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IN THIS EDITION: What if you see long-term
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WHEN MEETING WOMEN GETS TOUGH,
THE TOUGH GET WOMEN


Your sticking points may be unique.

Or, you may respond better to direct, personal
motivation and laser-targeted focus than to
listening to audios or watching videos
designed for the masses.

If either or both of those scenarios describes
you, putting me to work for you as your
personal trainer for getting better with women
will likely be the best move you've ever made.

Drop me an e-mail at:


scot@deservewhatyouwant.com


Tell me where you are right now and where
you want to be.

I'll read every word.

After all, your custom coaching program
will be tailor-made to your specific
requirements.

Over the last seventeen years of doing
Ten-Plus programs, every guy who made
the bold move to contact me has gotten
results.

For most, the life they live today--even
as we speak--is beyond what they
dared to even dream of at some time
in the past.

What all of these men had in common
from the very beginning is they're solid
men of character who love women.

Often, they had a lot going for them
in their lives, except the right woman
(or women) to share it all with.

AND...each and every one of them
decided that enough is enough, drew
a line in the sand and got this all-
important part of their lives handled.

Now, it's your turn to get what you want.

Write me at:


scot@deservewhatyouwant.com


...and tell me your story.



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WHEN YOU MEET YOUR NEXT GIRLFRIEND, HERE'S WHAT
TO SAY TO HER


It's no secret that there are a lot of women out there who view
dating as a means to an end.

That end, of course, being to get married as soon as possible.

Not every woman is on that agenda, but then again not every man
views dating as a means to an end to simply "get laid", either.

Nevertheless, the bottom line either way is that today's 21st century
man OR woman really does tend to want what he or she wants...and
NOW.

Waiting is so...last century.

But clearly, that whole mindset is in direct opposition to the
elegant simplicity and utter effectiveness of deserving what you
want, which really is the fundamental cornerstone of a great
relationship.

Hey, call me "old school", but when you represent to MOTOS
(members of the other sex) what they want, they tend to give you
exactly what you want in return.

This is NOT to be confused with giving in to the demands of
selfish, impatient women, however.  Deserving what one wants is
more of a proactive strategy for creating attraction on the part of
high-quality MOTOS.

So then, just like it's bad dating advice to tell a woman that she
should have sex quickly with a man who is pressuring her to do so
in hopes that she'll get him to be her steady boyfriend in return,
the shoe also fits the other foot.

Anytime we cave in to a woman's "strong suggestion" that we enter
into an exclusive relationship with her after only a couple of
dates in hopes that she'll then agree to having sex with us, we're
setting ourselves up for major disappointment.

Obviously, she'd hold all the power in the relationship at that
point.  Sex can and would become a bargaining chip for future
demands on her part.

Ironically the true disappointment occurs when we realize that our
lack of resolve in the form of giving in to her only results in her
losing attraction for us.

Welcome to why so many guys are in sexless marriages, to wives
who nag them all the time.

With all of that in mind, masculine leadership has got to include
telling women who push early and often for an exclusive
relationship that it just can't happen that way.

You may choose to tell her that you take exclusivity seriously, and
you only enter into such relationships when you absolutely,
positively see long-term potential between you and a certain
woman.

Going on, you might explain that getting a good, valid read on that
invariably takes time.  And it also takes dating a number of
different women to figure out what one really wants.

Now, this conversation is often surprisingly effective in situations
where you DON'T necessarily see that long-term potential in a
woman, or at least not right away.
 
Since it makes perfect sense, any rational, ultimately well-meaning
woman will understand why pushing you toward exclusivity is not a
good idea.

Either that or she'll walk, right?  If that happens, you've dodged
a bullet, believe me.

On a recent call, however, someone brought up an excellent
question:


  "OK Scot, what if you DO see long-term potential in a woman right
  away and you DO want to get into an exclusive relationship with her
  pretty quickly?  What are the right words to tell her in THAT case?"


Well, first of all let's safely assume that you've raised the
proverbial bar to the point where you've been dating exactly the
kind of women you want lately.

Next, let's also assume you're sick of dating and ready to build a
common history with one great woman.

Neither of those are automatic assumptions, by any stretch.

But if you can honestly say you're at that point and find yourself
meeting a woman and wanting to make her your steady girlfriend,
then here's what you say to her:


  THE SAME THING.


That's right...the story doesn't change.

You STILL tell her that you take exclusivity VERY seriously, and
that you believe it takes time to figure out for sure that it's the
right step to take.

Whether you choose to date other women or not in the interim is
your decision, but the plan to take a slower, more evaluative
stance is what it is:  a WISE one.

Just like you wouldn't want to be tricked or pressured into getting
into an exclusive relationship with the WRONG woman, you wouldn't
want to jeopardize something potentially great by rushing things
either.

Both the strategy and the words to describe it are wise to put into
practice simply because they're THE TRUTH.

This is the way ANY self-respecting, mature human being--man OR
woman--should looks that things.

So considering that the truth remains a constant regardless of how
you're feeling about a woman you just met, why complicate matters
by deviating from it?

In this case, like in most, the truth really is the easiest way to
go...as well as the most effective.