[X&Y] Letter From A Woman (What's Going On Here Is Unthinkable)
Published: Sat, 08/19/23
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Here's proof positive of why you have GOT to have
solid relationship management skills. If you don't, something crazy
like what you're going to read about below is more than likely to
happen.
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MEN'S SEX LIVES HAVE BECOME THE
RUNNING JOKE OF THE 21st CENTURY.
THAT'S GOT TO STOP.
Sexual frustration among men is at an all
time high.
More of us than ever before believe that if
we even HAVE sexual interest in a woman,
let alone demonstrate it, we're some sort
of "predator".
This is such a MASSIVE topic that the newest
Mountain Top Podcast episode discusses it.
That leads to countless men with NO women
in their lives--apart from the ones they tantalize
themselves with on the computer screen, of
course.
As if that alone wasn't bad enough, it's as if
we're constantly bombarded by jokes on
television commercials and in sitcoms about
men who strike out with women.
That just rubs salt in the wound.
Meanwhile, despite what you may have heard,
the vast majority of women out there really
don't have an axe to grind with men.
They're just wondering where we all ARE. Most
women are wandering the planet even MORE
sexually frustrated than WE are.
Think I must be joking? Guess again.
Women are lighting up the cash register at
Amazon buying literotica books.
They're also fueling a multi-billion dollar "toy"
industry. (Ever hear of "Slumber Parties" or
"Pure Romance"?)
The raw truth is that women CRAVE sex.
But the most twisted part of all is that they
can't straight-up TELL us that because they
fear being shamed as a slut...or being
mistreated by the WRONG man.
Once again, society has dealt us all a raw deal.
So it's up to us as REAL men to take what's
BROKEN and FIX it.
There are red-blooded, real WOMEN out there
who are depending on us to be their heroes...
and that includes in the bedroom.
They anxiously await the moment when we
boldly give them the dominant, masculine MAN
they desire...and the sheet-ripping relationship
with us that they are BURNING for.
The step-by-step road map for doing that is
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That's the real man's guide to identifying
truly healthy, sexual women who LOVE men
and then giving them the red-hot satisfaction
they've been missing from their lives.
Right now, I've reactivated the automatic
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The right woman will thank you for this. I'll leave
picturing what that would look like to your
naughtiest fantasies.
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LETTER FROM A WOMAN
I received a letter recently from a woman that's so poignant
it all but demands discussion:
Hello Scot,
Thank you for all the help and information in your regular e-mails
over the past couple months. They have been really helpful in
helping me understand guys.
Here is my question today:
A little background first. My boyfriend and I have been dating for
1 year and 9 months.
Anyway, earlier this year he brought up the subject of moving in
together--in fact, he brought up the idea of us buying a house
together.
For about 2 months that was what we were planning on doing until
he told me (out of nowhere) that he didn't think we should move in
together anymore.
He came up with lots of excuses, like he wasn't sure if he morally
believes in it, his family wouldn't like it (they are very religious),
he thought it would put too much negative stress on our relationship,
and he didn't think it was the right time to do that.
What are your thoughts on this situation?
When he told me he had changed his mind I was devastated and I
think I lost a lot of trust in him. Also, I think I am still angry
and distrusting of him now as I find myself getting angry at him
very easily now for things I never would have before.
I also find myself kind of uneasy around him now as I worry what he
will tell me next, almost like I am expecting him to disappoint me
at every turn.
I don't like feeling like this and I don't like feeling angry at him.
Also, he doesn't even realize that this is how I feel. What should I
do?
Anyway, something else that is bothering me is that my boyfriend
has never really brought up the idea of marriage or kids.
We have almost been dating for 2 years and I don't really know if he
wants marriage and kids in his life one day. I assume he does since
he comes from a religious family that considers marriage important.
He has never specifically said that he wants to get married. Also
I guess what I want to hear from him is that marriage and kids are
something he wants and that he can see those things happening with
me.
How do I bring this up with him without freaking him out?
Also, do you think it's a good idea to bring this stuff up at this
point in our relationship? If he doesn't want these things I want
to know now so that I don't waste my time on a relationship where
we don't have the same long-term goals.
Thank you very much for all your help.
Jennifer (Davenport, IA)
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I'm sure most of you out there are already throwing soda cans and
rotten veggies at your computer monitors.
Yeah, I know...there's an obvious issue here as to whether the guy
has been stringing Jennifer along the whole time. I answered her
offline and shared with her what she needed to know.
My reason for sharing her e-mail with you, however, transcends
that particular issue.
I invite you to ponder with me a more fascinating question at play
here:
How on Earth do two people date for almost two friggin'
years and not ever have such major matters of mutual
compatibility even come up?
I mean, that's practically unthinkable.
Yet, the answer struck me almost immediately upon reading the
email and has haunted me since.
The truth is it's so blasted easy to get into a situation like
Jennifer's that this sort of thing goes on all the time.
Maybe even in your life.
So how DID those two manage to avoid major questions of basic
worldview and compatibility for THAT LONG? And more importantly,
what 20/20 hindsight is there that could have prevented this?
Well, Jennifer's boyfriend has "failed to deploy" in a crucial but
often overlooked area: relationship management.
And it's not that he's a bad guy. I'm sure the first couple dates or
so with Jennifer went great, no doubt.
BUT...he sort of never got beyond dating tactics as the
relationship progressed. There was no long-term strategy
there.
For sure, you absolutely should avoid loaded discussions about
long-term stuff for the first couple of dates.
Keeping things light as two people are just getting to know one
another helps build comfort and keeps people from creeping each
other out.
Fair enough.
But here's the danger there. A couple who starts a relationship
will very quickly form habits together that will likely last as long as
the relationship itself does.
For example, if you and your new friend go back to the apartment to
"Netflix and chill" for two or three dates in a row early on, you
may find yourself doing only that all the time. You'll be in a rut, and
the relationship will never progress from that shallow level.
Notice that Jennifer is utterly nonplussed (like we are) as to how
SO MANY incredibly important things NEVER got talked about.
And nowadays, she is wondering if it's "okay" to even address the
important subjects with her boyfriend without "freaking him out".
She has been ready and willing to hit the hard questions all along,
but her boyfriend has FAILED TO LEAD in that area.
Two dates turned into three dates...and into six dates...then into six
months.
For whatever reason, be it him stringing her along on purpose,
fear of loss or pure laziness, Jennifer's boyfriend preferred to keep
his head in the sand regarding the major compatibility questions
rather than open the conversation.
Nowadays they're indeed in a "rut" there. Basically, the precedent
has been set.
Meanwhile, Jennifer is offering a breathtaking demonstration of
exactly how important it is to a woman for a man to show leadership
skill.
Could she have chimed in on this stuff a lot earlier? Sure.
But what she wants is a MAN. A MAN who can lead. A MAN who
can make decisions and give her a secure feeling in his presence.
His lack of leadership in managing the relationship has morphed
into what appears to be utter lack of courage in dealing with
important questions that will define the viability of the entire
relationship.
And nearly two years into this thing, they're still at Square One.
Jennifer is left to finally stand up and say "enough is enough", as
long as it's, uh... "okay" to do so.
Relationship management skill is all-important. And the time to
consider what that means is BEFORE you meet someone you
want to share your life with.
You've GOT to be the quarterback of the relationship, or else
you'll end up being a bench warmer.
You not only have to know how to choose a high quality woman,
you've got to understand how to lead in a relationship once
you've chosen her.
Understanding the secret language of women. Not falling into
traps. Handling conflict. Knowing what to do when crises
inevitably happen.
Getting all of those situations right is mission critical, as is
simply knowing how to lead the way to long-term happiness
and fulfillment together.
Don't let things "just happen" and end up in a disappointing
and potentially time-wasting scenario like Jennifer and her
boyfriend.
Life is WAY too short for that, wouldn't you agree?
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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