[X&Y] How To Get A 2nd Chance At Getting Her Number [Field Report]
Published: Mon, 08/08/22
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IN THIS EDITION: Have you ever kicked yourself for
not getting a woman's number? Here's how to get a
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"mulligan".
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HOW TO GET A SECOND CHANCE AT GETTING HER NUMBER
[FIELD REPORT]
[FIELD REPORT]
Not long ago I did a Ten-Plus Live with a guy we'll call James.
Like most men I meet, he had a lot going for him. All he needed,
really, was to be empowered to meet women, get numbers and
move relationships with them forward.
Even though guys have flown from as far away as Asia to do
Ten-Plus Live weekends with me, this guy was from right her
in San Antonio.
On one hand, that was super convenient for him.
But on the other hand, it meant meeting women over the
course of the weekend might lead to something real. It wouldn't
necessarily serve as simple "practice". The stakes were higher.
So with all of that in mind, on Saturday afternoon we did the
obvious. We went to a particularly upscale shopping area
about a five-minute drive from where he lived.
Where better to meet women who are likely to live in his own
zip code, right?
Things started working well right off the bat, as they typically
do.
Just to demo what's possible, I kicked things off by approaching
a very cute young woman of about 23 who was having lunch
with a friend.
"Okay, I have to ask...how did you get your teeth so white? Did
you have to bribe your dentist to get VIP treatment, or
something?"
She covered her mouth and started giggling...as did her friend.
"Do you really think so? Actually, I drink coffee and red wine
all the time, so I really have no idea."
I reminded her that having white teeth is a good thing, so she
probably didn't need to cover her mouth. The next thing you
know she's touching me on the elbow and talking away.
I excused myself and returned to James before she got any
ideas. After all, I'm a happily married guy so I had no intentions.
As I've always said, talking to ANY woman is just a conversation,
until YOU decide you want to take things further by showing
interest and following up.
The next stop was a department store. Imagine a 23-year-old
Salma Hayek, only more slender. I hope you have a good
imagination because if so, it will reward you.
Our hero took her right out of "work mode" and led her into
being playful. Perfect.
The next thing you know, she's laughing, touching him and
telling him how "funny" he is. She's asking James where he's
from, etc., so there's clear interest there.
By the way, making women laugh is indeed powerful. But
remember, you don't really have to be a comedian. All it takes
is to help them have FUN. FUN is enough to make women
laugh. Very nice.
The time came to get Salma Hayak, Jr.'s number, and he did
an admirable job for a guy who hadn't put himself in this
good a position to do so in ages.
Still, the girl clearly wasn't the type to give her number away
to guys she'd just met. She asked for his instead.
Once James and I reconvened I let him in on an observation.
When that sort of thing happens, it's almost always because
her comfort level isn't quite where it should be yet.
It's often effective to simply tell her everything will be alright,
and it'll be okay if she gives him her number.
Women tend to follow a man's confident leadership.
The day was still young.
A bit later we happened into another shop. Working there
was a truly adorable girl-next-door type who pulled off the
sexy "librarian" look with perfection, complete with the right
glasses.
Now visibly more confident than ever, James started a
conversation with her. The woman's personality turned out
to be what you would have hoped for from someone like her.
She was precious.
James and I had agreed that when I sensed a woman he
was talking to was interested, I'd casually remove myself
from the situation for a bit.
Besides, we'd gone over exactly how to get a woman'
number ahead of time: Suggest to her the conversation
should continue later, and tell her she should give him her
number.
So I went outside. The last thing James needed was me
looking over his shoulder at crunch time.
A few minutes later, he exited the shop.
"So...what's her number?"
"I...um...don't have it."
"Oh no. What in the world happened?"
"I just...didn't get her number. It didn't happen"
I paused for a second. There was no sense in browbeating
him over this.
"James, consider the worst thing that can happen here. We
already know she's a sweetheart, so she's not going to insult
you and kick you in the crotch. Maybe she'll refuse to give
you her number. But will that really hurt worse than NEVER
knowing for sure what could have happened...all because
you did nothing?"
He knew the answer to the question. Settling for the status
quo was the biggest potential bummer.
I added, "...And how much better are you going to feel when
she DOES give you her number? My educated guess is it'll
be a lot better than SHE feels right now, wondering why you
never asked her for it."
"You're right. But I've already left the store. How do I get her
number now?"
The best solution in cases like this is to spell out to her what's
going on, without pretense or cover-up.
"Try this. Return to the store, find her, tell her you really did
enjoy talking to her, and she should give you her number so
you can talk later when she's not working."
The dude went back in the store without so much as a hiccup.
Awesome.
Less than a minute later he was back.
"Man, that's got to be a world speed record", I said.
"Not so fast", James said, "She wasn't there. I can't believe
it. She's already gone to lunch."
It hadn't been three minutes since he was talking to her, yet
the opportunity had seemed to have vaporized into thin air.
Ridiculous.
Now see, if 90% of all guys wouldn't ever have approached this
girl at all, let alone ask for her number, then you've GOT to
believe at least 99.9% would throw up their hands and give up
by this stage.
That wasn't going to happen on my watch. It was time to reach
for what it takes to be in that top .01%.
I quickly went over the plan with James, and then it was time to
execute.
Going back into the store a third time, James found the woman's
co-worker, who had seen everything transpire.
In a friendly but direct manner, James said the following to her:
"You know, [name] and I were having a great conversation,
and I've decided we should talk more later. I realize she's at
lunch, so I'm going to leave a note. I'm counting on you to make
sure she gets it, deal?"
The co-worker said she'd be glad to help.
Now fully in "wingman" mode, I casually added, "I think the
two of them kind of looked cute together, what do you think?"
"Agreed", the co-worker said with a smile.
We already knew from earlier conversation that the two women
worked with each other all the time, so we could now determine
with reasonable certainty that lunch-break chick must indeed
be single.
Outstanding.
The note James wrote read, "I returned to find you because I
enjoyed meeting you and we should talk again." It was signed
with his first name and phone number. He was sure to write
very clearly instead of scribbling.
As we left the store I simply said, "Now, no matter what
happens, at the very least you have the satisfaction of knowing
you did everything in your power."
About five hours later we had picked up Emily and were
enjoying a nice dinner downtown.
James' phone buzzed.
The message read: "Hi James, this is [name]. I'm still at
work but thought I'd drop you a quick text. :-)"
Mission accomplished. Long story short, within short order
it was clearly evident she was truly interested.
James met even more women that night, including a sexy
brunette who was having a "tough night" until he visibly
brightened it for her.
Over 3am breakfast at IHOP, I realized the track record
remained intact. Another Ten-Plus Live had concluded, still
without there EVER having been a bona fide negative
experience approaching women for any guy who's ever
done one.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. We don't do a whole lot of Ten-Plus Live weekends,
but there are a select few more openings coming up this
fall.
If you've been considering doing a "bootcamp" in order to
finally become a man who approaches women and meets
hem at will, I challenge you to instead consider the massive
difference that live, real-time 1-on-1 coaching could make:
Ten-Plus Live is a high-end experience that's not for
everyone. If interested, I'll need to get on the phone with
you to make sure it's a good fit and to share the details.
Write me at scot@deservewhatyouwant.com to arrange
that call.
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