[X&Y Emily] The "Disappearing Act"...Why Do Men Do This?
Published: Tue, 09/11/12
EMILY McKAY'S KEYS TO BLISS NEWSLETTER
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IN THIS EDITION: He starts talking to you. You respond in a
perfectly friendly manner. Then...POOF!...He's GONE. What
happened?
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YOUR EX-BOYFRIEND IS STILL THINKING ABOUT YOU
I know he is...
After all, you shared a lot of special times and experiences
with him that he CAN'T forget.
And you were CLOSE to him in a way that a "new woman" can never
replace.
This means no matter how COLD he might be acting towards you
right now, you can still "re-ignite" his romantic feelings, make
him come to his senses and want you again. (Hooray!)
If you want to skip ahead and learn the shortcut for getting
your ex-boyfriend to come running back to you, watch this quick
video:
Shortcut To Getting Him Back
Here's why I love this video.
It shows you how to hit the "reset button" so that you get him
back and start fresh with him instead of simply falling back
into the same old cycle that caused the disastrous breakup to
happen to begin with:
Hit The "Reset" Button
A lot of my friends have used this EXACT method to literally
re-attract their exes.
The video explains a bunch of unusual but shockingly effective
ways to get your man back...the bottom line is, they WORK.
Give it a try, because I know your ex-boyfriend still thinks
about you sometimes...
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THE "DISAPPEARING ACT"...WHY DO MEN DO THIS?
Hi Emily,
Well, I do believe in what you're saying about be deserving in
order to get what you want.
But I'm curious.
Last Thursday or so, I got an email from a guy on a personals
website. I wrote back that evening/night and got another one from
him the next day (last Friday).
Anyway, he sounded interested and said that he signed up just to
contact me. He seemed friendly. He seemed like he wanted to keep
writing, but he kept calling me, "J". I don't know why. My name
is Theresa.
He might have been aiming for "T", just being playful, but I'm not
sure.
He also asked for pictures. I could only find 2 of me on this
computer and they weren't the best, but I sent them anyway.
A while back, I had an email thing going with a guy from another
website and he asked for pictures. It took a while for me to get it
to him and he stopped writing.
I figured I'd send a picture right away, so it wouldn't drag out if
he didn't like how I looked. I sent the picture with the response
email and I asked why he kept calling me "J".
Finally this past Tuesday, he wrote back and said that he'd had a
busy weekend and lots of meetings, etc. and asked how my weekend
was.
I haven't heard anything since.
Besides that, I go to a university here in Louisiana and he is
taking a class or two at the same school and working on the
school's website as his job.
I think I know where the office is and I pass it often enough.
I've considered going in to see if I can find him, but I realize
that might not be a good idea since if he really wanted to talk to
me or email or meet me, he'd let me know.
He's already emailed me, so he must already have my email address.
Do you have any thoughts or suggestions?
God Bless :)
Tanya
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Hello Tanya:
Well first of all, remember that guys tend to send a LOT of e-mails
to a LOT of women on dating sites.
That shouldn't alarm you or upset you. After all, they haven't
actually met anyone yet or begun a relationship. So testing the
proverbial waters to gauge possible interest from different women
is perfectly natural and reasonable.
You'd be shocked at how good some guys can get at cutting/pasting
the same message over and over to women online, perhaps slightly
tweaking each message to appear completely original. Scot tells me
there are even complete training programs for guys on how to do this.
So the bottom line is, unfortunately, you might not have been the
only woman getting those emails from him. There could theoretically
be hundreds.
My guess is that he forgot to change "J" to "Tanya" when he cut the
previous email he sent and pasted it to be sent to you!
I'm also curious as to why you don't have pictures posted. Having
some flattering pictures posted is absolutely critical these days.
Otherwise, you really probably are only getting e-mails from guys
who are cutting/pasting to every woman on the site.
Think about it.
Typically nowadays, with the ubiquity of digital photography, anyone
without pics is either ashamed of his or her appearance or probably
hiding something (marriage, wanted by the law, etc.).
You shouldn't be at all surprised when guys lose interest if you
don't immediately respond with pictures...that almost always
portends sketchy things to them.
If you don't have a digital camera, ask a friend to take some great
pictures of you. Think "warm and confident" when you shoot those.
I agree that if the guy was interested he would have continued
writing, so it would probably be awkward to darken the door of his
office unannounced.
The ONLY exception is that if you really believe your photos were
horribly unflattering. Then, maybe find the guy at his office and
have HIM take some new pics for you since he's obviously techie.
Now THERE'S an idea!
Have Fun,
Emily McKay
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IN THIS EDITION: He starts talking to you. You respond in a
perfectly friendly manner. Then...POOF!...He's GONE. What
happened?
=====
YOUR EX-BOYFRIEND IS STILL THINKING ABOUT YOU
I know he is...
After all, you shared a lot of special times and experiences
with him that he CAN'T forget.
And you were CLOSE to him in a way that a "new woman" can never
replace.
This means no matter how COLD he might be acting towards you
right now, you can still "re-ignite" his romantic feelings, make
him come to his senses and want you again. (Hooray!)
If you want to skip ahead and learn the shortcut for getting
your ex-boyfriend to come running back to you, watch this quick
video:
Shortcut To Getting Him Back
Here's why I love this video.
It shows you how to hit the "reset button" so that you get him
back and start fresh with him instead of simply falling back
into the same old cycle that caused the disastrous breakup to
happen to begin with:
Hit The "Reset" Button
A lot of my friends have used this EXACT method to literally
re-attract their exes.
The video explains a bunch of unusual but shockingly effective
ways to get your man back...the bottom line is, they WORK.
Give it a try, because I know your ex-boyfriend still thinks
about you sometimes...
=====
THE "DISAPPEARING ACT"...WHY DO MEN DO THIS?
Hi Emily,
Well, I do believe in what you're saying about be deserving in
order to get what you want.
But I'm curious.
Last Thursday or so, I got an email from a guy on a personals
website. I wrote back that evening/night and got another one from
him the next day (last Friday).
Anyway, he sounded interested and said that he signed up just to
contact me. He seemed friendly. He seemed like he wanted to keep
writing, but he kept calling me, "J". I don't know why. My name
is Theresa.
He might have been aiming for "T", just being playful, but I'm not
sure.
He also asked for pictures. I could only find 2 of me on this
computer and they weren't the best, but I sent them anyway.
A while back, I had an email thing going with a guy from another
website and he asked for pictures. It took a while for me to get it
to him and he stopped writing.
I figured I'd send a picture right away, so it wouldn't drag out if
he didn't like how I looked. I sent the picture with the response
email and I asked why he kept calling me "J".
Finally this past Tuesday, he wrote back and said that he'd had a
busy weekend and lots of meetings, etc. and asked how my weekend
was.
I haven't heard anything since.
Besides that, I go to a university here in Louisiana and he is
taking a class or two at the same school and working on the
school's website as his job.
I think I know where the office is and I pass it often enough.
I've considered going in to see if I can find him, but I realize
that might not be a good idea since if he really wanted to talk to
me or email or meet me, he'd let me know.
He's already emailed me, so he must already have my email address.
Do you have any thoughts or suggestions?
God Bless :)
Tanya
=====
Hello Tanya:
Well first of all, remember that guys tend to send a LOT of e-mails
to a LOT of women on dating sites.
That shouldn't alarm you or upset you. After all, they haven't
actually met anyone yet or begun a relationship. So testing the
proverbial waters to gauge possible interest from different women
is perfectly natural and reasonable.
You'd be shocked at how good some guys can get at cutting/pasting
the same message over and over to women online, perhaps slightly
tweaking each message to appear completely original. Scot tells me
there are even complete training programs for guys on how to do this.
So the bottom line is, unfortunately, you might not have been the
only woman getting those emails from him. There could theoretically
be hundreds.
My guess is that he forgot to change "J" to "Tanya" when he cut the
previous email he sent and pasted it to be sent to you!
I'm also curious as to why you don't have pictures posted. Having
some flattering pictures posted is absolutely critical these days.
Otherwise, you really probably are only getting e-mails from guys
who are cutting/pasting to every woman on the site.
Think about it.
Typically nowadays, with the ubiquity of digital photography, anyone
without pics is either ashamed of his or her appearance or probably
hiding something (marriage, wanted by the law, etc.).
You shouldn't be at all surprised when guys lose interest if you
don't immediately respond with pictures...that almost always
portends sketchy things to them.
If you don't have a digital camera, ask a friend to take some great
pictures of you. Think "warm and confident" when you shoot those.
I agree that if the guy was interested he would have continued
writing, so it would probably be awkward to darken the door of his
office unannounced.
The ONLY exception is that if you really believe your photos were
horribly unflattering. Then, maybe find the guy at his office and
have HIM take some new pics for you since he's obviously techie.
Now THERE'S an idea!
Have Fun,
Emily McKay
=====
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This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
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