[X&Y Emily] 12 Tips For Having Fun On Dates While Staying Safe
Published: Wed, 11/06/13
EMILY McKAY'S KEYS TO BLISS NEWSLETTER
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IN THIS EDITION: Safety is the #1 concern of most women when they're
starting out at online dating. Here are some very simple ways to
make online dating as safe--or even safer--than some of the other
kinds of dating we all know and love already...
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DON'T GET LEFT BEHIND. IT'S YOUR TURN TO JOIN IN ON THE FUN!
One of the best ways to find the motivation to join the millions of
women who are already safely AND effectively meeting great men online
is by getting the RIGHT MINDSET for success.
That's exactly why I created my Click With Him program.
Along with an entire full-length program on online safety, you get
everything you need to get your profiles, pictures and everything
else JUST RIGHT.
It's all in one convenient place:
http://www.clickwithhim.com/50off
There's nothing I would rather see than success stories in my inbox
from YOU. You can absolutely, positively find the man of your dreams
online...and it's much easier than you might think.
I'm so sure you can find a great man online that I'm bringing back
my popular 50% off sale on Click With Him, just to make it even easier
for you.
No coupon code is necessary...but only for a limited time:
http://www.clickwithhim.com/50off
Click With Him is completely guaranteed to help you succeed online,
in fact you take a FULL YEAR to decide. And yes, all of those great
bonuses you'll see when you click that link above are yours to keep.
The Holidays are coming soon. Shouldn't TODAY be the day that you
marked off in your calendar as THE DAY you decided to take your
dating life back?
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12 TIPS FOR HAVING FUN ON DATES WHILE STAYING SAFE
"I'm afraid to meet a stranger online," said my friend Tina.
Tina is not alone in her concern regarding Internet dating safety.
This is one of the most common reasons why women choose not to get
online.
But it isn't only the men behind online dating profiles who are
complete strangers at first.
If you think about it, we're no better acquainted with the men we
meet on blind dates our friends set up for us or the men we meet
for the first time at the grocery store or social events.
Even co-workers who we know only in a work environment can be
called "strangers" because we do not know them on a personal level.
And meeting someone at a bar might actually be more potentially
"dangerous"--or at least "hazardous"--than meeting someone online.
The difference between meeting someone online vs. meeting at, say, a
bar is that at least online you can figure that most men have not been
drinking when you meet them, unlike the men in bars.
Plus, you don't really get an entire profile's worth of information
up front on any man you meet anywhere BUT online.
But here's the shocking part. Despite most women's concern about
meeting strangers, I've read studies that claim most women
are assaulted are by men they actually KNOW.
No wonder some women have given up entirely on dating due to fear
of finding themselves in a dangerous place.
If you ask me, that's very unfortunate. After all, despite the
trepidation some women feel, there really are LOTS of high quality
men out there who have only the best pf intentions for the woman of
their dreams.
So how can we have fun dating and meeting one of THOSE guys, all the
while ensuring our personal security?
Well, it makes sense to evaluate everything you can about a man
before you ever decide to go out on a date with him. Here are some
signs to look for to discern whether a man is trustworthy or not...
1) If the man is a single dad with any custody of the kids, then
the odds are that he is a good guy. Granted, there are aren't a
whole lot of men in that position, but if you find one you may
also find someone who actually "gets it"...especially if you too
are a single parent (and I know you're out there, mamas!)
2) If you meet him by happenstance, pay attention to his actions.
Is he consistent in his speech and behavior? Does he make perfect
sense or could he be in his own reality elsewhere? Is he giving
you your space?
3) Notice if he is trying to push you into something you're not
comfortable with yet (or ever will be). If he shows concern for
your safety and emotional well being then that is a very good sign
that he has your best interests at heart.
4) Did he offer to meet you at a café or other public place?
This gives you time to get to know him therefore become comfortable
with him before flying a "solo mission" with him.
If you are meeting someone for the first time, here are some
practical steps you can follow....
1) I just mentioned that a man should offer to meet you in a
public place. Make a list of places you are in fact comfortable with.
Meet in a public place like a restaurant, the movies, the zoo, a
ball game, shopping, or wherever there sure to be some people.
2) Be cautious of parks. Some parks are very secluded, and both
of you might find trouble--or rather trouble may find the both of you.
After all, safety is not always about him hurting you, per se. If
he's putting both of you in harm's way, that's a cavalier attitude
toward your safety.
3) Don't get in his car alone, until you are reasonably sure
he--and his driving habits--are safe.
4) If you feel comfortable enough at some point to go to his place
or somewhere relatively secluded, let a friend or family member know
who you are with and where you will be. And make sure he knows it.
5) Go one step further by actually checking in with your friend or
family member you have "on point" for you. Call when you get home
safely. Let him or her know that if you don't call they should be
alerted that something could be wrong. That said, don't forget to
call them if the date went overtime because you were having way too
much fun!
6) If you are at your place or his don't get heavy into kissing
and getting frisky if you're not going to have sex.
7) Double dating can actually be fun--and safer as well as entertaining.
An added benefit is that it can take some of the pressure off the both
of you.
8) Lastly you can also do a background check on him, utilizing
any number of web sites that offer this service inexpensively. Confirm
that he is truthful about his work place and residence. Don't
ever feel any guilt about doing this. After all, your safety is
the highest priority at all times.
So yes---make sure you do what it takes to stay safe. THEN...go out
and enjoy spending time with an exciting new guy!
I'll talk to you again soon. As always, be sure to send me your
questions and comments.
Have Fun,
Emily McKay
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This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
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IN THIS EDITION: Safety is the #1 concern of most women when they're
starting out at online dating. Here are some very simple ways to
make online dating as safe--or even safer--than some of the other
kinds of dating we all know and love already...
=====
DON'T GET LEFT BEHIND. IT'S YOUR TURN TO JOIN IN ON THE FUN!
One of the best ways to find the motivation to join the millions of
women who are already safely AND effectively meeting great men online
is by getting the RIGHT MINDSET for success.
That's exactly why I created my Click With Him program.
Along with an entire full-length program on online safety, you get
everything you need to get your profiles, pictures and everything
else JUST RIGHT.
It's all in one convenient place:
http://www.clickwithhim.com/50off
There's nothing I would rather see than success stories in my inbox
from YOU. You can absolutely, positively find the man of your dreams
online...and it's much easier than you might think.
I'm so sure you can find a great man online that I'm bringing back
my popular 50% off sale on Click With Him, just to make it even easier
for you.
No coupon code is necessary...but only for a limited time:
http://www.clickwithhim.com/50off
Click With Him is completely guaranteed to help you succeed online,
in fact you take a FULL YEAR to decide. And yes, all of those great
bonuses you'll see when you click that link above are yours to keep.
The Holidays are coming soon. Shouldn't TODAY be the day that you
marked off in your calendar as THE DAY you decided to take your
dating life back?
=====
12 TIPS FOR HAVING FUN ON DATES WHILE STAYING SAFE
"I'm afraid to meet a stranger online," said my friend Tina.
Tina is not alone in her concern regarding Internet dating safety.
This is one of the most common reasons why women choose not to get
online.
But it isn't only the men behind online dating profiles who are
complete strangers at first.
If you think about it, we're no better acquainted with the men we
meet on blind dates our friends set up for us or the men we meet
for the first time at the grocery store or social events.
Even co-workers who we know only in a work environment can be
called "strangers" because we do not know them on a personal level.
And meeting someone at a bar might actually be more potentially
"dangerous"--or at least "hazardous"--than meeting someone online.
The difference between meeting someone online vs. meeting at, say, a
bar is that at least online you can figure that most men have not been
drinking when you meet them, unlike the men in bars.
Plus, you don't really get an entire profile's worth of information
up front on any man you meet anywhere BUT online.
But here's the shocking part. Despite most women's concern about
meeting strangers, I've read studies that claim most women
are assaulted are by men they actually KNOW.
No wonder some women have given up entirely on dating due to fear
of finding themselves in a dangerous place.
If you ask me, that's very unfortunate. After all, despite the
trepidation some women feel, there really are LOTS of high quality
men out there who have only the best pf intentions for the woman of
their dreams.
So how can we have fun dating and meeting one of THOSE guys, all the
while ensuring our personal security?
Well, it makes sense to evaluate everything you can about a man
before you ever decide to go out on a date with him. Here are some
signs to look for to discern whether a man is trustworthy or not...
1) If the man is a single dad with any custody of the kids, then
the odds are that he is a good guy. Granted, there are aren't a
whole lot of men in that position, but if you find one you may
also find someone who actually "gets it"...especially if you too
are a single parent (and I know you're out there, mamas!)
2) If you meet him by happenstance, pay attention to his actions.
Is he consistent in his speech and behavior? Does he make perfect
sense or could he be in his own reality elsewhere? Is he giving
you your space?
3) Notice if he is trying to push you into something you're not
comfortable with yet (or ever will be). If he shows concern for
your safety and emotional well being then that is a very good sign
that he has your best interests at heart.
4) Did he offer to meet you at a café or other public place?
This gives you time to get to know him therefore become comfortable
with him before flying a "solo mission" with him.
If you are meeting someone for the first time, here are some
practical steps you can follow....
1) I just mentioned that a man should offer to meet you in a
public place. Make a list of places you are in fact comfortable with.
Meet in a public place like a restaurant, the movies, the zoo, a
ball game, shopping, or wherever there sure to be some people.
2) Be cautious of parks. Some parks are very secluded, and both
of you might find trouble--or rather trouble may find the both of you.
After all, safety is not always about him hurting you, per se. If
he's putting both of you in harm's way, that's a cavalier attitude
toward your safety.
3) Don't get in his car alone, until you are reasonably sure
he--and his driving habits--are safe.
4) If you feel comfortable enough at some point to go to his place
or somewhere relatively secluded, let a friend or family member know
who you are with and where you will be. And make sure he knows it.
5) Go one step further by actually checking in with your friend or
family member you have "on point" for you. Call when you get home
safely. Let him or her know that if you don't call they should be
alerted that something could be wrong. That said, don't forget to
call them if the date went overtime because you were having way too
much fun!
6) If you are at your place or his don't get heavy into kissing
and getting frisky if you're not going to have sex.
7) Double dating can actually be fun--and safer as well as entertaining.
An added benefit is that it can take some of the pressure off the both
of you.
8) Lastly you can also do a background check on him, utilizing
any number of web sites that offer this service inexpensively. Confirm
that he is truthful about his work place and residence. Don't
ever feel any guilt about doing this. After all, your safety is
the highest priority at all times.
So yes---make sure you do what it takes to stay safe. THEN...go out
and enjoy spending time with an exciting new guy!
I'll talk to you again soon. As always, be sure to send me your
questions and comments.
Have Fun,
Emily McKay
=====
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2013. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please use the
link below to remove yourself from our mailing list.