[X&Y Emily] Body Language And Being Quirky
Published: Thu, 12/13/07
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IN THIS ISSUE: Can you improve your body language while still
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BODY LANGUAGE AND BEING QUIRKY
Dear Emily,
Thank you so much for your e-mails. They are informative.
Congratulations! I saw photos of your son on your blog. He looks
beautiful. I hope you are doing well and your son as well.
Congratulations again.
I do have a few questions. First, what kind of body language makes
a man feel comfortable and allured to a woman? Second, with so much
relationship advice out there I feel like I could lose track of
who I really am. How do I be myself and still be irresistible? I don't
want to lose any of my interesting quirks. Thanks so much again!
Happy holiday season!
With warm regards,
Abha (India)
Thank you for being so sweet. I'm glad you enjoy these newsletters.
As for "Little Scot", he is happy and healthy, but HUNGRY! LOL :-)
Your question is a super one. Body language can cover so much, from
where the hands go to how to sit, walk, stand, open or close arms and
so on.
First of all you have to be relaxed and comfortable. All body
language (including gestures and motions) should above all be feminine.
For example, sitting down you can cross your legs at the knees, which
is very sexy or you can cross them at the ankles then put them to the
right side or left this of your body is sensual but tasteful. Whatever
the case, the key is to keep the knees together. The next time you're
in public pay attention to how women sit. You will find that nowadays
a lot of women sit like men. It would be compared to a man sitting
like a woman. It's a turn off. I asked Scot and he agreed 100%--so
men definitely notice these thing!
When it comes to dating advice, you have to pick that which makes you
a better person. There are lots of advice on how to trick men or
women and how to fake things. There are also a surprising number of
books on how to get over bad things and/or blame men for stuff. This
is the kind of advice to avoid. Such can often actually increase your
personal level of hurt and bitterness--which isn't making you a better
woman who will attract a man of high character.
You don't have to be someone you are not to get a man interested in
you. Being a great person and knowing how to demonstrate it will be
a big help on capturing a man's attraction towards you.
As far as the quirks, as long as it's not a masculine quirk like
burping the ABC's--or something so eccentric so as to become decidedly
creepy--I'm sure it is fine to keep. Depending on the quirk it could
be used to your advantage. Someone men will find them endearing...
even if it's something like a little snort when you laugh...LOL!
I think I'll make the Keys To Bliss topic for January all about the
subject of body language. You inspired me, Abha!
Thanks again for reading and for being so sweet.
Have fun,
Emily
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