[X&Y] The Real Point Of Online Dating (This Changes Everything)
Published: Tue, 06/20/23
=====
WHAT'S INSIDE: Some people are missing the whole
point of online dating.
=====
GO AHEAD...MEET SOME WOMEN ONLINE
(BEFORE EVERY OTHER GUY DOES INSTEAD)
So maybe after reading yesterday's newsletter
you've been thinking more about either getting
online for the first time or sharpening up your
existing presence on dating sites and apps.
Well, Online Dating Domination shows you
how to go from messaging whoever can "fog
a mirror" and hoping for results to identifying,
contacting and meeting your very first choices
among all the women in you metro area:
50% Off -- Online Dating Domination 3.0
There's no bigger frustration than seeing the
most amazing woman ever online, writing her
a message, not hearing from her and being
left to wonder whether or not she really was
as great as she seemed...without EVER being
able to find out for sure.
Here's the solution...field tested and proven
by men all over the world:
50% Off -- Online Dating Domination 3.0
You can still use the automatic coupon code
to get an instant 50% off until tomorrow night.
It's automatically applied for you at checkout.
Remember, you'll also get a copy of The
Man's Approach for FREE so you can meet
women online OR in the real world.
As always the risk is on me. I back Online
Dating Domination 3.0 with a 365 day money-
back guarantee.
Summer is HERE, gentlemen. The women
are out there looking good and online dating
is fast, logical way to meet lots of them in a
short amount of time.
=====
THE REAL POINT OF ONLINE DATING
Have you ever considered how we as a modern culture are
becoming more and more disconnected from each other?
One's first thought when considering that idea is, "Hey, wait a
minute. Everyone has an Internet connection and a smart
phone these days. And what about social media? If anything,
we're MORE connected."
But that's precisely the issue. With the advent of text
messaging and now Zoom we can communicate easier than
ever. Granted.
But do we really connect?
Personally, I'm not at all sure we really do. Despite all the
technology allowing us to communicate, people are actually
gathering less often in real life.
And perhaps most alarmingly, it would appear we like it that
way.
This was going on before COVID lockdowns, by the way.
One key example is how people are actually dating online
instead of online dating.
Simply put, people are dating someone they've never even
met. Seriously.
The process often proceeds as follows. First, two people from
completely different metro areas begin a simple conversation
online.
It can begin innocuously enough, with someone doing a
nationwide search and saying "hello". That email is answered
and they're off and running.
Now granted, some sites openly encourage long-distance
communication, especially niche sites that always have too few
members to promote interesting choices at the local level.
Inexplicably, even eHarmed-me...er, eHarmony yet persists
at driving the "soulmate fantasy" to the national level with
newbie members.
Almost invariably, what happens is two people who have
never met each other end up emotionally attached. They may
even feel like they're "in love".
Well, of course, they're only "in love" with a fantasy until that
all-important first meeting happens.
That much is self-evident.
But a lot of these people have no interest in actually meeting
each other.
There are people out there--and more than you think--who are
living vicariously through their online dating experience.
This can happen for several reasons.
First, someone may believe they're not nearly as sexually
attractive as they once were. So they post old pics from when
they were at their peak, fudge on their age in their profile, and
proceed to enjoy the attention...all the while daring not to ever
come out from behind their online facade.
This factor is particularly pandemic among women, by the way.
Or, someone may genuinely wish to meet someone terrific
online, but is way, way too socially anxious to actually meet in
person. They can't bring themselves to do it.
If you are partaking of this sort of self-indulgence, think about
whether or not there's any real benefit, or if you're simply
becoming more disconnected from your reality.
Is leading someone else on really all that fulfilling, or is it
actually having the opposite effect on your self-esteem as you
thought it might?
Some of us actually embrace the disconnect from actual
human beings in favor of the hope of becoming more
comfortable with expecting less from ourselves physically,
emotionally and socially.
Consider that one for a second.
And what if you find yourself on the other side of the
equation...apparently enamored with someone who is resisting
the opportunity to actually meet you in real life?
If that's the case, resist any unrealistic tendency to hold on to
the "fantasy", lest cognitive dissonance take over.
In other words, you may want so badly for the person on the
other end of that online profile to be who you hope they'll be
that you'll overlook any evidence to the contrary.
You'll tolerate resistance to move to the phone, even after
a month of e-mailing. You'll "overlook" the hours upon hours
of phone conversations that have resulted in subject changes
every time you broach the subject of meeting for coffee.
If you're like at least one woman who e-mailed us, you'll even
say you're "too busy" to meet someone...even after stepping
off of an airplane in the city where that person lives!
If any of what I just described rings a bell, here it is: you are
getting played.
What you are doing is not online dating. It's dating online.
Now, granted, a lot of online dating training focuses on simply
getting responses to first e-mails. While I think that's a great
start, you've got to remember that the entire goal of online
dating should be to actually meet someone.
But for all the reasons we've discussed here, you have got to
be increasingly vigilant in today's "disconnected" culture
against missing the point.
If you get a telephone number from a woman you've been
e-mailing back and forth with online, and you chose to text
her instead of calling her you have not moved forward at all.
You are still just typing at her. Consider how you may be
actually contributing to the "disconnected" cultural mindset by
doing that.
You really are just "dating online" until the two of you actually
meet.
So above all, remember this. Online dating is all about real-
life connection. It's all about actually meeting someone great.
Apart from that, you're just playing games.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
=====
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2023. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly remove you from our mailing list.
to get an instant 50% off until tomorrow night.
It's automatically applied for you at checkout.
Remember, you'll also get a copy of The
Man's Approach for FREE so you can meet
women online OR in the real world.
As always the risk is on me. I back Online
Dating Domination 3.0 with a 365 day money-
back guarantee.
Summer is HERE, gentlemen. The women
are out there looking good and online dating
is fast, logical way to meet lots of them in a
short amount of time.
=====
THE REAL POINT OF ONLINE DATING
Have you ever considered how we as a modern culture are
becoming more and more disconnected from each other?
One's first thought when considering that idea is, "Hey, wait a
minute. Everyone has an Internet connection and a smart
phone these days. And what about social media? If anything,
we're MORE connected."
But that's precisely the issue. With the advent of text
messaging and now Zoom we can communicate easier than
ever. Granted.
But do we really connect?
Personally, I'm not at all sure we really do. Despite all the
technology allowing us to communicate, people are actually
gathering less often in real life.
And perhaps most alarmingly, it would appear we like it that
way.
This was going on before COVID lockdowns, by the way.
One key example is how people are actually dating online
instead of online dating.
Simply put, people are dating someone they've never even
met. Seriously.
The process often proceeds as follows. First, two people from
completely different metro areas begin a simple conversation
online.
It can begin innocuously enough, with someone doing a
nationwide search and saying "hello". That email is answered
and they're off and running.
Now granted, some sites openly encourage long-distance
communication, especially niche sites that always have too few
members to promote interesting choices at the local level.
Inexplicably, even eHarmed-me...er, eHarmony yet persists
at driving the "soulmate fantasy" to the national level with
newbie members.
Almost invariably, what happens is two people who have
never met each other end up emotionally attached. They may
even feel like they're "in love".
Well, of course, they're only "in love" with a fantasy until that
all-important first meeting happens.
That much is self-evident.
But a lot of these people have no interest in actually meeting
each other.
There are people out there--and more than you think--who are
living vicariously through their online dating experience.
This can happen for several reasons.
First, someone may believe they're not nearly as sexually
attractive as they once were. So they post old pics from when
they were at their peak, fudge on their age in their profile, and
proceed to enjoy the attention...all the while daring not to ever
come out from behind their online facade.
This factor is particularly pandemic among women, by the way.
Or, someone may genuinely wish to meet someone terrific
online, but is way, way too socially anxious to actually meet in
person. They can't bring themselves to do it.
If you are partaking of this sort of self-indulgence, think about
whether or not there's any real benefit, or if you're simply
becoming more disconnected from your reality.
Is leading someone else on really all that fulfilling, or is it
actually having the opposite effect on your self-esteem as you
thought it might?
Some of us actually embrace the disconnect from actual
human beings in favor of the hope of becoming more
comfortable with expecting less from ourselves physically,
emotionally and socially.
Consider that one for a second.
And what if you find yourself on the other side of the
equation...apparently enamored with someone who is resisting
the opportunity to actually meet you in real life?
If that's the case, resist any unrealistic tendency to hold on to
the "fantasy", lest cognitive dissonance take over.
In other words, you may want so badly for the person on the
other end of that online profile to be who you hope they'll be
that you'll overlook any evidence to the contrary.
You'll tolerate resistance to move to the phone, even after
a month of e-mailing. You'll "overlook" the hours upon hours
of phone conversations that have resulted in subject changes
every time you broach the subject of meeting for coffee.
If you're like at least one woman who e-mailed us, you'll even
say you're "too busy" to meet someone...even after stepping
off of an airplane in the city where that person lives!
If any of what I just described rings a bell, here it is: you are
getting played.
What you are doing is not online dating. It's dating online.
Now, granted, a lot of online dating training focuses on simply
getting responses to first e-mails. While I think that's a great
start, you've got to remember that the entire goal of online
dating should be to actually meet someone.
But for all the reasons we've discussed here, you have got to
be increasingly vigilant in today's "disconnected" culture
against missing the point.
If you get a telephone number from a woman you've been
e-mailing back and forth with online, and you chose to text
her instead of calling her you have not moved forward at all.
You are still just typing at her. Consider how you may be
actually contributing to the "disconnected" cultural mindset by
doing that.
You really are just "dating online" until the two of you actually
meet.
So above all, remember this. Online dating is all about real-
life connection. It's all about actually meeting someone great.
Apart from that, you're just playing games.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
=====
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2023. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly remove you from our mailing list.
X & Y Communications LLC
20403 Encino Ledge
#591313
San Antonio, TX 78259-1313
United States Of America
Unsubscribe | Change Subscriber Options