[X&Y Emily] Motherhood Is Hot
Published: Thu, 10/21/10
EMILY McKAY'S KEYS TO BLISS NEWSLETTER
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Have you had a baby or two and don't see the same
woman in the mirror now as you did before? If you're not a mama just yet, does it scare you that you might not
be as sexy to guys as you used to be when you become a Mom someday?
Well...what if I told you that everything might be just fine. The
truth is that more guys than you think find motherhood a TURN ON...
even while you're actually pregnant. Read on...
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What you're about to read is one of the first newsletters Scot ever
sent to his subscribers, back when there were still under fifty of
them--and they were mostly women.
I found this while searching through the archives and mentioned it
to Scot. He told me that several gals e-mailed him back saying
they shed tears of joy having read it.
Since I haven't written you in a while, I wanted to make sure to
really brighten your day--especially all of you single moms out
there.
No doubt, Scot talks like a total guy for sure...but there's a certain
genuine appreciation for femininity in there that's sure to make you
smile. And would we really want it any other way?
Pour yourself a nice cup of tea, sit back, relax and thoroughly
enjoy what follows...
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MOTHERHOOD IS HOT
I can't believe the mixed-messages our media-driven society sends
regarding today's topic. If you watch daytime television or
Lifetime Network (which I don't, whenever possible) you'll be hit
with commercials depicting some hot mommies doing their typical
superhuman things, including dealing with several toddlers while
looking good doing it.
Then, watch late-night television (which I also don't, whenever
possible) and you'll be hit with infomercials designed to make
women feel self-conscious about what motherhood has allegedly done
to wreak havoc upon their physical appearance.
Whatever. You know by now how I feel about what the media has done
to screw up our concept of what really is attractive to the
opposite sex. So make no mistake about it. Motherhood can be, and
I would argue usually is, incredibly sexy. In just about every way.
The low hanging fruit here (no, not that) is the rise of MILFdom in
recent years. If you are unfamiliar with the term look it up
elsewhere, but for all intents and purposes MILF = sexy mom.
For some reason, and a good one, even younger guys have figured out
that Stacey's Mom Has Got It Going On. That's no joke either. If
you are a 35 year old woman with an online profile, you might be
getting "messages" from younguns who haven't even cleared college
age yet.
No, this isn't some weird (and recurring) software error. They're
digging you.
I have personally been out with several women in their thirties who
had daughters at a very young age. These kids are now in high
school. Each mama had a story to tell when I asked if there's ever
an issue when their daughters' little boy friends meet mom.
Um...yeah. One woman even has a pact with her daughter that they
won't date anyone closer in age to the other than themselves.
Hilarious, but true.
How about before a woman has even given birth--during her pregnancy?
Yeah ladies, we know...us guys hear all the time about how "fat,
etc." you are getting. You feel disgusting.
Well, you aren't. ESPECIALLY to the Dad.
Now we aren't talking about man-boy Idiot/Jerks (I/Js) here who
either 1) are using a woman's pending new family commitment (and
the fact that presumably she wouldn't dare leave him while in that
"condition") as an excuse to throw down with every chickie babe
silly enough to let him have a piece, or... 2) ...who are just flat out
morons.
Mama, if your man loves you, he loves you pregnant. When he tells
you that you are beautiful, will you please believe it? That's his
kid going on in there! In fact, some guys are turned on by
pregnant women in general, and there are Web sites to prove it.
If you look at scientific studies on how heterosexual men and women
become attracted to one another, it's often based very much on
archetypal responses to pointers of fertility.
I mean, let's face it: sexual attraction, from the natural aspect,
comes down to procreation. She or he who is more fertile is more
attractive. Fertility and gene-pool quality (which is another
topic altogether) are what make us attractive to the opposite
gender a lot of the time.
So here it is--if you are a mom already, it makes sense that your
proven fertility is going to make you attractive to men. If you
want to argue with me on this, go for it, but I believe very
strongly that this is the case. At the very least, men often are
not turned off by the physical effects of pregnancy like women
somehow seem to believe.
On top of all else, don't be surprised that many guys--if they are
man enough to admit it--actually have no issue with the stretch
marks and any other evidence that you have been pregnant before. I
personally believe that caesarian scars are sexy. And I'm not
weird.
So is this only all about looking good? I really don't think so.
There is something about motherhood that changes a woman. Not all
guys understand this pragmatically, but many respond positively to
such things--even if subconsciously.
We've talked recently about how sexy confidence is. I know, "Yeah,
yeah..." But still, moms tend to learn life's tough lessons about
responsibility. Especially single moms. Any guy who wants to find
an amazing woman--one with a confident attitude to take on the world
with--should hang out with a single mom or two. 'Nuff said.
And, you know what? It might not hurt to add how fatherhood tends
to be a turn on for women also, especially...moms. Big surprise
there, right? Have you ever noticed that moms and dads really tend
to appreciate each other--and at the raw attraction level? Yeah,
well, I'm a Dad...and I absolutely have.
Be good,
Scot McKay
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Now whether you're a mama nowadays or not, if you'd like to meet a
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But here's the thing. In order to make sure you attract THOSE guys
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ones.
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I'll be writing to you again soon. Next time I'll have a very
special conversation with one of my good friends that you won't
want to miss...
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