman with low self-esteem by definition believes that others are better than she is.
Since we see the world though our own eyes that is how we tend to perceive the world to be in everyone else's eyes also.
So in a woman with low self-esteem's mind how can a man see her as better than she sees herself?
It's not until she can see herself the way he sees her that she can feel more secure.
Now another problem with low self-esteem is that it there are often times past experiences like we talked about above and last time that have happened.
Those experiences add to the stress of jealousy.
Unfortunately, a current boyfriend who is trustworthy and faithful can get accused of cheating based solely on unresolved issues we are dealing with.
That's not fair to him, and if you think about it it's not very fair to you either. How will you ever discover a good man if you always think the worst of every guy you meet?
While this point is similar to the one above, it really is a separate subject unto itself.
A woman with low self-esteem by definition believes that others are better than she is.
Since we see the world though our own eyes that is how we tend to perceive the world to be in everyone else's eyes also.
So in a woman with low self-esteem's mind how can a man see her as better than she sees herself?
It's not until she can see herself the way he sees her that she can feel more secure.
Now another problem with low self-esteem is that it there are often times past experiences like we talked about above and last time that have happened.
Those experiences add to the stress of jealousy.
Unfortunately, a current boyfriend who is trustworthy and faithful can get accused of cheating based solely on unresolved issues we are dealing with.
That's not fair to him, and if you think about it it's not very fair to you either. How will you ever discover a good man if you always think the worst of every guy you meet?
If you find that you are experiencing any of these issues we've covered in this newsletter and the last, then it's important to work on resolving them.
You will find that your relationship, and your life itself can only become happier.
Understanding why we are jealous is a start.
However it is not so easy to just say "stop being jealous", is it? After all, sometimes there's good reason for what we're feeling.
In our next newsletter, part 4, we'll discuss when feelings of jealousy are well-founded and signal very real problems that you should be ready to deal with.
Have Fun,
Emily McKay
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