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IN THIS EDITION:  Match.com FINALLY asked me to write
about the secrets to finding "the one" online.  It's about time.

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That means that guys who DO ask the right questions end up
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6 KEYS TO MEETING YOUR DREAM WOMAN ONLINE

[NOTE:  This was originally written for Match.com's blog,
so it's not gender specific.]

 
First, let's get something out of the way.  Dating should not be
drudgery.  

If you're mindset is such that you're hoping a site like Match.com
will be your "golden parachute" delivering you from singleness,
then you risk having both your profile and your communications
to others tainted by a distinct aura of desperation.

Instead, it's much better to enjoy the ride, as it were.  There are
tons of exciting people to meet on a site like Match.com.  

Although not everyone is going to be THE one, it really is a lot of
fun to build your social circle and--yes--even learn from the inevitable
mistake or two along the way.   

After all, having a few extra stories to tell can come in handy
someday.

With that said, here's something that I trust will encourage you.  
I met my wife Emily on Match.com.  She's the most amazing
woman I've ever known, beautiful inside and out.  

It's as if I sent a requisition to God detailing exactly who I
wanted for a mate, and He sent me Emily.  

Twelve years later our relationship is still going strong.  In fact,
for the last eleven or so we've dedicated our time as professional
dating coaches to enabling others all over the world find the kind
of happiness we found.

So how did we do it?  Let me give you a half-dozen objective tips
that will maximize both your ability and your readiness to meet a
great lifelong partner on Match.com:



1)  Be One Half Of A Great Relationship


We continue to be shocked by the central message of most mainstream
dating advice, which seems to talk mostly about "getting what you
want" in a mate.   

Although that's important, you've just got to put the horse before
the cart.  You've got to deserve what you want.

That means that you've got to think first about what YOU bring to a
relationship.  Do you truly represent what MOTOS (members of the
other sex) want?  

I'll give you a hint:  It's not that hard to figure out.  

Both men and women want a confident partner who sparks masculine/
feminine polarity.  Feeling safe and comfortable around someone
we're attracted to is all-important, and that's underscored long-
term by having strong character.

Are you the best version of your authentic self that you know how
to be?  Or are you still listing a litany of items in your profile
that your future mate had better be able to check off?



2)  Remain Positive


Let's just spell it out.  People who complain a lot and generally
expect the worst are bummers.

It's natural to be suspect of the online dating process,
particularly at the very beginning when you haven't even had your
first e-mail conversation with someone yet, let alone actually met
anyone.

But rest assured that if you've got the first point above in order,
you WILL succeed at meeting interesting people on Match.com.  

With that in mind, be sure to avoid the temptation to write lines
into your profile such as, "I don't know why I'm here", "I'm not
sure this is going to work", "This seems hopeless, but..."

Keep your profile and your messages light and upbeat, and watch
others literally queue up for a chance to join in on the fun of
being a part of your reality.



3)  Stand Out From The Crowd


I call them, "comma chameleons".  They're the ones whose profiles
contain little more than a comma-delimited list of adjectives
describing "who they are and who they're looking for".  

But when you get right down to it, just about anyone could say
they're, "funny, smart, interesting and adventurous".  And just
about everyone says that they want those sort of things in someone
else.

Indeed, we were all taught back in school to "follow directions"
when writing essays, right?  So when it comes time to compose our
Match.com narrative we simply answer the question.  

Unfortunately, that results in an overwhelming percentage of
generic, ho-hum profiles.



4)  Boldly Represent Your Gender


Remember that men are on Match.com to meet women, and women
are there to meet men.  With that in mind, be sure to let your natural
masculinity or femininity shine.   

Too many people "play it safe", as if presenting themselves as
sexually polarized individuals will somehow offend others.  So
they, in essence, portray themselves as neuter in their profiles.

After composing your profile, ask yourself this simple question:
Is it 100% evident that someone of MY gender wrote these words?  If
not, take a chance and take pride in having been born a man or a
woman.   

Don't be afraid to flirt a little, either.  Remember, flirting
doesn't have to be sexually overt--it's simply ANY communication
that you'd have with members of the gender you're attracted to.



5)  Think In Terms Of "First Meetings" Rather Than "First Dates"


Many of us are naturally "serial daters".  That means we feel most
comfortable dating one person at a time and seeing where it
eventually leads before continuing on to someone else.

The bottom line, however, is that life is too short for that.  You
just can't afford to spend weeks, months or even years with someone
only to ultimately realize that the two of you are all wrong for
each other.

One of the most important and valuable aspects of online dating is
that it allows you to evaluate MOTOS rather quickly.

If someone's profile and/or e-mail message intrigues you, don't
hesitate to move the conversation to the phone.  

If the call goes well, arrange a time to meet for coffee before work
or a quick lunch.  Any casual, inexpensive scenario with a fixed
timeline is fine.  

There's no need to be overly worried about security if you meet in
broad daylight at a public venue.  Also, mobile phones cannot be
traced.

With this strategy, you can meet lots of people very rapidly.  

The added benefit--not to be underestimated--is that you also get an
outstanding idea of what you're really looking for in a partner far
more quickly than you would as a serial dater.

Importantly, these "first meetings" really aren't "dates" at all,
are they?   If and when you find you have chemistry with someone
you meet, then it's time to think about planning to meet again--this
time knowing that sparks are bound to fly.



6)  Stay Level-Headed


Once you meet someone on Match.com who really floats your
proverbial boat, it's understandably tempting to be REALLY excited.

But remember, the very first person you meet online might not be
the BEST match for you.  It's important to realize that if you've
attracted one person who you find attractive in return, you'll very
likely meet others--many others.

Keep your options open for a while, especially at the beginning.
Enjoy the fun of filling your social calendar and meeting new
people.  

Don't even think about entering into an exclusive relationship
with someone until you're altogether sure you know what you want
in a mate and you're also sure you're ready to end your dating
journey.

Above all, take special care to avoid getting roped into what I
call "dating online", which is not to be confused with "online
dating".  

Remember, Match.com is meant to be a tool designed to actually
get you in front of interesting people--live and in person.

But unfortunately, I've heard from far too many people who've
somehow allowed themselves to develop strong feelings for someone
in a far-flung region who they haven't ever even met yet.

Resist the thought of searching for the "perfect" mate hundreds or
even thousands of miles away, particularly if you live in a decent
sized metro area.   

In order to gauge true compatibility, you must first get to know
the real person.  Then, you've got to spend a LOT of time together.

Emily lived about 20 minutes away from me, and we knew almost
immediately that we were likely meant for each other.  But that
didn't stop us from spending a tremendous amount of time together
for nearly a full year before tying the knot.



So there you have it.   Much of what I've just delineated may seem
like common sense.  But all too often "common" sense turns out not
to be all that "common" when it comes to affairs of the heart,
right?

Be excited about your time on Match.com and enjoy every minute of
it.   

Not every person you encounter will be right for you, but doesn't
that really make the moment that much more exciting when you really
do click with someone all the more amazing?


Be Good,

Scot McKay


 

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