[X&Y] You Can Get A Beautiful, Sexy Girlfriend. Here's Why I Know For Sure.

Published: Mon, 06/06/22



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IN THIS EDITION:  You're about to find out why any guy can get a
sexy woman.  More importantly, you'll also discover why you can
and should be much more than just "any guy".

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ANY MAN CAN GET A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN...AND HERE'S WHY


Not too long ago Emily and I were hanging out at an upscale Irish
pub near where we live.  

During a trip to the bar for a pint of Guinness, as any self-
respecting man would partake of at such a fine establishment, I
couldn't help but notice a woman who's own self-respect seemed
decidedly in doubt.

She was probably no more than 23.  A petite brunette with a bright
smile and the personality to match.  And for the record, she had a
body that would make most men take notice.

Now here's the crazy part.  Brace yourself.

With her were two guys.  I'm not going to describe them to you
physically because that doesn't matter.

Suffice it to say that neither carried himself in a way that's
indicative of a "big four" man who deserves what he wants.

One in particular probably hadn't taken a shower in several days. 

In fact, think of any "limiting belief" you want, and one of these
guys, the other or maybe even both probably fit the description
to textbook specification.

But the pretty girl wasn't only WITH these two guys, she was all
over them.

At one point she was shamelessly grinding her tail into one guy
while LICKING the other guy...all the while giggling and flirting
back and forth.

The guys, for their part, took turns staring wide-eyed in shock at
one another and laughing their heads off in joyful disbelief.

So to top it all off, these two were less than suave and debonair
about the whole thing.

Here it is, gang.  By nobody's standards did these guys have any
game whatsoever.

About now you're probably expecting me to encourage you to get
over whatever "limiting belief" you have and go out there and talk
to some sexy women.

Well, yeah.  But that's obvious. 

What I want to do here is take things to another level for you by
pointing out HOW and WHY this sort of scenario would ever
occur...and why YOU should aspire to a much more evolved level
of success with women than that.

So as it turns out, Emily had also seen the whole episode I just
described to you.  She offered an immediate explanation without
having to think twice.

A woman with particularly low-self esteem will sometimes actually
punish herself by flirting with the grossest guys she can find and
letting them get all over her.  

Crazy, isn't it?

So yeah, if you are a pretty gross dude, take heart.  There are
sexy women out there literally seeking you out.

And were we all that shallow around here, that would be your
"lesson of the day".  Then I'd probably go and write some book on
how to pick up strippers or something.

By the way, for any of you who may be figuring the young woman
we observed was being paid for her efforts, I can only ask what
difference it makes?

Either way she utterly lacks self-respect, and the fact remains
that she's punishing herself...be it for leisure OR profit.

But for what it's worth, she WASN'T a "paid escort". Curious sort
that I am, I found out in the most tactful way I could.

So enough about what happened at the Irish Pub.  Let's talk about
YOU now.  

Having established the truth that you could most certainly go
find a self-punishing hottie with zero self-respect, I want you
to know I have a much higher-level vision for you.

As such I prefer to frame things in a different perspective.

Forget settling for a woman who's merely "beautiful".  That should
be a given.

ANY man who is about deserving what he wants--and who wants
only the women who bring the "whole package" to the table--can
feel free to expect MUCH, MUCH more than just a woman who
looks good.

"Hot" truly isn't enough for a "big four" man.  The woman you
value should also value HERSELF.  That makes for a much more
fulfilling relationship, long-term OR short-term.

To illustrate this as vividly as I know how, let's get under the
hood and find out how self-esteem is affected differently in men
than in women.

If you were a man who suddenly woke up and had every woman in
the world crazy about you, you'd probably get a significant ego
boost from that.

But I can't really say I've seen too many dudes grinding up against
a cackling throng of utterly unattractive women in order to
"punish themselves".  (Then again, I've never been to a
"Chippendales" show either, thankfully.)

That's because sexual desirability is generally NOT a source of
self-esteem for women like it is for men.  In fact it can be the
exact opposite.  

When a woman learns at a very young age that she is sexually
desirable to men, there are inherent social dangers involved.  

Quite possibly, she is continuously met with advances from guys who
only want to use her sexually.  

If she doesn't perceive there to be much depth to anyone's interest
in her beyond something purely sexual, she may begin to believe in
her own mind that her worth is limited to sexual desirability.

So then, since she is so used to the flattery and perceives purely
sexual intentions behind it, there's no help to her self-esteem
there.

Worse, with the stigma placed on female sexuality in this society,
if she feels that all people perceive her to be good for is a
sexual thrill, then she can quickly start believing very negative
things about herself.

Ultimately, she might become conditioned to value HERSELF very
little.

So what does this mean to you as a guy?

If you read most men's dating and seduction advice, it teaches us
as guys to prioritize "getting the lay" as the main goal.  There's
little mention of finding holistic value in women.

Now don't get me wrong.  I think most of us can agree that sex is a
good thing.

But if you are purely sex-focused, what you MUST realize is you
are feeding the disease.

After all, the #MeToo movement is, when viewed optimistically, about
women reclaiming their dignity, personal empowerment and self-
esteem.

And remember, for every woman who hates herself for being
considered purely a "sex object", there's one of us out there who
is ashamed of his own male sexuality, having been brainwashed into
believing that WE AS MEN are to blame for women's problems with
self-esteem and the like.

Make no mistake...there are plenty of OTHER women out there with
low self-esteem who respond to being conditioned as "sex objects"
in anger rather than self-punishment.

What a mess, right?  It's no wonder we as guys get so confused
when relating to so many broken women out there.  The message
is completely inconsistent from one woman with low self-esteem to
the next.

Then what happens is it all becomes a vicious cycle.  Both men
AND women end up worse off than ever for their trouble.

So yes, there are some women out there with such issues that
they'll let any guy have his way with them, as we've seen above.

BUT...there are other women--in far greater numbers--who simply
find it easy to REJECT men who appear to want them only for sex.

To those women, YOU are part of the PROBLEM, not the SOLUTION.
 
So guys who are sex-focused are blind to how many of the women
who reject them indeed have low self-esteem.  

Either that, or they're encountering women who have HIGH self-
esteem.  Enough to know that they aren't going to settle for a guy
who only wants sex.  

Either way, that guy will LOSE.  And again,he's dealing with
confusing mixed-messages.  

Now, if you like the thought of being the guy women "punish
themselves with", you might also revel in the thought of "getting
lucky" sometimes.

And make no mistake, that's going to be the extent of your "luck".

Now for the weirdest part of all.  Here's the wisdom that you as a
"big four" man stand to gain the most from.

Sometimes a woman's "self punishment" can involve turning away
GOOD men, even as they invite gross dudes to use them.

She might even flatly refuse potentially interested men who have
a solid, respectful, holistic approach to identifying and associating
themselves with great women.  

It's not unheard of for such women to drive such guys away because
they may not feel they're good enough for them.

At times they may even push good men away because it threatens
their narrative of "all men being jerks", etc.  (For what it's worth,
that's not unlike what's going on in the heads of many MGTOW guys
regarding women.)

This is NOT to be confused with rejection.  This should be
considered part of the natural "weeding out" process that you as a
man of high standards undertakes.

You should actually be thankful for the self-elimination of women
who lack self-esteem.  That way you don't get blindsided upon
getting into an ill-advised relationship with them.

So after the dust clears, which women are left?  

Value women on a deeper level than purely as sexual conquests, and
gain the advantage of more quickly identifying the most fantastic,
beautiful women out there who also happen to have tremendous
emotional health and stability.

And as a nice surprise, you'll find that the highest echelon of
women on Earth WANT to be close to you BY CHOICE.

Either that or go find a woman who's willing to "punish herself" by
being with you.  It's all up to you, really.  

So what's it going to be?

Deserve what you want, guys.  It's the only way to fly.


 
 




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