[X&Y] What To Do If She Can't Stand You (Total Reversal)
Published: Sat, 05/21/22
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IN THIS EDITION: You used to get along with her, but you don't
anymore. Want to make things right? Read on...
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"BUT SCOT, I'M NOT IN THE GODFATHER."
As great a story of respect as Mario Puzo's
classic saga was, some of you had that response
after I brought it up the other day talking about
the upcoming Masterclass For Men this Wednesday:
Bold Assertiveness Earns Respect - 05/22/22 @ 8p EDT
https://programs.deservewhatyouwant.com/mc-may-2022
No doubt, I fully get that you're a decent, reasonably
normal guy who's "legit". I'm right there with you.
To be clear: You don't have to be Don Corleone.
You don't have to be Samuel L. Jackson in Pulp Fiction
or Sam Elliott in 1883, either.
The main goal of the masterclass is to elevate your REAL,
AUTHENTIC self to a place where you get the respect you
ALREADY DESERVE...
...from both women AND other men.
Bold assertiveness can be as simple as making sure
your name is in the conversation for that promotion.
It can make the difference the next time you talk to
customer service.
Sometimes it's the easy, uncomplicated step of
suggesting to a woman that you go out together
rather than merely asking.
The bolder, more assertive version of you who
people RESPECT is simply the BEST version of
you...the slightly more evolved version.
No more getting "alpha-ed" by other men.
No more banishment to the "just be friends" zone
from women because you're such a "nice guy".
And if you have a woman in your life now,
no more nagging and no more double-standards.
No more missed opportunities and no more
regrets.
See the list of what's going to be covered and
grab your ticket here:
Bold Assertiveness Earns Respect - 05/22/22 @ 8p EDT
https://programs.deservewhatyouwant.com/mc-may-2022
This Masterclass will open your entire world up to
getting more of what you want, or your money
back.
And yes...if you can't make it for the live event,
I've arranged it so you get full access to the HD
video AND get to ask all of your questions after
the fact:
Bold Assertiveness Earns Respect - 05/22/22 @ 8p EDT
https://programs.deservewhatyouwant.com/mc-may-2022
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SHE CAN'T STAND YOU. NOW WHAT?
Is there a woman in your world who you've developed some sort of
"bad blood" with?
If you've committed some sort of egregious felony against her,
that's one thing. But I think most of us have at least one woman
in our lives who we're not getting along with, all because of some
rift that was relatively minor.
Maybe the two of you USED to be cool with each other. It's quite
possible there was even mutual attraction.
Then SOMETHING weird happened and bam...now she really can't
stand you. And frankly, the thought of her raises your blood pressure
as well.
What happened there really doesn't matter for the purpose at hand.
Instead, I'm going to show you how to make things right with her
again.
You see, here's the thing. I have reason to suspect that you'd
really rather have the freedom to LIKE her again.
And were you able to read her true thoughts and feelings, my guess
is that she feels the same way. Most women really tend to avoid
discord and conflict if and when they can.
So then, what's the plan of action?
First, it's important to recognize how easily emotion can flip over
to its mirror image. For example, amity can be transformed to
enmity in practically an instant. All it takes is for someone to
do something wrong unto the other.
Oddly, however, the STRENGTH of that emotion stands. If she
REALLY liked you, then should the emotion get flipped she'll
REALLY dislike you.
Following logically, though, this means that if emotion has been
flipped ONCE toward the negative, that emotion should be able to be
flipped BACK OVER again toward the positive just as easily, right?
Unbeknownst to many, that logic indeed prevails in the real world
quite often. All may not be lost after all.
You may not even REMEMBER why you got into a tiff with a particular
woman. But if you're good and sick of disliking her, and even more
ready to have her like you again then here's the winning strategy:
Do something good for her.
Disarmingly simple, isn't it? Granted, "simple" may not translate
to "easy" in this case, especially if pride and egos are involved.
But make no mistake about it. If you can "bury the hatchet" and
successfully convince yourself to defy nature and do something
POSITIVE and CONSTRUCTIVE for someone you've experienced
friction with lately, two MAGICAL effects will come from it.
Interestingly, both are actually based on rather iron-clad
psychological laws.
The first is often referred to as "The Law Of Reciprocity":
People generally feel compelled to give back to those to give to
them first.
In other words, if revenge is a dish best served cold, then
generosity is a dish best served warm. It goes both ways.
Extend the proverbial olive branch to a woman, and she'll likely
accept. Do something cool for her, and she'll return the favor.
Say, for example, you see on Facebook that she's having trouble
with something that you could theoretically help her with. Drop
her a note and freely give her that solution.
Your gift to her may instead come in the form of make her feel safe
and comfortable somehow and/or "bringing out the playful". Look
for the opportunity and seize it.
It's important to let your gesture stand alone. If you attempt to
qualify it in any way, especially a snarky one (e.g. "See? I'm
being nice to you...which is more than I could ever expect from YOU
these days."), then you'll ruin everything.
In other words, not a lot of talk, just action.
She'll sense that you've given her a gift. And thus the ball is
rolling.
Yes, it will involve swallowing your negative energy and perhaps
even defying nature. But do it anyway. Be the one who takes that
risk and has the guts to trust how the human mind tends to work.
Enhancing the beauty of this strategy is the simple fact that women
tend to follow a man's lead. Get ready for the magic to happen.
In my own personal experience, I have to admit that the first few
times I put this psychological principle to the test I was
absolutely floored by the results.
I've seen amazing transformations in my relationships with certain
people happen with just one e-mail or quick phone call. It really,
really works.
So yes...even though it sounds way too simple, you now know how to
turn a woman's ire back into adoration (or at least get her to make
a u-turn on that road).
Ah...but remember I promised you TWO magical effects, not just one.
The second psychological law associated with the act of doing
something positive for someone else is arguably even more powerful
(and crazier):
You CANNOT feel negatively towards someone you do something
positive for.
That's right, your positive act actually has a transformational
effect on your OWN emotions.
No kidding, put this one to the test. Do a favor for someone you
don't like and feel your mindset change toward that person. It's a
weird, almost supernatural event.
So there you have it, one simple action, two psychological laws.
The first psychological law takes care of HER negative feelings and
causes her to feel affection toward YOU again.
The second psychological law transforms YOUR negative feelings,
enabling YOU to actually like HER again.
Voila...problem solved.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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