[X&Y] 5 Secret Ways To Stop Being "Average"

Published: Wed, 02/15/23



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WHAT'S INSIDE:  Have you ever caught yourself wondering if you're
doomed to "settle" for a woman you don't really want because you're
too "average" yourself to deserve better?

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5 TIPS IF YOU THINK OF YOURSELF AS THE "AVERAGE
GUY"


Generally speaking I am blessed to receive emails on a daily
basis from readers and listeners expressing dramatic life
change.  

I love to hear from people who are refusing to settle and
therefore deserving what they want more and more every day.  

I truly live for messages like those these days.  It inspires
me to know that Emily and I are making a difference.

Sometimes, however, I receive other messages that inspire me
in a completely different way.  A few days ago, I received just
such an email.  

A woman was unsubcribing from Emily's newsletter, citing that
she was "just an average Plain Jane", and that she could never
live up the ideals talked about around here and in the book
Deserve What You Want.  

What intrigued me the most was that she was not so much
discouraged from the hard work of deserving what SHE wanted
as irritated that I would encourage men to never "settle" for any
less than who THEY deserved.

When it came right down to it, she felt that even her most
valiant efforts to deserve what she wants were going to fall
short.  

Ultimately, her feeling was that no man from the "highest echelon
of men on Earth" was ever going to want her, no matter what.  

And having been around the block a few times, I know for a fact
that plenty of men feel the same way about attracting a great
woman.

So then, this email got my attention because the challenge
presented to me in it was a valid one.

How dare I tell "average" people that they should expect to earn
the right to "never settle"?  

Come on now, seriously...what kind of Pollyanna advice is THAT?

How does an AVERAGE person deserve a SUPERIOR partner?  

Fortunately, I'm up to the challenge.  And because I know you
want practical answers from me instead of philosophical musings,
here they are in bulletized form, as you've come to expect:  



1)  Kill The Word "Average"
 

Anyone who considers him or herself "average" (let alone "below
average") is acknowledging defeat before even attempting to
deserve.  

Unfortunately, most of the over seven  billion of us on this planet
are shockingly willing to accept mediocrity.  After all, it's
effortless.  

Therefore, we all run the risk of being charmed into living
that lie.

Yes, I said "lie".  

We allow ourselves to sleepwalk our way through life, and in doing
so we never even sniff reaching our potential.  

Knowing that the MAJORITY of people passively watch life from the
sidelines, ACTIVELY doing something to promote excellence in your
own reality pulls you by the collar out of the realm of the
"average" by definition.  Do you see how that works?

Years ago a great speaker named Bruce Thielemann borrowed a
phrase originally coined by pro surfer Phil Edwards to refer to
the apathetic masses, referring to them as "legions of the
unjazzed".  

His point was that most humans let the most powerful and
meaningful aspects of what life has to offer slip quietly away
having "pampered themselves into mediocrity".  What powerful
language to let nest in your soul.

Unhitch yourself from the "unjazzed" crowd today, and begin
deserving better immediately.  



2)  Your Presumptions Of Inadequacy May Point To
Arrogance  


You look in the mirror and see "average".  Realize,
right here and right now that your opinion has zero to
do with mine or anyone else's on the subject.   

Just because you are not your own "type" does not mean you
are free to arrogantly presume your world view upon anyone
else, let alone EVERYONE else.   



3)  Don't Drink The Media's Purple Kool-Aid


Cult leader Jim Jones is infamously associated with poisonous
purple Kool-Aid.  

Sometimes I can't help but think that the media is serving us a
steady diet of a similar potion when it comes to having us
believe what "not settling" means, exactly.  

I have dated women who I thought were fantastically beautiful
but who were disgusted by their own appearance.  They were not
"supermodels", so they were therefore media-trained to be
displeased.  

The irony here is that guys who share my personal preferences
aren't attracted to "supermodels" anyway.   

We're attracted to women who are more like many of these women
who wish they were supermodels.  That is to say, we are attracted
at least until they express how displeased they are with
themselves.   

NEVER discount the power of your own confidence, or lack thereof.  
Which drives the next point home...



4)  Live Up To Your Own Design Specs


I was going to go with "Do The Best With What You've Got" here,
but that concept falls way short of the meaning behind the
heading I chose.  

Why?  Simply put, there is NOTHING more amazing than to meet
someone who has clearly maximized who he or she is.  

So many people are not doing this.  Over the next few days, pay
attention to the people around you.  In your mind, give thought
to who just isn't at their best.  

Meanwhile, open your eyes to who seems exceptional to you and
how their own personal effort has likely affected that.  

One time I met a woman who habitually mesmerized nearly all men
who met her.  Sure, she was fashionable, clean and well-groomed.

But her sense of humor, confident presence and feminine charm
set her apart as truly mind-blowing.  

Note that all of this was under her full control.  

As I got to know her, she shared how she grew up in poverty
and was told she was "ugly" throughout her childhood.  

Yet now she was a successful businesswoman who had her pick of
the sharpest men around.  

Finally it occurred to me that if she had been anywhere close to
as apathetic as the "legions of the unjazzed" I probably
would never have even noticed her.  

Nor would have the majority of other men, I'm guessing.  

She was not superlative by accident.  "Accidentally", as it were,
she would have been "average".  But her interpretation of reality
ensured that she wasn't.



5)  Know Thyself


Hey wait a minute, who are these people you are thinking would
"never want you" anyway?  

Are these people you even truly WANT to deserve?  

The more you date effectively, the more you are going to realize
how valid the concept of "perfect imperfection" is.  I've written
about this general concept elsewhere, of course, but the correlation
to today's point is absolutely crucial.  

We as human beings are typically attracted to people we can relate
to.  If you are living by the tenets presented above, I can
quite nearly guarantee you will be wildly attracted to the self-
actualized opposite sex version of yourself.  

Why would you NOT be?  Give this concept a test drive.  If you have
learned to deserve what you want, you will soon be graced with the
knowledge of who it is you actually DO want.  

And wait until you figure out you DO deserve that person.  That's
the best news there is.



Remember the "highest echelon on Earth" is subject to YOUR
definition.  

Have a clear understanding of that, and your efforts to deserve
what you want will be focused and therefore highly effective.  

Those efforts will produce magical results.  Guaranteed.   
 



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