[X&Y Emily] Have Fun While Being Safe
Published: Tue, 08/12/08
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DESERVE WHAT YOU WANT (WOMEN'S EDITION):
http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com/women
(E-book + Audiobook: Put Away The Past And Embrace The Future)
CLICK WITH HIM:
http://www.clickwithhim.com/online_dating
(Get Off The Couch, Get Out, And Be Social!)
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IN THIS EDITION: Safety is the #1 concern of most women when they're
starting out at online dating. Here are some very simple ways to
make online dating as safe--or even safer--than some of the other
kinds of dating we all know and love already...
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HAVE FUN WHILE BEING SAFE
"I'm afraid to meet a stranger online," said my friend Tina.
Tina is not alone in her concern regarding Internet dating safety.
This is one of the most common reasons why women choose not to get
online.
But strangers are not only found online. They are also the men we
meet on blind dates we're set up with by friends, or the men we meet
for the first time at social events.
Even co-workers who we know only in a work environment can be
called "strangers" because we do not know them on a personal level.
Meeting someone at a bar might actually be more potentially
"dangerous"--or at least "hazardous"--than meeting someone online.
The difference between meeting someone online vs. meeting at, say, a
bar is that at least online you can figure that most men have not been
drinking when you meet them, unlike the men in bars.
Perhaps even more telling, I've read studies that claim most women
are assaulted are by men they know--not by strangers.
No wonder some women have given up entirely on dating due to fear
of finding themselves in a dangerous place.
So how can we have fun dating and yet ensure our personal security?
Here are some signs to look for to discern whether a man is
trustworthy or not...
1) If the man is a single dad with any custody of the kids, then
the odds are that he is a good guy.
2) When you're in a man's company, pay attention to his actions.
Is he consistent in his speech and behavior? Is he being truthful
with you and others?
3) Notice if he is trying to push you into something you're not
comfortable with yet (or ever will be). If he shows concern for
your safety and emotional well being then that is a very good sign
that he has your best interests at heart.
4) Did he offer to meet you at a café or other public place?
This gives you time to get to know him therefore become comfortable
with him before flying a "solo mission" with him.
If you are meeting someone for the first time, here are some
practical steps you can follow....
1) I just mentioned that a man should offer to meet you in a
public place. Make a list of places you are in fact comfortable with.
Meet in a public place like a restaurant, the movies, the zoo, a
ball game, shopping, or wherever there sure to be some people.
2) Be cautious of parks. Some parks are very secluded, and both
of you might find trouble--or rather trouble may find the both of you.
After all, safety is not always about him hurting you, per se. If
he's putting both of you in harm's way, that's a cavalier attitude
toward your safety.
3) Don't get in his car alone, until you are reasonably sure
he--and his driving habits--are safe.
4) If you go to his place or somewhere relatively secluded, let
a friend or family member know who you are with and where you will be.
And make sure he knows it.
5) Go one step further by actually checking in with your friend or
family member you have "on point" for you. Call when you get home
safely. Let him or her know that if you don't call they should be
alerted that something could be wrong. That said, don't forget to
call them if the date went overtime because you were having way too
much fun! :->
6) If you are at your place or his don't get heavy into kissing
and getting frisky if you're not going to have sex.
7) Double dating can be fun--safer as well as entertaining. An
added benefit is that it can take some of the pressure off the both
of you.
8) Lastly you can also do a background check on him, utilizing
any number of web sites that offer this service inexpensively. Confirm
that he is truthful about his work place and residence. Don't
ever feel any guilt about doing this. After all, your safety is
the highest priority at all times.
So yes---make sure you do what it takes to stay safe. THEN...go out
and have fun dating!
One of the best ways to find the motivation to join the millions of
women who are already safely AND effectively meeting great men online
is by getting the RIGHT MINDSET for success.
That's exactly why I created my Click With Him program. Along with
an ENTIRE full-length program on online safety, I've got over 14 MORE
HOURS' worth of audio and video designed to help you get your
profiles, pictures and everything else JUST RIGHT.
Find out more about Click With Him right here:
http://www.clickwithhim.com/online_dating
There's nothing I would rather see than success stories in my inbox
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online...and it's much easier than you might think.
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Here's that link again:
http://www.clickwithhim.com/online_dating
Shouldn't TODAY be the day that you marked off in your calendar as
THE DAY you decided to take your dating life back?
I'll talk to you again soon. As always, be sure to send me your
questions and comments.
Have Fun,
Emily McKay
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