[X&Y] Should You Take Back An Ex-Boyfriend?
Published: Sat, 02/25/12
EMILY McKAY'S KEYS TO BLISS NEWSLETTER
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IN THIS EDITION: You're the one who broke up with him. But a year's
a long time and he wants to come back. Should you take him?
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SHOULD YOU TAKE BACK AN EX-BOYFRIEND?
Hello Emily:
I broke up with my boyfriend of almost two years. He has been
trying to get back together, however I realize that he is very
controlling.
That is the main reason I broke up with him. Yet somehow I am NOT
getting over him.
All my girlfriends have told me to quit taking his calls, or reading
his texts, but of course I give in and do just that.
Now he is wanting to go out again - he'll take me to the nice
restaurant he always refused to go to for two years.
I'm so confused and hurt. Please help?!
Corina (Council Bluffs, IA)
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Hello, Corina. I'm so glad you wrote me.
I'll tell you, there are a LOT of women who find themselves in a
situation very similar to yours at one point or another in their
lives.
To spell it out for you from the very beginning, I have to agree
with your girlfriends on this one.
And to be honest, I'm not at all surprised that the feedback from
your friends has been unanimous. You obviously have some great
friends who care about you deeply.
The difference between you and them, however, is an important one.
YOU are the one whose EMOTIONS are involved.
It's natural to have some feelings after sharing part of your life
with someone.
It's equally natural to focus on remembering the GOOD times rather
than the BAD times.
Especially after a year's worth of water has passed under the bridge,
it's hard to re-enact in your mind's eye exactly what it was that
caused you to be so sure you wanted to break up when you ended the
relationship.
Yet, I'm sure you didn't take the decision to break up lightly, did
you?
That's the first factor that could be causing you to romanticize
getting back together at this point in history.
But the more profound reason why you would even be considering the
option of returning to a controlling man is a more objective one.
You don't have any other OPTIONS.
Think about it.
If you had a wonderful, caring man in your life who was masculine
enough to excite you, would you even be giving your old flame a
second thought?
Of course not!
Instead, you'd be going on fun adventures with your new guy...and
likely forgetting completely about that fancy restaurant your ex
DIDN'T take you to.
To further underscore this point, here's another thing to think about.
Why would your ex suddenly be reappearing in your life a year later?
You got it...HE is currently lacking OPTIONS also.
If you ask me, the concept of the two of you getting back together
is the PERFECT recipe for SETTLING.
So what to do?
Well, first make the right decision regarding your ex-controller...I
mean, ex-boyfriend...and get an action plan for meeting better men
than you've ever met before!
A great way to do that, especially if you are a busy single mom or
have a demanding career, is to try ONLINE DATING.
Scot and I met online, and we'll be the first to tell you that you
can find someone AMAZING on the dating site of your choice.
Really. It's the 21st century, and having an online profile these
days is as natural as having a driver's license or a library card.
Give it a try!
Have Fun,
Emily McKay
=====
You know, it really is true that more people than ever before have
online profiles.
Better yet, more couples than ever are also MEETING EACH OTHER
online.
And the best news of all is that on any given dating site you are
going to find TONS of GREAT MEN.
On top of all else, did you know that the most popular online dating
site PlentyOfFish.com is 100% FREE to join and to use?
The only real question left is: Will those great men be competing
for YOU?
Well, it takes more than a nice picture to attract the HIGHEST
QUALITY MAN out there.
You've got to know how to be the kind of woman who is irresistible
to a great man.
And THEN...you simply have to know how to send all the RIGHT
messages in your online profile without sending the WRONG ones.
Plus, of course, you'll need to know what to do when he actually
WRITES you. What will you say? How soon should you talk to him on
the phone? And when will you know it's time to actually MEET HIM?
I realize this can all sound a bit overwhelming.
But it's really a lot easier than you might think (and WAY more fun),
especially when you have someone right there with you who can help
you have a REAL PLAN.
That's exactly why I created CLICK WITH HIM:
http://www.clickwithhim.com/50off
I've even rolled in tons of valuable secrets on how to meet a great
man ONLINE, so you are truly prepared no matter where you choose to
meet men.
For the next 48 HOURS you can use that link above to get Click With
Him for a full 50% OFF.
You can also get a free month of my Keys To Bliss program as part of
the package. That means you can write me your e-mail questions whenever
you'd like and I'll answer them for you.
http://www.clickwithhim.com/50off
I can't wait to hear all of YOUR online dating success stories.
Read this from Martha in Cardiff, England for example:
"I love what you guys do, you are an inspiration. I have been
following Emily's advice in Click With Him and boy does it work!"
Best Regards,
Martha
And how about this one?...
"Hi Emily!
I got 'Click With Him' last weekend and I'm absolutely addicted to
it. Your session on hidden detractors was a real revelation."
Karen (London, UK)
I really do believe you can meet the greatest man you've ever known...
and MUCH sooner than you think.
After all, I met Scot within 30 days of going online. So I believe
you can too!
I'll talk to you again soon.
Have Fun,
Emily McKay
=====
X & Y Communications is dedicated to making you the most skilled
participant in the dating world you can be, at whatever stage of
life you are in. It's all about straight talk about the most
creative subjects, somehow encompassing character-based principles
while being neither too shy nor too judgmental to hit the important
things head on. The basic stuff you've heard a million times isn't
rehashed around here. Enjoy!
Please also note that the information in this newsletter is for
entertainment purposes only and is not intended to constitute
professional advice.
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2012. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly remove you from our mailing list.
=====
IN THIS EDITION: You're the one who broke up with him. But a year's
a long time and he wants to come back. Should you take him?
=====
SHOULD YOU TAKE BACK AN EX-BOYFRIEND?
Hello Emily:
I broke up with my boyfriend of almost two years. He has been
trying to get back together, however I realize that he is very
controlling.
That is the main reason I broke up with him. Yet somehow I am NOT
getting over him.
All my girlfriends have told me to quit taking his calls, or reading
his texts, but of course I give in and do just that.
Now he is wanting to go out again - he'll take me to the nice
restaurant he always refused to go to for two years.
I'm so confused and hurt. Please help?!
Corina (Council Bluffs, IA)
=====
Hello, Corina. I'm so glad you wrote me.
I'll tell you, there are a LOT of women who find themselves in a
situation very similar to yours at one point or another in their
lives.
To spell it out for you from the very beginning, I have to agree
with your girlfriends on this one.
And to be honest, I'm not at all surprised that the feedback from
your friends has been unanimous. You obviously have some great
friends who care about you deeply.
The difference between you and them, however, is an important one.
YOU are the one whose EMOTIONS are involved.
It's natural to have some feelings after sharing part of your life
with someone.
It's equally natural to focus on remembering the GOOD times rather
than the BAD times.
Especially after a year's worth of water has passed under the bridge,
it's hard to re-enact in your mind's eye exactly what it was that
caused you to be so sure you wanted to break up when you ended the
relationship.
Yet, I'm sure you didn't take the decision to break up lightly, did
you?
That's the first factor that could be causing you to romanticize
getting back together at this point in history.
But the more profound reason why you would even be considering the
option of returning to a controlling man is a more objective one.
You don't have any other OPTIONS.
Think about it.
If you had a wonderful, caring man in your life who was masculine
enough to excite you, would you even be giving your old flame a
second thought?
Of course not!
Instead, you'd be going on fun adventures with your new guy...and
likely forgetting completely about that fancy restaurant your ex
DIDN'T take you to.
To further underscore this point, here's another thing to think about.
Why would your ex suddenly be reappearing in your life a year later?
You got it...HE is currently lacking OPTIONS also.
If you ask me, the concept of the two of you getting back together
is the PERFECT recipe for SETTLING.
So what to do?
Well, first make the right decision regarding your ex-controller...I
mean, ex-boyfriend...and get an action plan for meeting better men
than you've ever met before!
A great way to do that, especially if you are a busy single mom or
have a demanding career, is to try ONLINE DATING.
Scot and I met online, and we'll be the first to tell you that you
can find someone AMAZING on the dating site of your choice.
Really. It's the 21st century, and having an online profile these
days is as natural as having a driver's license or a library card.
Give it a try!
Have Fun,
Emily McKay
=====
You know, it really is true that more people than ever before have
online profiles.
Better yet, more couples than ever are also MEETING EACH OTHER
online.
And the best news of all is that on any given dating site you are
going to find TONS of GREAT MEN.
On top of all else, did you know that the most popular online dating
site PlentyOfFish.com is 100% FREE to join and to use?
The only real question left is: Will those great men be competing
for YOU?
Well, it takes more than a nice picture to attract the HIGHEST
QUALITY MAN out there.
You've got to know how to be the kind of woman who is irresistible
to a great man.
And THEN...you simply have to know how to send all the RIGHT
messages in your online profile without sending the WRONG ones.
Plus, of course, you'll need to know what to do when he actually
WRITES you. What will you say? How soon should you talk to him on
the phone? And when will you know it's time to actually MEET HIM?
I realize this can all sound a bit overwhelming.
But it's really a lot easier than you might think (and WAY more fun),
especially when you have someone right there with you who can help
you have a REAL PLAN.
That's exactly why I created CLICK WITH HIM:
http://www.clickwithhim.com/50off
I've even rolled in tons of valuable secrets on how to meet a great
man ONLINE, so you are truly prepared no matter where you choose to
meet men.
For the next 48 HOURS you can use that link above to get Click With
Him for a full 50% OFF.
You can also get a free month of my Keys To Bliss program as part of
the package. That means you can write me your e-mail questions whenever
you'd like and I'll answer them for you.
http://www.clickwithhim.com/50off
I can't wait to hear all of YOUR online dating success stories.
Read this from Martha in Cardiff, England for example:
"I love what you guys do, you are an inspiration. I have been
following Emily's advice in Click With Him and boy does it work!"
Best Regards,
Martha
And how about this one?...
"Hi Emily!
I got 'Click With Him' last weekend and I'm absolutely addicted to
it. Your session on hidden detractors was a real revelation."
Karen (London, UK)
I really do believe you can meet the greatest man you've ever known...
and MUCH sooner than you think.
After all, I met Scot within 30 days of going online. So I believe
you can too!
I'll talk to you again soon.
Have Fun,
Emily McKay
=====
X & Y Communications is dedicated to making you the most skilled
participant in the dating world you can be, at whatever stage of
life you are in. It's all about straight talk about the most
creative subjects, somehow encompassing character-based principles
while being neither too shy nor too judgmental to hit the important
things head on. The basic stuff you've heard a million times isn't
rehashed around here. Enjoy!
Please also note that the information in this newsletter is for
entertainment purposes only and is not intended to constitute
professional advice.
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2012. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly remove you from our mailing list.