[X&Y] You Can't Fake This (And That's A Good Thing)

Published: Thu, 06/16/22

You can run, but you cannot hide. You're going to be found out...one way or another.

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IN THIS EDITION:  You can run, but you cannot hide.  You're going
to be found out...one way or another.

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YOU CAN'T FAKE THIS (THANK GOODNESS)


   "When he flirts with danger, danger gets clingy."

   --Most Interesting Man In The World commercial


The other day I was on a coaching call with a guy. 

As so often is the case, the concepts of neediness and
desperation came up during the course of conversation.

You don't need me to remind you that these two
issues are often seen together, kind of like mold and
mildew.

And yes, millions of men worldwide watch their
chances with women go up in smoke on a regular basis
because of them.

But here's the simple point I want to get across today.

Have you ever stopped to consider that both neediness
and desperation are nearly IMPOSSIBLE to fake?

Seriously...the only way you'll EVER look needy OR
desperate in front of a woman (or anyone else, for that
matter) is if you really ARE needy or desperate.

Think about it.  What actually DRIVES neediness and
desperation?

It's LACK of options and therefore FEAR of loss.

If you HAVE options and aren't really concerned about
losing, then you'll NEVER come off as if you DON'T
have options and that you're AFRAID everything is
going to slip through your fingers.

In fact, you'd probably be up for an Academy Award
if you could successfully fool ANYONE into thinking
you ARE fearful and lack confidence when neither is
the case.

Basically, desperate is as desperate does.

All of this is either good news or bad news,
depending on your mindset.

For example, if you're afraid that you're going to
blow your chances with a woman whose number you
just got, you're probably going to e-mail me and ask
me how many days you should wait before you call
her.

If you in fact succeed at scheduling a date with her,
you might wonder aloud if you should call her between
now and when the date is scheduled...and if so, how
many times.

Unfortunately, in either case you'll simply be making
granular plans for when exactly you're going to come
off as needy and desperate in the woman's eyes.

That's because the opposite (and darker) side of the
coin is also very true.  If you ARE needy and desperate,
you really can't fake casual, confident optimism either.

In the end, this all really does boil down to OPTIMISM
vs. PESSIMISM.

And yes, that hinges on CONFIDENCE or lack
thereof.

I promise you I'm telling you the truth when I say that
confident, optimistic men can call women WHENEVER
they want, as SOON as they'd like to.  And they'll
NEVER look needy or desperate.

Sure, if they overdo it they may come off as high
maintenance, and that could be an issue unto itself.

But that's a topic for a different day.

So then, what's the common thread between virtually
ALL guys who ruin their chances with women on a regular
basis?

If you guessed that they believe UP FRONT that they're
likely to mess things up before they even get started,
you're absolutely correct.

Meanwhile, after 16 years of constant immersion in
dating and relationship stuff, I'm STILL amazed how the
SINGLE BIGGEST indicator of success with women is
BOLD OPTIMISM.

Guys who BELIEVE women will like them end up being
correct a staggeringly high percentage of the time.

Either way, you're a self-fulfilling prophecy.  After all,
women really do follow a man's lead.

And whether we choose to believe it or not, that
positive, confident mindset really does make women
HORNY.

Meanwhile, thinking and acting like Eeyore from Winnie
The Pooh turns them off like stadium lights during the
Super Bowl.

So what's it going to be? 

I'm optimistically confident that you'll make the right
choice...and it'll be because you can't help yourself.


 
 




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