[X&Y] Handling Tricky Questions From Women
Published: Thu, 09/15/22
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IN THIS EDITION: How should we answer women's questions...
especially the awkward ones?
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WHERE DOES IT ALL START WITH A GREAT WOMAN?
One of the best parts of being a man is when you first meet a
woman, you're in total control.
It may not feel like it if you've always believed women have all
the power.
But think about it like this...
You decide which woman you're attracted to.
You approach her. You ask her out. You make the plans.
And BOOM...everything goes GREAT.
You REALLY like her. Better than any of the other women
you've met lately.
So you make her your girlfriend, and she's as THRILLED as
you are.
But THEN--out of the blue--something happens.
Now SHE'S in control.
You and your other "taken" buddies laugh when you refer
to your respective girlfriends as "The Boss".
...That's assuming you actually get to hang out with them
anymore.
She's making the social plans now.
She's not shy about trying to "fix" you in some way.
The next thing you know, you've moved in together. Your
bedroom is pink and green and there are twelve pillows on
the bed.
Meanwhile, your favorite stuff is mostly GONE.
THEN, you stop connecting together like you once did.
You're having FAR less sex than you used to.
And after ALL OF THAT, she's clearly not happy.
You sense everything is going south fast...but you have
NO idea what to do.
WHAT HAPPENED?
Well, I'll tell you. You had the first part about actually getting
a girlfriend handled, but when you finally met the RIGHT
woman, not so much.
You didn't take an active role in making the relationship
great.
Gentlemen...THIS is why Get Together, Stay Together is
my most important program ever:
https://www.gettogetherstaytogether.com
From the very first Featured Audio in the program we
hit the ground running on how to get the right relationship
off to the right start.
From there, you'll find a treasure chest of golden 20/20
foresight about EVERYTHING that makes for an incredible
long-term relationship.
All I can say is get ready for the unexpected. You'll be
amazed by how well you'll feel prepared TODAY to
meet the woman of your dreams when she appears.
Let me be 100% clear:
YES... Whether you've found her yet or not, you have
GOT to be ready for a great relationship with the right
woman the day you meet her.
That means you have to know NOW what you'll need
to know THEN.
This goes way beyond leading and managing the
relationship. It's about making sure your life together
is not only built to last, but a freaking GREAT life for
both of you:
https://www.gettogetherstaytogether.com
Take a look at everything we cover in that program
and you'll instinctively know you'll be ready for
ANYTHING.
=====
ANSWERING TRICKY QUESTIONS FROM WOMEN
It went on for probably thousands of years.
A man would meet a woman. The woman would ask simple questions.
The man would answer.
Then the woman would follow up with the truly sticky questions.
At that point, the man would get the "deer in the headlights look".
Then, along came David D. et al who offered a disarmingly elegant
solution: Never give a woman a straight answer.
And as crazy as it sounded, the truth was that such a strategy
often worked amazingly well.
For starters, it kept first and second dates from degenerating into
"job interviews".
And let me tell you, as much as you and I know how much those kind
of "dates" S-U-C-K (capital letters intentional), I've met two more
"lady gurus" within the last two weeks alone who actually go around
intentionally teaching women to ask a bunch of hardball questions on
first dates.
As if that's how women endear themselves to us.
Nice advice, huh?
So yes...women will come at you with zingers like, "How many women
have you slept with?" WAY, WAY sooner than you might think.
And to give a straight answer in such situations may be
devastating, especially to questions involving sexual experience.
Heck, there may be no "right" answer to some of those. No matter
WHAT you tell her she's not going to want to hear it.
So why does she ask? Believe me, I'd like to know also.
But that in and of itself is probably the WRONG direction to go
with her too, if you get right down to it.
Neither is, "You first", by the way. She just might answer. Then
what?
So the prevailing recommendation remains to inject humor into the
scenario and give her a preposterously funny and unreasonable
pseudo-answer:
Her: "How many women have you slept with?"
Him: "Oh, let me see... Nine thousand, four hundred--no wait, TEN
thousand SIX hundred and one. Well, make that six hundred and
TWO, if we count you." [followed by three seconds of a straight face,
then a wry smile punctuated with laughter and shaking your head]
Or how about this gem?
Her: "When was the last time you had sex?"
Him: [looks at watch] "Two hours and thirty...[pause]...seven
minutes ago"
Guys, there's no doubt about it. If you are not about lying to
women, then you've got to be 100% about knowing how to change
the subject when women ask questions on dates that they don't
want to hear the answer to.
You DO NOT owe a stranger your life story up front.
And if she's fishing for all the negatives before giving herself any
opportunity to find out the positives, then that may be all you need
to know about her.
Here's a secret: A mature, high quality woman is not going to
press you into divulging information she knows she doesn't want to
hear.
A man and a woman on a date should first figure out if they even
LIKE each other's company before drilling down to the depths of the
netherworld of sexual pasts and so forth.
Now if you're hiding the fact that you still live with your parents
...or that you've done ten years of hard time ...or that you're STILL
MARRIED, I can't help you.
You're on your own there. She's probably going to need to know
those things sometime before things get too serious. Sorry, man.
But here's the part that I think is particularly crazy.
It has occurred to me that a ton of guys take this whole bit about
"not giving women straight answers" a bit too far.
They apply the strategy to ANY and EVERY question a woman
asks, not just the ones for which there is no good answer.
Look, I completely get that if you let her manhandle the
conversation with a bunch of Q & A, you're handing over your
masculine power and WILL NOT be respected as a man who can
lead.
But even so, I'd say you'd better have a bit more depth to your
portfolio of situational wisdom than simply "avoiding direct
answers".
Here's a pair of examples to illustrate what I mean:
Her: "So, what do you do for a living?"
Him: "Oh, I'm a 'diesel fitter'."
Her: "Really? What's that?"
Him: "I inspect the panty hose at the department store and say,
'diesel fitter'."
Her: "Haha! Seriously. What's your real job?"
Him: "I work at Six Flags directing traffic. At the bumper cars."
Similarly:
Her: "So, do you have a girlfriend?"
Him: "Girlfriend? I'm way past that. I'm married."
Her: "Seriously?"
Him: "Actually, I've got FIVE wives. I like watching them fight
over who's gonna cook me dinner. Fun stuff."
Unfortunately, I've received emails recounting situations very
similar to each of the two above within the past week or so.
And in the real world, both guys DID NOT get a second date.
Instead, the women pretty much disappeared off the face of the
Earth after the first date.
FAIL. And why?
Well, simply put, when you don't give a straight answer when a
straight answer is absolutely called for, you leave the woman with
no choice but to assume the worst.
Now granted, when you change the subject and/or refuse to give an
answer to the sexually incriminating questions, she'll probably
assume the worst also.
But at least she may have the presence of mind to realize you were
simply being kind enough to spare her the conversation...for now,
at least.
When it comes down to appearing jobless or married though, you'll
generally find women are WAY less forgiving.
The sad part here?
In the "real world" versions of the examples I just gave, the first
guy had a GREAT job, and the second wasn't even SEEING any
other women besides the one he was with.
So they retained their "power", I guess...but they LOST the woman.
And the tragic part is that the REAL power was really present in
the correct answers, weren't they?
Being a great guy with a good job is preferable to being jobless,
isn't it?
And being eligible is far superior in the eyes of a quality woman
to being a cheater, isn't it?
Think about it...why fail to leverage all that POWER in favor of
withholding straight answers?
Why think "defense" while your "offense" is riding the bench?
It really is silly when you think about it, isn't it?
What, then, is the practical solution, here?
How do we keep control of the conversation, but make sure the
positive facts about ourselves are clearly articulated?
This is where you have to think out of the box.
That means looking at the gray area. It doesn't have to be
black and white.
What you do is give her the funny, entertaining answer FIRST,
let her respond, THEN share the real answer.
Example:
Her: "What do you do for a living?"
Him: "Well, I used to transport political refugees from Honduras
via 18-wheeler, but it stopped being so lucrative after I forgot to
leave the air vent open that one time."
Her: [speechless...slackjawed...finally laughing out loud] "Yes,
well I can imagine you've probably been bogged down in legal stuff
since that fateful moment, huh? [giggles]
Him: "Yeah, pretty rough going. So I've had to go back to being
a regional marketing manager for XYZ company to pay the bills."
Her: "Oh, okay...I see." [still laughing]
Him: "But I sure do miss the open road..."
You can see how in this situation you keep control of the flow of
the conversation while being utterly entertaining.
All the while, you are sending a subtle message that interview
questions on first dates are a silly idea. Do you see how that is
sub-communicated?
Meanwhile, and perhaps more importantly, you've clearly
demonstrated that you're going to be able to field whatever she
hits your way like you're an all-star shortstop.
And THAT, my good man, leads to fewer hard questions.
After all, you will have demonstrated an ability to inspire her
confidence, all in concert with your masculine confidence.
But what about actually keeping your powder dry enough to have
solid answers to women's questions...even the SEXUAL ones?
Well, that's called CHARACTER.
Get all of that down, and you'll have hammered home the kind of
"big four" guy you are.
Sound complicated?
It doesn't have to be. In fact, you were BORN to be the guy who
gets all of this stuff right.
And that's what Get Together, Stay Together does. As I mentioned
above, it's all about keeping the ball rolling after the relationship
starts...and then LONG into the future with a great woman.
So for now, have fun, entertain her and keep her on her toes.
But please don't ever withhold "straight answers" with a death grip
just for the sake of doing so. As we've just seen, that's one of
the deadliest tactical errors you can make on a first date.
If you have a first date ahead of you within the next few days or so,
keep what I've shared with you today in mind. You'll be glad you
did.
And by all means WRITE ME when this information ends up coming in
handy...because it almost certainly will.
P.S. Just a quick reminder to you guys that this newsletter is
NOT expressly about just meeting women, and is therefore VERY
DIFFERENT than some of the others you may subscribe to.
I've noticed lately that several guys have actually unsubscribed,
saying that they've loved the content but either "got a girlfriend"
or "don't want [their] girlfriend finding this in [their] inbox".
Let me encourage you guys. Once you have a great woman in
your life, that only means you should read most of these
newsletters TWICE. And definitely get your hands on
Get Together, Stay Together.
Sure, we talk about meeting women from time to time, but by far
the majority of our discussions involve going from GOOD to
GREAT with women...a process that is ongoing in any man's life.
And if your new girlfriend is upset by you wanting to become a
better man enough to complain about your e-mails on the
subject?
For that, words fail me.
IN THIS EDITION: How should we answer women's questions...
especially the awkward ones?
=====
WHERE DOES IT ALL START WITH A GREAT WOMAN?
One of the best parts of being a man is when you first meet a
woman, you're in total control.
It may not feel like it if you've always believed women have all
the power.
But think about it like this...
You decide which woman you're attracted to.
You approach her. You ask her out. You make the plans.
And BOOM...everything goes GREAT.
You REALLY like her. Better than any of the other women
you've met lately.
So you make her your girlfriend, and she's as THRILLED as
you are.
But THEN--out of the blue--something happens.
Now SHE'S in control.
You and your other "taken" buddies laugh when you refer
to your respective girlfriends as "The Boss".
...That's assuming you actually get to hang out with them
anymore.
She's making the social plans now.
She's not shy about trying to "fix" you in some way.
The next thing you know, you've moved in together. Your
bedroom is pink and green and there are twelve pillows on
the bed.
Meanwhile, your favorite stuff is mostly GONE.
THEN, you stop connecting together like you once did.
You're having FAR less sex than you used to.
And after ALL OF THAT, she's clearly not happy.
You sense everything is going south fast...but you have
NO idea what to do.
WHAT HAPPENED?
Well, I'll tell you. You had the first part about actually getting
a girlfriend handled, but when you finally met the RIGHT
woman, not so much.
You didn't take an active role in making the relationship
great.
Gentlemen...THIS is why Get Together, Stay Together is
my most important program ever:
https://www.gettogetherstaytogether.com
From the very first Featured Audio in the program we
hit the ground running on how to get the right relationship
off to the right start.
From there, you'll find a treasure chest of golden 20/20
foresight about EVERYTHING that makes for an incredible
long-term relationship.
All I can say is get ready for the unexpected. You'll be
amazed by how well you'll feel prepared TODAY to
meet the woman of your dreams when she appears.
Let me be 100% clear:
YES... Whether you've found her yet or not, you have
GOT to be ready for a great relationship with the right
woman the day you meet her.
That means you have to know NOW what you'll need
to know THEN.
This goes way beyond leading and managing the
relationship. It's about making sure your life together
is not only built to last, but a freaking GREAT life for
both of you:
https://www.gettogetherstaytogether.com
Take a look at everything we cover in that program
and you'll instinctively know you'll be ready for
ANYTHING.
=====
ANSWERING TRICKY QUESTIONS FROM WOMEN
It went on for probably thousands of years.
A man would meet a woman. The woman would ask simple questions.
The man would answer.
Then the woman would follow up with the truly sticky questions.
At that point, the man would get the "deer in the headlights look".
Then, along came David D. et al who offered a disarmingly elegant
solution: Never give a woman a straight answer.
And as crazy as it sounded, the truth was that such a strategy
often worked amazingly well.
For starters, it kept first and second dates from degenerating into
"job interviews".
And let me tell you, as much as you and I know how much those kind
of "dates" S-U-C-K (capital letters intentional), I've met two more
"lady gurus" within the last two weeks alone who actually go around
intentionally teaching women to ask a bunch of hardball questions on
first dates.
As if that's how women endear themselves to us.
Nice advice, huh?
So yes...women will come at you with zingers like, "How many women
have you slept with?" WAY, WAY sooner than you might think.
And to give a straight answer in such situations may be
devastating, especially to questions involving sexual experience.
Heck, there may be no "right" answer to some of those. No matter
WHAT you tell her she's not going to want to hear it.
So why does she ask? Believe me, I'd like to know also.
But that in and of itself is probably the WRONG direction to go
with her too, if you get right down to it.
Neither is, "You first", by the way. She just might answer. Then
what?
So the prevailing recommendation remains to inject humor into the
scenario and give her a preposterously funny and unreasonable
pseudo-answer:
Her: "How many women have you slept with?"
Him: "Oh, let me see... Nine thousand, four hundred--no wait, TEN
thousand SIX hundred and one. Well, make that six hundred and
TWO, if we count you." [followed by three seconds of a straight face,
then a wry smile punctuated with laughter and shaking your head]
Or how about this gem?
Her: "When was the last time you had sex?"
Him: [looks at watch] "Two hours and thirty...[pause]...seven
minutes ago"
Guys, there's no doubt about it. If you are not about lying to
women, then you've got to be 100% about knowing how to change
the subject when women ask questions on dates that they don't
want to hear the answer to.
You DO NOT owe a stranger your life story up front.
And if she's fishing for all the negatives before giving herself any
opportunity to find out the positives, then that may be all you need
to know about her.
Here's a secret: A mature, high quality woman is not going to
press you into divulging information she knows she doesn't want to
hear.
A man and a woman on a date should first figure out if they even
LIKE each other's company before drilling down to the depths of the
netherworld of sexual pasts and so forth.
Now if you're hiding the fact that you still live with your parents
...or that you've done ten years of hard time ...or that you're STILL
MARRIED, I can't help you.
You're on your own there. She's probably going to need to know
those things sometime before things get too serious. Sorry, man.
But here's the part that I think is particularly crazy.
It has occurred to me that a ton of guys take this whole bit about
"not giving women straight answers" a bit too far.
They apply the strategy to ANY and EVERY question a woman
asks, not just the ones for which there is no good answer.
Look, I completely get that if you let her manhandle the
conversation with a bunch of Q & A, you're handing over your
masculine power and WILL NOT be respected as a man who can
lead.
But even so, I'd say you'd better have a bit more depth to your
portfolio of situational wisdom than simply "avoiding direct
answers".
Here's a pair of examples to illustrate what I mean:
Her: "So, what do you do for a living?"
Him: "Oh, I'm a 'diesel fitter'."
Her: "Really? What's that?"
Him: "I inspect the panty hose at the department store and say,
'diesel fitter'."
Her: "Haha! Seriously. What's your real job?"
Him: "I work at Six Flags directing traffic. At the bumper cars."
Similarly:
Her: "So, do you have a girlfriend?"
Him: "Girlfriend? I'm way past that. I'm married."
Her: "Seriously?"
Him: "Actually, I've got FIVE wives. I like watching them fight
over who's gonna cook me dinner. Fun stuff."
Unfortunately, I've received emails recounting situations very
similar to each of the two above within the past week or so.
And in the real world, both guys DID NOT get a second date.
Instead, the women pretty much disappeared off the face of the
Earth after the first date.
FAIL. And why?
Well, simply put, when you don't give a straight answer when a
straight answer is absolutely called for, you leave the woman with
no choice but to assume the worst.
Now granted, when you change the subject and/or refuse to give an
answer to the sexually incriminating questions, she'll probably
assume the worst also.
But at least she may have the presence of mind to realize you were
simply being kind enough to spare her the conversation...for now,
at least.
When it comes down to appearing jobless or married though, you'll
generally find women are WAY less forgiving.
The sad part here?
In the "real world" versions of the examples I just gave, the first
guy had a GREAT job, and the second wasn't even SEEING any
other women besides the one he was with.
So they retained their "power", I guess...but they LOST the woman.
And the tragic part is that the REAL power was really present in
the correct answers, weren't they?
Being a great guy with a good job is preferable to being jobless,
isn't it?
And being eligible is far superior in the eyes of a quality woman
to being a cheater, isn't it?
Think about it...why fail to leverage all that POWER in favor of
withholding straight answers?
Why think "defense" while your "offense" is riding the bench?
It really is silly when you think about it, isn't it?
What, then, is the practical solution, here?
How do we keep control of the conversation, but make sure the
positive facts about ourselves are clearly articulated?
This is where you have to think out of the box.
That means looking at the gray area. It doesn't have to be
black and white.
What you do is give her the funny, entertaining answer FIRST,
let her respond, THEN share the real answer.
Example:
Her: "What do you do for a living?"
Him: "Well, I used to transport political refugees from Honduras
via 18-wheeler, but it stopped being so lucrative after I forgot to
leave the air vent open that one time."
Her: [speechless...slackjawed...finally laughing out loud] "Yes,
well I can imagine you've probably been bogged down in legal stuff
since that fateful moment, huh? [giggles]
Him: "Yeah, pretty rough going. So I've had to go back to being
a regional marketing manager for XYZ company to pay the bills."
Her: "Oh, okay...I see." [still laughing]
Him: "But I sure do miss the open road..."
You can see how in this situation you keep control of the flow of
the conversation while being utterly entertaining.
All the while, you are sending a subtle message that interview
questions on first dates are a silly idea. Do you see how that is
sub-communicated?
Meanwhile, and perhaps more importantly, you've clearly
demonstrated that you're going to be able to field whatever she
hits your way like you're an all-star shortstop.
And THAT, my good man, leads to fewer hard questions.
After all, you will have demonstrated an ability to inspire her
confidence, all in concert with your masculine confidence.
But what about actually keeping your powder dry enough to have
solid answers to women's questions...even the SEXUAL ones?
Well, that's called CHARACTER.
Get all of that down, and you'll have hammered home the kind of
"big four" guy you are.
Sound complicated?
It doesn't have to be. In fact, you were BORN to be the guy who
gets all of this stuff right.
And that's what Get Together, Stay Together does. As I mentioned
above, it's all about keeping the ball rolling after the relationship
starts...and then LONG into the future with a great woman.
So for now, have fun, entertain her and keep her on her toes.
But please don't ever withhold "straight answers" with a death grip
just for the sake of doing so. As we've just seen, that's one of
the deadliest tactical errors you can make on a first date.
If you have a first date ahead of you within the next few days or so,
keep what I've shared with you today in mind. You'll be glad you
did.
And by all means WRITE ME when this information ends up coming in
handy...because it almost certainly will.
P.S. Just a quick reminder to you guys that this newsletter is
NOT expressly about just meeting women, and is therefore VERY
DIFFERENT than some of the others you may subscribe to.
I've noticed lately that several guys have actually unsubscribed,
saying that they've loved the content but either "got a girlfriend"
or "don't want [their] girlfriend finding this in [their] inbox".
Let me encourage you guys. Once you have a great woman in
your life, that only means you should read most of these
newsletters TWICE. And definitely get your hands on
Get Together, Stay Together.
Sure, we talk about meeting women from time to time, but by far
the majority of our discussions involve going from GOOD to
GREAT with women...a process that is ongoing in any man's life.
And if your new girlfriend is upset by you wanting to become a
better man enough to complain about your e-mails on the
subject?
For that, words fail me.
=====
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