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IN THIS EDITION:  You've met a woman, but she isn't exactly
following your vision of how things should be progressing with her.
Does that mean it's going badly?  Should you panic?

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20/20 FORESIGHT IS GOLDEN


This month's Masterclass For Men takes place
this coming Wednesday at 8pm EDT (GMT -4).

The topic is Stop Settling For The WRONG
Woman, Choose The RIGHT One Instead.

Some guys have been asking me, "But Scot, I
don't have ANY women in my life right now.
How does this relate to me?"

Man...let me tell you. If you can completely
bypass the trial and error associated with
enduring a string of WRONG women in your
life, that alone will be worth it's weight in
PURE GOLD.

Imagine getting it right from the very beginning,
with the kind of woman you've always wanted
at your side.

You can even date LOTS of the RIGHT women
until you find the BEST one ever, and are ready
for a relationship with her.

That future begins this Wednesday night.  Score
your ticket to this transformational event here:



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DO WOMEN REALLY WANT TO BE "FRIENDS FIRST"?
(READER QUESTION)


Hi Scot,

I've read some of the advice tips on the site about the importance
of being independent and inspiring women to feel comfortable in the
presence of confident guys. Here's a situation I'd like to tell you
about: there is a woman who I met recently.

We talked for a few minutes and exchanged email addresses with
each other. It was all casual and I didn't even suggest that I'm
interested in her romantically. I'd like to get to know her, start
on a friendship level and see what can happen.

So I emailed her the following day and told her that if she'd like
to meet me sometime for friendly conversation I usually spend a
couple of hours during the afternoon at a certain social club.

She emailed me back a few HOURS later and said that she'd like to
meet me because it turns out that she goes to that same place
everyday, too (although we had never seen each other there before).

She asked me what she should do. Then she asked me for my phone
number.

So what I'm wondering is: is this lady asking for my phone number
because she wants to know if I have a phone?  She already knows I
have email because we exchanged addresses after that first time we
met only a day earlier. 

What do you think could be a reason why she's asking me for my
phone number?

I'm wanting to start off as a friend to this woman and see what
happens.


Thanks,

Joseph (Parts Unknown)



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Hey, Joseph.  Thanks for writing.
 
First of all, I could send this email to any of millions of men
everywhere who would love to have a "problem" like yours. 

99% of these men would automatically understand her response to
you as a clear sign of interest.  And they'd be correct. 
 
The natural progression from exchanging email addresses is to take
things to the telephone.  From there, the two of you meet in person. 

This particular woman's interest level in you is high enough that
she is sending you blatant hints of her desire to see you again.

Only a crowbar upside one's head might be more obvious. 

Note I said "might".
 
So let's first go over what you did that was great:
    


1)  First of all, you nutted up and asked for her contact info.
You're ahead of most men there already.  Great job.


2)  Second, you e-mailed a woman you sensed has interest in you
the following day.  I believe artificial waiting periods represent
the kind of game playing people detest.


3)  Third, you called her to action. (i.e. meeting you at the
social club)
 


Here's where you'll do better in the future:
 


1)  You'll understand that email --> phone --> live meeting is the
natural progression.  You skipped a step and she's bringing you
back around, understandably.


2)  You'll realize that any positive response from a woman is just
that...it's good.  She is asking for your phone number because she
wants to move things forward, and...


3)  ...you'll figure out that women LOVE LOVE LOVE men who lead.
She is asking you "what she should do" because she wants YOU to be
the man here and make a suggestion.  This is a "Chick Whispering"
basic. 

Women want you to wear the pants, and will hint at what they want
YOU to ask them rather than asking first. 

See how that works?  And don't you just LOVE LOVE LOVE women who
look at you adoringly when you are their Superhero who knows how to
be a LEADER?  Of course you do.
 


That all brings me to the final, and perhaps most overarching
thought.  You talk about "friends first".  You do realize that this
is almost always a myth unless you are clearly in the driver's seat
of leadership, right?
 
By this I mean that women typically find it very, very hard to move
a man from "just friends" to "lover". 

Either you are causing her erotic synapses to fire up like high-
octane race fuel from the beginning or you are doomed to being a
tea party guest. 

And hey, Earl Grey might have a "nice" aroma but there's just
something about the scent of 2-stroke race gas fumes that satisfies.
 
I hope you haven't been brainwashed by the same cult that had me
duped back in the day. 

You know the one.  They preach that "all male behavior is bad
behavior" and that "showing romantic interest in a woman is
offensive to them".
 
Unless you really do remain unconvinced that you are ready to blow
up the chemistry lab with this chick, you need to get in front of
her and FLIRT, my man!

She'll LOVE LOVE LOVE you for it.


Be Good,

Scot McKay




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