[X&Y Emily] Are You TRULY Ready To Meet A Great Guy?
Published: Fri, 08/31/12
EMILY McKAY'S KEYS TO BLISS NEWSLETTER
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Some women e-mail back and forth with men in
distant locations even when there are literally millions of men
in their own city. Here's why that happens...
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DOES MEETING A GREAT MAN HAVE TO BE SO DIFFICULT?
Getting e-mails like the one highlighted below today's newsletter
reminds me of how COMPLICATED online dating can get if we allow it
to be--especially if we don't yet have the confidence we need to
believe a great man is going to LOVE, LOVE, LOVE us!
But I promise you that it doesn't have to be like that.
One of the ways I've made Click With Him extra special for you is
by including LOTS of secrets on how to become the most wonderful
version of YOU that you can be.
In other words, I show you very practical ways you can really, truly
become the woman who men are attracted to immediately and want to
commit to after getting to know better.
And since I've personally lived through lots of dating frustration
myself, I wrapped it all with PLENTY of encouragement.
Truly, there's nothing I want more than for YOU to experience the
incredible fulfillment of ACTUALLY MEETING a great man...and
having him be thrilled that he did so!
With the Labor Day weekend here and September upon us, if you
haven't gotten your hands on my Click With Him program, now is the
time:
http://www.clickwithhim.com/subscribers
Do you just need that extra boost to help you actually try online
dating for the first time? If so, then you'll be amazed by how
easily I can help make a great online dating experience happen for
you.
Just to prove that to you, between now and Sunday night I'm going
to also give you my Attraction Makeover program for FREE when you
get Click With Him.
That's right, 2 for the price of 1.
That way you'll look FABULOUS without having to spend hours in
the bathroom to do so.
AND...you'll also hear from Scot and four of his professional
dating coach friends on EXACTLY what men are really, truly
looking for in a great woman. You'll never have to scratch your
head wondering about that again.
Here's the link where you can get in on this 2-for-1 special,
which you'll see mentioned when you get to the order page:
2-For-1: Click With Him + Attraction Makeover
Isn't it time to get in on the 21st century way to meet great
men?
September is when everyone gets down to business again, and
the run toward the Holidays is next. That means NOW is one
of the best times of the year to start a great relationship!
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ARE YOU TRULY READY TO MEET A GREAT GUY?
Hello Emily:
Ok, I messed up BIG TIME.
I met this fabulous man named Robert online we had amazing
conversations, deep, philosophical, fun and more. I live on the
east coast, he on the west.
Robert asked to fly to me several times, I said no because I am
overweight and afraid to tell him that. He's an entertainer.
He called me from JFK Airport telling me he loves me and to meet
him (He flew to Italy via NY for vacation) and again I refused to
meet him.
He didn't call me after that.
The other strange thing is in the interim of his silence another
man started writing me asking me if I am alone or dating? Turns
out its one of his best friends (Steve), who also asked to meet
me in NY!
My intuition tells me Robert put Steve up to this to find out more
about me. (Which tells me he is still focused on me, yes or no?)
I have fallen in love with this man and trying to get over my
insecurities.
Robert stopped talking to me and not answering my emails (only 3
didn't want to bombard him).
WHAT DO I DO NOW? HOW DO I GET HIM TO BREAK THE SILENCE?
Help me now please!!!
Carissa (New York)
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Hello Carissa, and thank you so much for writing.
OK, what I'm about to tell you may possibly include some things you
don't want to hear, but if you're going to be successful at online
dating, I really do hope you'll at least give what I'm about to say
some thought.
If you have put accurate pictures on your profile and have
interacted via webcam with Robert then your insecurity about your
weight is unfounded. If he has a realistic picture of who he's
going to meet, then you should get over your insecurity.
On the other hand, if your profile pictures do not represent the
current version of you then you have essentially been deceitful.
While it's true that many, many more men prefer curvier women than
you'd probably guess, the secret here is to make sure you are
attracting the ones with your profile who would be attracted to you
in real life.
Portraying yourself accurately in an online profile is an absolute
must. Otherwise the entire system breaks down.
Robert is most likely not online to make "pen pals". He's there to
actually meet women. When he offered to fly to meet you several
times and you refused, that honestly should have been his first
clue that you we're concerned about disappointing him.
When he is actually IN New York and hoping to meet you--and you still
refuse--what does he have left to go on? I'm sure he was greatly
disappointed if not utterly frustrated.
So I'm hard pressed to blame him for not communicating with you
further.
Now as far as Steve goes, my first thought is that if he has gone
ahead and told you he's Robert's friend then his contact to you is
with Robert's blessing.
Notwithstanding that, he must not value his friendship with Robert
much. Either that or there's game-playing going on as you suspect.
But ALL of the above is really of little consequence considering the
"big picture".
The heart of the matter is this: Why in the WORLD are you
searching for men 3000 miles away when you live in the largest metro
area in the United States? (!!!)
It really appears that your insecurity about weight is relegating
your online experience to nothing more than e-mail exchanges and
perhaps phone conversations that offer you the temporary
butterflies of having received attention from men.
But without the intent of actually meeting anyone, you are only
kidding yourself by indulging yourself in such vicarious thrills.
Not only are you deceiving men who could mean well, you are now
coming face to face with the fact that the emotions you begin to
feel are very real.
And all you've done is set yourself up for heartbreak. It's as if
you've "painted yourself into a corner" as the saying goes.
My encouragement to you is very simple. Simple, but perhaps not
easy.
Boldly represent yourself as accurately as you can in your profile.
Take brand new pictures of yourself dressed as stylishly as you
can, indoors in a naturally-lit environment.
Be sure to smile your warmest and most confident smile. Think of
yourself as a celebrity posing for your "autograph picture" to be
signed and handed out to your adoring fans.
And then, agree to trust that the men you attract genuinely want to
meet you. Trust yourself to have the courage to meet those men in
person.
And please...stick to the New York metro area (or the Tri-State
area, at least).
Oh yes, there's one more very important step.
If you really do believe that you are not the best version of
yourself to attract a man, make a decision RIGHT NOW to become that
person.
Do not be passive about this, but instead take control of your life,
your health and your future happiness. This is how you begin to
deserve what you want and attract the kind of man you dream of...for
real this time.
Have Fun,
Emily McKay
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(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2012. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please use the
link below to quickly and securely remove yourself from our
mailing list.
=====
WHAT'S INSIDE: Some women e-mail back and forth with men in
distant locations even when there are literally millions of men
in their own city. Here's why that happens...
=====
DOES MEETING A GREAT MAN HAVE TO BE SO DIFFICULT?
Getting e-mails like the one highlighted below today's newsletter
reminds me of how COMPLICATED online dating can get if we allow it
to be--especially if we don't yet have the confidence we need to
believe a great man is going to LOVE, LOVE, LOVE us!
But I promise you that it doesn't have to be like that.
One of the ways I've made Click With Him extra special for you is
by including LOTS of secrets on how to become the most wonderful
version of YOU that you can be.
In other words, I show you very practical ways you can really, truly
become the woman who men are attracted to immediately and want to
commit to after getting to know better.
And since I've personally lived through lots of dating frustration
myself, I wrapped it all with PLENTY of encouragement.
Truly, there's nothing I want more than for YOU to experience the
incredible fulfillment of ACTUALLY MEETING a great man...and
having him be thrilled that he did so!
With the Labor Day weekend here and September upon us, if you
haven't gotten your hands on my Click With Him program, now is the
time:
http://www.clickwithhim.com/subscribers
Do you just need that extra boost to help you actually try online
dating for the first time? If so, then you'll be amazed by how
easily I can help make a great online dating experience happen for
you.
Just to prove that to you, between now and Sunday night I'm going
to also give you my Attraction Makeover program for FREE when you
get Click With Him.
That's right, 2 for the price of 1.
That way you'll look FABULOUS without having to spend hours in
the bathroom to do so.
AND...you'll also hear from Scot and four of his professional
dating coach friends on EXACTLY what men are really, truly
looking for in a great woman. You'll never have to scratch your
head wondering about that again.
Here's the link where you can get in on this 2-for-1 special,
which you'll see mentioned when you get to the order page:
2-For-1: Click With Him + Attraction Makeover
Isn't it time to get in on the 21st century way to meet great
men?
September is when everyone gets down to business again, and
the run toward the Holidays is next. That means NOW is one
of the best times of the year to start a great relationship!
=====
ARE YOU TRULY READY TO MEET A GREAT GUY?
Hello Emily:
Ok, I messed up BIG TIME.
I met this fabulous man named Robert online we had amazing
conversations, deep, philosophical, fun and more. I live on the
east coast, he on the west.
Robert asked to fly to me several times, I said no because I am
overweight and afraid to tell him that. He's an entertainer.
He called me from JFK Airport telling me he loves me and to meet
him (He flew to Italy via NY for vacation) and again I refused to
meet him.
He didn't call me after that.
The other strange thing is in the interim of his silence another
man started writing me asking me if I am alone or dating? Turns
out its one of his best friends (Steve), who also asked to meet
me in NY!
My intuition tells me Robert put Steve up to this to find out more
about me. (Which tells me he is still focused on me, yes or no?)
I have fallen in love with this man and trying to get over my
insecurities.
Robert stopped talking to me and not answering my emails (only 3
didn't want to bombard him).
WHAT DO I DO NOW? HOW DO I GET HIM TO BREAK THE SILENCE?
Help me now please!!!
Carissa (New York)
=====
Hello Carissa, and thank you so much for writing.
OK, what I'm about to tell you may possibly include some things you
don't want to hear, but if you're going to be successful at online
dating, I really do hope you'll at least give what I'm about to say
some thought.
If you have put accurate pictures on your profile and have
interacted via webcam with Robert then your insecurity about your
weight is unfounded. If he has a realistic picture of who he's
going to meet, then you should get over your insecurity.
On the other hand, if your profile pictures do not represent the
current version of you then you have essentially been deceitful.
While it's true that many, many more men prefer curvier women than
you'd probably guess, the secret here is to make sure you are
attracting the ones with your profile who would be attracted to you
in real life.
Portraying yourself accurately in an online profile is an absolute
must. Otherwise the entire system breaks down.
Robert is most likely not online to make "pen pals". He's there to
actually meet women. When he offered to fly to meet you several
times and you refused, that honestly should have been his first
clue that you we're concerned about disappointing him.
When he is actually IN New York and hoping to meet you--and you still
refuse--what does he have left to go on? I'm sure he was greatly
disappointed if not utterly frustrated.
So I'm hard pressed to blame him for not communicating with you
further.
Now as far as Steve goes, my first thought is that if he has gone
ahead and told you he's Robert's friend then his contact to you is
with Robert's blessing.
Notwithstanding that, he must not value his friendship with Robert
much. Either that or there's game-playing going on as you suspect.
But ALL of the above is really of little consequence considering the
"big picture".
The heart of the matter is this: Why in the WORLD are you
searching for men 3000 miles away when you live in the largest metro
area in the United States? (!!!)
It really appears that your insecurity about weight is relegating
your online experience to nothing more than e-mail exchanges and
perhaps phone conversations that offer you the temporary
butterflies of having received attention from men.
But without the intent of actually meeting anyone, you are only
kidding yourself by indulging yourself in such vicarious thrills.
Not only are you deceiving men who could mean well, you are now
coming face to face with the fact that the emotions you begin to
feel are very real.
And all you've done is set yourself up for heartbreak. It's as if
you've "painted yourself into a corner" as the saying goes.
My encouragement to you is very simple. Simple, but perhaps not
easy.
Boldly represent yourself as accurately as you can in your profile.
Take brand new pictures of yourself dressed as stylishly as you
can, indoors in a naturally-lit environment.
Be sure to smile your warmest and most confident smile. Think of
yourself as a celebrity posing for your "autograph picture" to be
signed and handed out to your adoring fans.
And then, agree to trust that the men you attract genuinely want to
meet you. Trust yourself to have the courage to meet those men in
person.
And please...stick to the New York metro area (or the Tri-State
area, at least).
Oh yes, there's one more very important step.
If you really do believe that you are not the best version of
yourself to attract a man, make a decision RIGHT NOW to become that
person.
Do not be passive about this, but instead take control of your life,
your health and your future happiness. This is how you begin to
deserve what you want and attract the kind of man you dream of...for
real this time.
Have Fun,
Emily McKay
=====
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2012. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please use the
link below to quickly and securely remove yourself from our
mailing list.