[X&Y] Why We Screw Up Around Women We Really Like

Published: Sat, 04/29/23


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IN THIS EDITION:   Can you keep your wits about you when you
have an opportunity with most amazing woman you've ever met?  

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"SO, WHAT KIND OF QUESTIONS SHOULD I ASK HER,
ANYWAY?"


I'm getting TONS of questions from you guys about how to make
conversation with women on dates, and how to make sure to
avoid those painful "awkward silences".

Well, as fortune would have it there's a great (and
inexpensive) resource book out there that gives you some
SERIOUS AMMO with which to combat that particular problem.

It's from none other than the world's top romance expert
Michael Webb, and it quite literally GIVES you a massive
stash of GREAT conversation starters.

It doesn't matter whether you are on a first date or wanting
to take things to the "next level" with a woman you're just
starting to get to know:
 

 
Questions To Ask Women



Mike's been featured in practically every major magazine and
newspaper.  He has appeared on over 500 TV and radio shows and
has 18 books to his credit.

But that is not what REALLY amazes me.  It's that Michael and
his wife have been blissfully married for over 20 years
and have never even had a fight.  And its not just pure dumb
luck.  

When it comes to relationships, this guy knows his stuff.

Since we're friends he recently provided me with a copy of his
other BRAND NEW book 500 Intimate Questions For Couples.  

You can check THAT one out here:


 
Questions For Couples



This book, like the other I just introduced you to, gives you
a WHOLE BUNCH of great conversations starters.  

BUT...this one is geared more toward helping you strengthen
your relationship with a woman you've known for quite a while.

(Sounds like a great "sequel" to the other one, right?)

These questions are guaranteed to:


  * Deepen the intimacy in ANY relationship


  * Confirm whether or not you and your potential future mate
  are sexually and emotionally compatible


  * Spark some highly erotic conversations, followed by intensely
  passionate physical time together


Right now, Michael is offering a one-time special that goes
along with the 500 Intimate Questions For Couples.

This offer expires VERY soon.  You'll just have to see it to
believe it...  


 
More Intimate Questions For Couples



P.S. YES...these books are designed for a co-ed audience.  Women
love 'em, as you can see from the testimonials and magazine
features.



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WHY WE SCREW UP AROUND WOMEN WE REALLY LIKE


Once upon a time, back in around 1996, I had just switched careers
from the vida loca of working with gang kids to becoming an IT
sales guy.   

As I went around to various site walkthroughs and bid openings, I
had the opportunity to meet most of my local competitors.  

To be honest, the vast majority of them were pretty good people.  
Contrary to conventional wisdom, I even made friends with some of
them and had a beer or two with them from time to time.  

After all, these were the kind of people I had plenty in common
with.  Rarely did we talk "business" per se, but it was fun to
shoot the breeze about the latest technology, etc.

Most of my friends had read the same books on how to be a good
sales professional that I did.  

Because of that, and in part because of the nature of the business
we were in, we all seemed to know that our customers were
intimidated by this newfangled "Internet" stuff, so gaining their
trust was all-important.

What's more, we all knew--as if instinctively--that our customers
were really excited about what the Internet and digital
communications meant to their business.  As such, our job was not
to force the issue but rather to simply help them get what they
needed.

As you can guess, I had some worthy competition for sure.

And we'd all go around our metro area winning a few deals and
losing a few...usually to the tune of about $10-$25K a shot.

Then one day, something ridiculous happened.

One of the largest school districts in the area announced that they
were doing a major infrastructure upgrade.  

Their entire telecommunications system would be replaced, and a
state-of-the-art computer network system would be implemented
featuring cutting-edge video for "distance learning".  (Remember,
this was 1996.)

At the pre-bid conference, the twenty or thirty competitors in
attendance quickly realized that this deal was different.

It was going to be worth over a million dollars.

Over the course of the next few weeks while the bid was out,
something wild happened.

Those same "friends" of mine didn't want to go get a beer anymore.

Instead, I was getting third-hand information from the prospective
customer that my company's business reputation had been scurrilously
run through the wringer by our competitors during meetings with
them, sometimes along with my personal integrity.

Concurrently, stories of "special favors" having been granted to
the school district's superintendent, sets of golf clubs
mysteriously appearing on the doorsteps of board members and even
rumors of "under the table" deals had surfaced.

As some competitors were weeded out through the process, claims of
certain other systems' capabilities were being openly exaggerated--
preying on the customer's lack of technical expertise as a public
entity seeking to implement very new technology.

But here's the crazy thing:  I knew most of my competitors.  And
every single competitor for this deal already KNEW what worked in
the sales world.  

And what WORKED was the OPPOSITE of what was going on here.

If you represent yourself and the product with integrity, the
customer WANTS to buy.  

And if you take care of them, they'll buy again and again.  

What's more, when it comes to high ticket sales, the "used car
guy" approach flat-out fails...every single time.

Furthermore, "badmouthing" the competition and bribing people are
likewise major no-nos.

But putting a seven-figure price tag on this particular deal had
changed things.

Suddenly, even seasoned professionals were back to square one...
acting like hungry "newbies" whose next pack of ramen noodles
depended upon "closing".  

Admittedly, while in the midst of all this it was hard NOT to see
dollar signs.  

For just about every salesperson involved, landing this deal
would have meant a MASSIVE commission check--probably
equal to the entire previous year's pay combined.

But when the focus regressed to fantasizing about the joy of
winning combined with the fear of loss, most involved with this
million dollar deal threw every bit of sales training they had
ever received right out the window.

They had been going "by the book", but "the book" didn't have a
chapter in it to prepare them for the big time.  As a result, the
stakes involved just flat-out fried everyone's circuits.

 
So why am I telling you this?


Success with women can follow a very similar pattern.

When we first decide we want to get better with women, we learn
what we think is going to get us somewhere (read: "anywhere") as
quickly as possible.

Then, we really do start seeing some success.  We start attracting
some pretty decent women.

I mean for SOME of us, going from zero to reasonable success simply
involves becoming motivated to overcome "approach anxiety" and
actually get phone numbers from women.

And what do you know?  Women REALLY DO give us their phone
numbers pretty often...when we're relaxed yet assertive enough to
make it happen.

And once we start attracting some women, we think we've learned
enough to get by.  In effect, the mindset is very similar to that
of the salesperson who gains "mastery" over getting his or her
share of the mid-range deals to be had out there.

But here's the BIG QUESTION.

How are YOU going to react when you somehow find yourself face to
face with the BIG DEAL?

By that I mean the greatest woman you've ever imagined...and she's
ATTRACTED?

Are you really going to be able to "fly by instruments" and TRUST
that what you have learned about attracting women is still going to
work?

OR...will everything you've ever learned about attraction and
seduction go out the window as you revert to "trying to impress"
her, being "Mr. Nice Guy" and "playing it safe" so you won't blow
it?

Based on the significant numbers of guys who write to me telling me
that they can attract average women all day long but never seem to
make it work with the women they are truly most attracted to, my
guess is this is a MAJOR, MAJOR widespread problem.

Really, what we're talking about here is becoming the type of guy
who is SO CONFIDENT in the truth regarding what attracts women that
he NEVER second guesses that truth when the chips are down.

Ultimately, some guys really are "faking it 'til they make it" in
their interactions with women.  

They learn some cool stuff, but it never really becomes habit.  It
never really becomes part of who they truly are.

But here's the thing.  

When you know that the masculine, confident man of high-character
who inspires confidence in women really does deserve the highest
echelon of women--and when being that guy has become habit for you,
then there's no falling back to your old ways.

Instead of needing to re-read the directions and having to ask,
"What do I do next?" every time, you'll authentically be the man
who has truly become attractive to great women.

So when you find yourself face-to-face with the woman you've always
dreamed of, there's no change of plans.

"One-itis" disasters go out the window when that's the case also,
by the way.

There will be zero deviation between how you handle average women
versus extremely desirable women.

All because you have made a HABIT of being attractive.

Said differently, it's no longer about WHAT YOU DO, it's about WHO
YOU ARE.

Attracting the greatest woman you've ever known is NOT a "game".
It's a radical lifestyle change.

Authentic, consistent representation of who you are and what you're
about wins the "big deals" in business, even as competitors fall
apart at the seams.  

And the exact same is true when it comes to attracting the woman
who is a "big deal" to you.  

Either you have internalized what makes you attractive, or you'll
come undone.

Welcome to why so many of the most desirable women on Earth have an
infinitely harder time finding a great man than even average women.

What about you?  Can you meet this challenge?  Can you make a HABIT
of attracting women that becomes authentic?

If you can, you'll set yourself apart as a being ready for the "big
deal".


 
 



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