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IN THIS EDITION:  Some fear exclusive relationships and avoid
them like the plague.  Others tend to jump into long-term
relationships with the first woman who shows interest.  Stop the
madness, whoever you are.
 
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MOVE ON FROM THE WRONG WOMAN


What if you have a pattern of attracting the wrong
women over and over again?

You may even be with the wrong woman RIGHT NOW.

How do you know for sure if she's wrong for you, or
your mind is simply playing tricks on you?

What's more, how do you MOVE ON from her...even
if she tries to drag you back into the relationship?

She can--and will--come up with flat-out genius ways
to try to make that happen.

Most importantly of all, how do you make sure history
does NOT repeat itself?  After all, when you finally
start attracting the RIGHT women who are sweet, sane
AND beautiful...it will be as if a whole new world has
been opened to you.

All of this and MUCH more is covered in this month's
Masterclass For Men:

Stop Settling For The WRONG Woman...Choose
The RIGHT One Instead

It's happening this Wednesday at 8p EDT (GMT -4),
and you can claim your ticket here:



Masterclass For Men - This Coming Wednesday



This one topic will absolutely, positively MAKE or
BREAK your future happiness, without question.

You just can't leave it to chance.  The stakes are too
high.

If you can't make the event live, no worries.  There's
a state-of-the-art Download Area available afterward
with ALL the goodies, including bonuses and a way
to ask me live questions even after the fact.  Nice.



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WHEN TO GO EXCLUSIVE, AND WHEN NOT TO


Almost every day I hear from guys who really want to date lots of
women, but have instead found themselves headed for (or already in)
a steady relationship they never really asked for explicitly. 

Or, I hear from guys with the opposite problem.  They really want a
great girlfriend and someone to build a future with, but having
focused primarily on pickup techniques they're left wanting when it
comes to relationship management skills.

In either case, the baseline skill that has to be established
before all else is how to evaluate whether or not you really should
go exclusive with a woman...or not.  Truly, that all depends on
what's going on in your mind and what's going on with her.   

Here, in simple English, are three unacceptable reasons to make a
woman your steady girlfriend, followed logically by three
outstanding reasons to go exclusive:



3 Unacceptable Reasons To Go Exclusive



1)  She's The Only One You're Dating Anyway


OK.  You feel as if you don't have any other options and don't see
any on the immediate horizon.   But you DO have a woman who
actually seems to like you.  Why not just make her your steady
girlfriend?  Seems uncomplicated enough.

And indeed, this is how things go for A LOT of guys out there.  I'd
dare say the majority.

I thought about devoting an entire newsletter to the concept of how
if ONE woman is wildly attracted to you, it almost guarantees that
there would be others. And that's pretty much true. 

Some guys truly are at ground zero when it comes to attraction
and aren't yet deserving what they want. 

But other guys are passively sleepwalking through life and only end
up with a woman by default, basically. 

Out of happenstance, a guy may be introduced to a woman and end up
on a first date with her.  Date one turns into date two, and so on
until what we're talking about here happens.

And what's next?  That nagging feeling of having settled, that's
what.

If you can get one woman in your life, you could theoretically have
options if you summon the confidence to believe it.  Apart from
that, you are operating from a position of very limited personal
power.



2)  She Cajoled You More Than The Others


You may actually have several women you are casually dating, all of
whom are interesting and interested.  But often there's that one
woman who levels the ultimatum on exclusivity a bit earlier and
with decidedly more conviction than the others.  Since she's so
vocal about it, and since you kind of like her, you capitulate. 

And "capitulate" is a profane word around here.  It rhymes with
"settle".

For that matter, if you look up "capitulate" in the dictionary,
it'll probably say "gave away all his power to a woman who lost all
respect for him almost immediately after he caved in to her
demands".

Careful here.  I'm NOT saying that any woman who wants an exclusive
relationship with you should be denied categorically.  I AM saying
that you shouldn't kowtow to HER decision to be
exclusive...especially if it's not YOUR decision also.



3)  You Feel Like You've Got To "Lock Her Down"


Maybe you have some options, but then the World's Hottest Woman
shows up in your life. 

You have this OMG moment and start scrambling to make her your
steady girlfriend because... A)  She's the most ridiculously sexy
chick you've ever dated and you've got to make her yours, and...
B) ...if  you don't, you're afraid some other guy will.

First of all, remember that if a high-quality woman shows up in
your life, that's to be treated as having raised the bar.  It's not
to be considered a stroke of luck. 

This is kind of a logical progression to the concept that having
the ability to attract ONE begets the ability to attract MANY.

Indeed, this woman is simply an indicator that you have earned the
ability to attract a higher echelon of women.  So continue the
rational progression of seeing how well you two get along before
getting serious, please.

But more importantly here, you are actually damaging you own
attractiveness here by jumping all over her.  Remember, getting
kills wanting...especially if you're trying to hold onto her with a
death grip very early on.

And most importantly, the reality is you CAN'T lock another human
being down anyway.  She can still leave you, even if she's you're
steady girlfriend.



3 Outstanding Reasons To Go Exclusive



1)  You Know What You Want


If you haven't dated many women at all, how do you know what you
really want?  If you've dated your share of high-quality women and
you've had a chance to fine-tune exactly who it is you're looking
for, then you'll be WAY better equipped to recognize her when she
shows up in your life.

And if you find yourself in the mood to actually HAVE an exclusive
relationship with her, it's probably because of the next point...



2)  You've Left No Curiosity Unexplored In The Dating World


Here' a truth that's about as simple as truth gets:  If you're
still interested in dating lots of women, then you probably aren't
interested in choosing one of them from the mix at this point. 

If you end up in a steady relationship under such circumstances,
you'll probably end up with your nose pressed against the glass
looking at greener pastures outside. 

And this will be the case no matter how great your girlfriend is.
After all, you weren't in the "relationship" state of mind just yet.

On the other hand, what if you've been dating sixteen women at
once and have grown tired of all the juggling?

Let's say you narrowed that field down to four or five at that
point.  And after a while, you then started realizing that you had
met and enjoyed the company of lots of incredible women but were
now thinking more about stability and long-term vision than you
have in the past.

It's about then that you may realize that one woman on your list is
by far your first choice.  Were she available every night, you'd
see her instead of the others.

Well, that woman would be a good choice for an exclusive
relationship, I'd say.  You will have selected her from many
options and with a solid frame of mind.

   

3)  You've Tested And Approved Her As Having "Long-Term
Potential"


Even if you have a firm grasp on what runs your guns as far as
women go, and even if you have a pile of women in your life,
there's always the off chance that one's going to come along who
flat-out knocks your socks off.  The switch gets flipped and she's
basically all you can think of.

Whoa there, cowboy.

You've been around the block to know that it takes sweet time to
qualify a woman fully.   Spend loads of time with her in common,
everyday situations.  Mix it up some.  Meet her friends and
vice-versa.  Go on that all-important road trip I talked about in a
newsletter a couple of months ago.

You've got to make sure you know that what's under the hood has the
horsepower to back the sexy bodywork.  Otherwise, she's "all show
and no go".  And true character takes time to show forth in its
fullness.

Take your time and decide from a position of strength.  And deserve
what you want also, because a great woman like her is probably as
tuned in to reason as you are.



You'll notice that conspicuous by its absence from either list is
"because she's pregnant".  That's either the subject of a whole
'nother newsletter, or something that needs to be handled on a
case-by-case basis.  I'm still trying to figure out which it is for
sure.

But either way, the one thing we DO know for sure is that you have
GOT to be a man who makes his own informed decisions in the dating
world rather than being subject to the whim of someone else. 


Be Good,

Scot McKay




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