[X&Y Emily] How Fast Is TOO Fast? [Reader Question]
Published: Wed, 08/29/12
EMILY McKAY'S KEYS TO BLISS NEWSLETTER
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IN THIS EDITION: Can a man really fall in love quickly? Or could
he have ulterior motives for saying those "three little words"?
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DOES HE DO STUFF THAT LEAVES YOU SHAKING YOUR HEAD?
Does your man's behavior totally confuse you?
Does he say one thing and do another?
Like saying he's going to call, but then...???
Frustrating, isn't it?
And have you ever wondered why some women manage to keep their men
faithful, loyal, loving, romantic and just plain crazy about them
...even while so many others don't?
You're certainly not alone.
The fact is (and my email inbox can attest to this) that most women
live in a state of constant anxiety.
...Wondering if he REALLY loves them.
...If he's looking at or thinking about other women.
...If he's cheating.
But there is a simple, easy way that you can get your man basically
ADDICTED to you.
Dr. Bob Grant, a licensed professional counselor, has put together
a special program that teaches you how to become the woman of his
dreams (even if he barely pays attention to you now).
If you have a few minutes, I'd like to introduce you to him:
Meet Bob Here!
Bob is particularly gifted at explaining a lot of men's very weird
behavior in a way we as women can easily relate to.
And not only that, get this...he reveals how you can use ALL of his
thoughts and actions to your advantage, making him fall in love
with YOU and nobody else.
If you want to be the kind of woman he simply can't resist (and
would never even consider leaving) I recommend you go check out
this page now:
Find Out How To Understand Your Man Here
I've reviewed the doctor's program and frankly, it's excellent.
I wouldn't recommend it to you if it wasn't.
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"COULD HE REALLY BE IN LOVE ALREADY?"
Hey Emily,
I hope things are going great for you with Scot and your family.
I met this guy and I ended up spending three whole days with him
after which he said he loved me.
After the three days I had to move to a different city and it has
been three weeks since we met in person.
We talk regularly on the phone and he says he can't sleep at night
without hearing the sound of my voice.
He seems pretty nice so far.
My question is this - can a guy actually fall for a woman that
fast?
I've always heard that men take time to think relationship.
I might go back to his place and the guy says that if I do he will
be with me and only me and no other girl.
It's just so fast and I'm so confused.
Also, should I wait for sex, and if I do then how long? We've
already been a bit physical.
Lastly, I'm a virgin. I'm twenty-three, the guys twenty-five.
He says that men find virgins more appealing than women who sleep
around and that men respect virgins. Is this true?
Any insight on these matters would be greatly appreciated. Have a
great weekend and a great summer!
With warm regards,
Kumari (India)
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Hello Kumari,
Thank you so much for writing me. The family is doing great.
Our littlest just turned 8 months. Where does the time go? :-)
You asked some really great questions.
First of all, can a man fall in love quickly?
Sometimes people know what they want and have solid intuition about
and good intentions for the people they meet.
However a man who has trouble with finding a woman to like him
could respond in the same way, couldn't he?
In that scenario, however, he would be acting more on desperation
than "love", doing whatever you want in an attempt to keep you.
For most women, that's a major psychological factor in feeling like
they are "settling".
And let's not forget that some men out there are unscrupulous and
will say what they believe you want to hear in order to bed you.
Considering you're a virgin, you may very well spark the fantasies
of guys like this in exactly the way you'd most want to avoid.
Here is the thing though, no matter what.
Three days is not enough to really know what kind of man this is.
Besides, real love comes from getting to know someone over a period
of time.
You can indeed have a very good feeling about someone within a
short amount of time, but even that really does come from having
dated lots and therefore knowing from experience exactly what you
want from a man.
But the irony is that same level of experience will ALSO tell you
that both men and women should take time to think about getting
into a relationship.
Too many people let themselves fall in love too quickly with
someone who is not a good match for them.
My question to you is, "What is it about him that makes you think
about him?"
You never said that you have feelings for him, which I found
conspicuously absent given the rest of the subject matter of your
message.
Is the fact that he said he loves you ALONE what caught your
interest?
Your virginity should be special to you.
When you decide to have sex for the first time it should be based
on want you want, not what a man thinks or said.
And yes, some men will key in on your virginity, considering it a
challenge or even a particularly satisfying sexual conquest to go
after.
So with that said, don't take your virginity lightly in the least.
You're 23 years old, and if you are more comfortable waiting for
the right guy who has through time and action proven to you that he
is committed to you, that's a solid plan.
A respectable man will appreciate that and never pressure you. He
will understand that you want to wait for the right man and time.
By the way, have you considered finding someone closer to where
you live? As we talk about often in this newsletter, it's so much
easier to get to know someone more naturally that way without
letting so much water slip under the bridge.
When I was single, I met several men who believed they loved me
and wanted to marry me. But that was not good enough. I wanted
the right man, a great one who was my match.
You will meet the right man as long as you don't settle for the
first man who says he loves you or wants to marry you.
I wish you the best in life. Have fun out there dating and meeting
some great men who will honor and respect you as you deserve!
Have fun,
Emily McKay
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=====
IN THIS EDITION: Can a man really fall in love quickly? Or could
he have ulterior motives for saying those "three little words"?
=====
DOES HE DO STUFF THAT LEAVES YOU SHAKING YOUR HEAD?
Does your man's behavior totally confuse you?
Does he say one thing and do another?
Like saying he's going to call, but then...???
Frustrating, isn't it?
And have you ever wondered why some women manage to keep their men
faithful, loyal, loving, romantic and just plain crazy about them
...even while so many others don't?
You're certainly not alone.
The fact is (and my email inbox can attest to this) that most women
live in a state of constant anxiety.
...Wondering if he REALLY loves them.
...If he's looking at or thinking about other women.
...If he's cheating.
But there is a simple, easy way that you can get your man basically
ADDICTED to you.
Dr. Bob Grant, a licensed professional counselor, has put together
a special program that teaches you how to become the woman of his
dreams (even if he barely pays attention to you now).
If you have a few minutes, I'd like to introduce you to him:
Meet Bob Here!
Bob is particularly gifted at explaining a lot of men's very weird
behavior in a way we as women can easily relate to.
And not only that, get this...he reveals how you can use ALL of his
thoughts and actions to your advantage, making him fall in love
with YOU and nobody else.
If you want to be the kind of woman he simply can't resist (and
would never even consider leaving) I recommend you go check out
this page now:
Find Out How To Understand Your Man Here
I've reviewed the doctor's program and frankly, it's excellent.
I wouldn't recommend it to you if it wasn't.
=====
"COULD HE REALLY BE IN LOVE ALREADY?"
Hey Emily,
I hope things are going great for you with Scot and your family.
I met this guy and I ended up spending three whole days with him
after which he said he loved me.
After the three days I had to move to a different city and it has
been three weeks since we met in person.
We talk regularly on the phone and he says he can't sleep at night
without hearing the sound of my voice.
He seems pretty nice so far.
My question is this - can a guy actually fall for a woman that
fast?
I've always heard that men take time to think relationship.
I might go back to his place and the guy says that if I do he will
be with me and only me and no other girl.
It's just so fast and I'm so confused.
Also, should I wait for sex, and if I do then how long? We've
already been a bit physical.
Lastly, I'm a virgin. I'm twenty-three, the guys twenty-five.
He says that men find virgins more appealing than women who sleep
around and that men respect virgins. Is this true?
Any insight on these matters would be greatly appreciated. Have a
great weekend and a great summer!
With warm regards,
Kumari (India)
=====
Hello Kumari,
Thank you so much for writing me. The family is doing great.
Our littlest just turned 8 months. Where does the time go? :-)
You asked some really great questions.
First of all, can a man fall in love quickly?
Sometimes people know what they want and have solid intuition about
and good intentions for the people they meet.
However a man who has trouble with finding a woman to like him
could respond in the same way, couldn't he?
In that scenario, however, he would be acting more on desperation
than "love", doing whatever you want in an attempt to keep you.
For most women, that's a major psychological factor in feeling like
they are "settling".
And let's not forget that some men out there are unscrupulous and
will say what they believe you want to hear in order to bed you.
Considering you're a virgin, you may very well spark the fantasies
of guys like this in exactly the way you'd most want to avoid.
Here is the thing though, no matter what.
Three days is not enough to really know what kind of man this is.
Besides, real love comes from getting to know someone over a period
of time.
You can indeed have a very good feeling about someone within a
short amount of time, but even that really does come from having
dated lots and therefore knowing from experience exactly what you
want from a man.
But the irony is that same level of experience will ALSO tell you
that both men and women should take time to think about getting
into a relationship.
Too many people let themselves fall in love too quickly with
someone who is not a good match for them.
My question to you is, "What is it about him that makes you think
about him?"
You never said that you have feelings for him, which I found
conspicuously absent given the rest of the subject matter of your
message.
Is the fact that he said he loves you ALONE what caught your
interest?
Your virginity should be special to you.
When you decide to have sex for the first time it should be based
on want you want, not what a man thinks or said.
And yes, some men will key in on your virginity, considering it a
challenge or even a particularly satisfying sexual conquest to go
after.
So with that said, don't take your virginity lightly in the least.
You're 23 years old, and if you are more comfortable waiting for
the right guy who has through time and action proven to you that he
is committed to you, that's a solid plan.
A respectable man will appreciate that and never pressure you. He
will understand that you want to wait for the right man and time.
By the way, have you considered finding someone closer to where
you live? As we talk about often in this newsletter, it's so much
easier to get to know someone more naturally that way without
letting so much water slip under the bridge.
When I was single, I met several men who believed they loved me
and wanted to marry me. But that was not good enough. I wanted
the right man, a great one who was my match.
You will meet the right man as long as you don't settle for the
first man who says he loves you or wants to marry you.
I wish you the best in life. Have fun out there dating and meeting
some great men who will honor and respect you as you deserve!
Have fun,
Emily McKay
=====
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2012. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please use the
link below to quickly and securely remove yourself from our
mailing list.