[X&Y Emily] 9 Ways To Beat The Post-Breakup Blues (Count 'Em!)
Published: Sun, 09/30/12
EMILY McKAY'S KEYS TO BLISS NEWSLETTER
=====
IN THIS EDITION: When a difficult relationship finally ends, it can
really send your emotions into a tizzy...maybe even causing a full-
scale case of the blues. How about some real, live ways to get
through that tough time (without maxing out the card or ODing on
chocolate?)
=====
HOW DO YOU BEAT THE POST-BREAKUP BLUES?
Hi Emily:
I don't know how old you are or how much experience you have with
guys and what not (don't mean to be snotty, I just simply don't know).
So, just trying to to grasp what's going on - on your end in Texas.
I am 50 years old...have been married for 23 years, will be
separating and divorcing. We can't take each others ways anymore,
we "rub" each other the wrong way. And I will be back out in the
dating world, I guess if I want.
My issue these days is that we haven't touched for 3 years and I
am love hungry...not to say I'm wanting to have meaningless sex
all the time. That is SOOOOOOO not me..
So separating, divorcing; haven't had a car in 5 years, not
sure which direction my career is going in, have a 16 year old,
live in Washington State for as long as I can stand it (the rain
and weather suck), need a tummy tuck, etc., etc.
I am a fairly pretty gal. It's my being so uptight during this time
frame that everybody is telling me to relax.
Too many things going on in my head with everything. I think I
might be too uptight for a guy to be around me right now.
But I don't drink, don't smoke. I do exercise, so I'm kind of in
a dilemma right now. I don't think I fall into the bitter category,
more like tired category.
My confidence is kind of low, though, because I do need a tummy-tuck,
but that's only $5500...just a drop in the bucket, right?
Carolyn (Washington State)
=====
Hello Carolyn:
Thank you so much for writing.
Thanks for reading also. Keep doing so and I'm sure you'll get to
know us better.
To answer your question about my background more specifically, I
turned 41 this year. I have been married, divorced and and now
married again to a great man. Lots of dating in between.
Now Carolyn, let's talk about YOU.
For starters I do hope you'll get right back out there and start
dating once your divorce is final. I've seen too many women let
themselves wait too long, and that's when they really do tend to
become bitter.
Even if you are fighting off bitterness pretty well for the time
being, there's no sense in tempting fate.
Rest assured you don't have to (nor should you) jump into another
serious relationship right way.
As for feeling tired and a bit down, just getting out of the house
and staying active, as it sounds like you already are by nature, is
actually the first step...and HALF the battle.
I realize it's soooo difficult given what is transpiring in the
present, but my suggestion would be to find a hobby or a pastime that
can help you relax.
Something active and especially outdoors is GREAT for this. Even a
simple gym membership can do wonders, though. It's all about the
endorphins.
I can fully understand being uptight considering what you have been
through lately.
But being relaxed and upbeat cannot be underestimated.
In fact, you already sound like a vivacious woman with a lot to offer,
so put away any "limiting beliefs" about your being an active part of
the dating world again.
No more "ifs" for you...just "whens"!
Believe me, you are way too young to "retire" just yet.
Making some new guy friends to share adventures with shortly after a
divorce isn't only a great way to get out of the doldrums, it's a
fantastic way to realize first hand that you really CAN still attract
attention from guys.
Importantly, that's ALSO a great way to prove to yourself that there
really are some great men out there long before negative thoughts
have a chance to overtake you.
Online dating is a GREAT WAY to jumpstart all of this.
So many women around age 50 email me thinking they are "too old" or
whatever, then we get them set up online with a great profile and
they are invariably shocked by how many guys are interested!
And don't worry a bit. I've got TONS of ideas on how to make sure
you attract the RIGHT guys. Stay tuned to future newsletters for
more.
By the way, I wouldn't sweat the tummy tuck too much.
Just be sure to take care of yourself, inside AND outside.
Instead of $5500 for the tummy tuck, I have a series of hints for you
that may sound silly but are each WAY less costly.
Yet each does AMAZING things for your outlook on things.
First, go to a really excellent hair stylist and get a new style that's
a complete change from the usual.
Then, go to a salon and get your fingers and toes done.
THEN spend $100-$200 on the sexiest lingerie you can find and WEAR
IT (even to work).
AND...if and when you find the nerve, go get a full Brazilian
bikini wax.
I had never had one of these until I met Scot, and WOW have I felt
sexy since!
The most important part is to believe you are sexy and desirable
then FOLLOW THROUGH! You'll love the results.
Have Fun,
Emily McKay
=====
Like I mentioned to Carolyn, online dating is an AMAZING way to
transform your dating life from dull to DYNAMIC.
Best of all, this all can happen MUCH, MUCH sooner than you may think.
All you have to do is take the very first step, and I'll be right
there beside you. Everything you need to be fabulous online OR
offline is in my complete program called Click With Him:
http://www.clickwithhim.com/50off
Guess what? Right now you can get Click With Him for a full 50%
off. There's no coupon necessary or anything...the discount is
built in.
If you're ready to get started, simply use the link below:
http://www.clickwithhim.com/50off
Remember, the Holidays will be here before you know it. I want
to get a letter from YOU telling me your success story, having
brought a great man into your life.
I'll talk to you again soon.
Have Fun,
Emily McKay
=====
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2012. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly remove you from our mailing list.
=====
IN THIS EDITION: When a difficult relationship finally ends, it can
really send your emotions into a tizzy...maybe even causing a full-
scale case of the blues. How about some real, live ways to get
through that tough time (without maxing out the card or ODing on
chocolate?)
=====
HOW DO YOU BEAT THE POST-BREAKUP BLUES?
Hi Emily:
I don't know how old you are or how much experience you have with
guys and what not (don't mean to be snotty, I just simply don't know).
So, just trying to to grasp what's going on - on your end in Texas.
I am 50 years old...have been married for 23 years, will be
separating and divorcing. We can't take each others ways anymore,
we "rub" each other the wrong way. And I will be back out in the
dating world, I guess if I want.
My issue these days is that we haven't touched for 3 years and I
am love hungry...not to say I'm wanting to have meaningless sex
all the time. That is SOOOOOOO not me..
So separating, divorcing; haven't had a car in 5 years, not
sure which direction my career is going in, have a 16 year old,
live in Washington State for as long as I can stand it (the rain
and weather suck), need a tummy tuck, etc., etc.
I am a fairly pretty gal. It's my being so uptight during this time
frame that everybody is telling me to relax.
Too many things going on in my head with everything. I think I
might be too uptight for a guy to be around me right now.
But I don't drink, don't smoke. I do exercise, so I'm kind of in
a dilemma right now. I don't think I fall into the bitter category,
more like tired category.
My confidence is kind of low, though, because I do need a tummy-tuck,
but that's only $5500...just a drop in the bucket, right?
Carolyn (Washington State)
=====
Hello Carolyn:
Thank you so much for writing.
Thanks for reading also. Keep doing so and I'm sure you'll get to
know us better.
To answer your question about my background more specifically, I
turned 41 this year. I have been married, divorced and and now
married again to a great man. Lots of dating in between.
Now Carolyn, let's talk about YOU.
For starters I do hope you'll get right back out there and start
dating once your divorce is final. I've seen too many women let
themselves wait too long, and that's when they really do tend to
become bitter.
Even if you are fighting off bitterness pretty well for the time
being, there's no sense in tempting fate.
Rest assured you don't have to (nor should you) jump into another
serious relationship right way.
As for feeling tired and a bit down, just getting out of the house
and staying active, as it sounds like you already are by nature, is
actually the first step...and HALF the battle.
I realize it's soooo difficult given what is transpiring in the
present, but my suggestion would be to find a hobby or a pastime that
can help you relax.
Something active and especially outdoors is GREAT for this. Even a
simple gym membership can do wonders, though. It's all about the
endorphins.
I can fully understand being uptight considering what you have been
through lately.
But being relaxed and upbeat cannot be underestimated.
In fact, you already sound like a vivacious woman with a lot to offer,
so put away any "limiting beliefs" about your being an active part of
the dating world again.
No more "ifs" for you...just "whens"!
Believe me, you are way too young to "retire" just yet.
Making some new guy friends to share adventures with shortly after a
divorce isn't only a great way to get out of the doldrums, it's a
fantastic way to realize first hand that you really CAN still attract
attention from guys.
Importantly, that's ALSO a great way to prove to yourself that there
really are some great men out there long before negative thoughts
have a chance to overtake you.
Online dating is a GREAT WAY to jumpstart all of this.
So many women around age 50 email me thinking they are "too old" or
whatever, then we get them set up online with a great profile and
they are invariably shocked by how many guys are interested!
And don't worry a bit. I've got TONS of ideas on how to make sure
you attract the RIGHT guys. Stay tuned to future newsletters for
more.
By the way, I wouldn't sweat the tummy tuck too much.
Just be sure to take care of yourself, inside AND outside.
Instead of $5500 for the tummy tuck, I have a series of hints for you
that may sound silly but are each WAY less costly.
Yet each does AMAZING things for your outlook on things.
First, go to a really excellent hair stylist and get a new style that's
a complete change from the usual.
Then, go to a salon and get your fingers and toes done.
THEN spend $100-$200 on the sexiest lingerie you can find and WEAR
IT (even to work).
AND...if and when you find the nerve, go get a full Brazilian
bikini wax.
I had never had one of these until I met Scot, and WOW have I felt
sexy since!
The most important part is to believe you are sexy and desirable
then FOLLOW THROUGH! You'll love the results.
Have Fun,
Emily McKay
=====
Like I mentioned to Carolyn, online dating is an AMAZING way to
transform your dating life from dull to DYNAMIC.
Best of all, this all can happen MUCH, MUCH sooner than you may think.
All you have to do is take the very first step, and I'll be right
there beside you. Everything you need to be fabulous online OR
offline is in my complete program called Click With Him:
http://www.clickwithhim.com/50off
Guess what? Right now you can get Click With Him for a full 50%
off. There's no coupon necessary or anything...the discount is
built in.
If you're ready to get started, simply use the link below:
http://www.clickwithhim.com/50off
Remember, the Holidays will be here before you know it. I want
to get a letter from YOU telling me your success story, having
brought a great man into your life.
I'll talk to you again soon.
Have Fun,
Emily McKay
=====
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2012. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly remove you from our mailing list.