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IN THIS EDITION: What if you have a girlfriend, but either you or
she is faced with a relocation? Here's how to lead in that
situation...
   
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IF YOU DON'T MEET ANY WOMEN, IT'S SORT OF HARD TO GO
OUT WITH THEM


You didn't need me to tell you that, right?

I mean, if you want a girlfriend you've got to actually talk to her first.

From there anything is possible...but you've got to take that first step.

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It's simple. When you successfully approach women and make
them adore you, it's the greatest feeling ever.

When you "fail to deploy" and are left kicking yourself over
what might have been, it isn't.

Looking back, I know I feel WAY more remorse over the times I
should have met a woman and didn't than the times I tried and
failed.



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SHE MAKES A MOVE (BUT IT'S NOT WHAT YOU THINK) 


Scot:

I was in a 3.5 year relationship with a wonderful girl. We had to
go long distance as she moved to the Midwest for her MBA
program and I moved to Philly for work.

She broke up with me just one month into the long-distance
relationship (because I did not lead in the LDR).

As I create abundance by digesting your programs and getting into
online dating in my new town, I would however like to keep her as
an option in the future and she seems open to something after
school.

She wants to "support each other" through her schooling and my
new job. We've had no contact for 5 weeks.

How would you handle contact with her? None at all? Friendly
conversation on occasion?

What are your thoughts on LD relationships given that the girl and
I to begin had 3.5 relationship that was not LD?

I'd still like to be with her and having digested The Leading Man, I
believe I have made the fundamental changes to make the LD
relationship work.

I think there is a possibility that we will get back together.

What are your thoughts on rekindling with an ex that does not live
in my town?

Appreciate your insights and I value your programs. I'm finishing
up Online Dating Domination and looking forward to dominating
the Philadelphia area. Thanks for putting together that program. 


Kind Regards,

Jeff (Ardmore, PA)



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Hello Jeff:

First of all, you're quite welcome.  I'm glad you're enjoying ODD.
It's helping a ton of guys out there, no question.

My take on what you've shared with me is very simple.  I don't
think you've been prioritizing this woman as if she's your
one-and-only.  

3 1/2 years is a long, long time not to put a ring on her finger if
you truly see long-term potential for her.  Then, when you had
mutually exclusive opportunities that took you to different parts
of the country you both, well...took them.

When people are absolutely nuts over each other they'll do what it
takes to be together, and voluntarily entering into an LDR would be
a non-option. 

While I fully understand both you and she likely had great things
going on in Philly and the Midwest respectively that you felt you
couldn't pass up, you clearly chose those opportunities over each
other.

Simply put, putting job and career ahead of those you love is never
the way to strengthen relationships.  Sure, you must have ambition
and purpose in order to attract a high quality woman, but ultimately
the people you love have to come first. 

Just to be clear, can you see the difference there between that and
actually making her your actual ambition and purpose?  

The point isn't that you should have given up your career dreams to
be with her, but rather that the two of you didn't communicate, plan
and work together to meet each other's needs in a way that allowed
the two of you to be together. 

The leadership role in making that happen was (and still is) yours.
She was (and possibly still is) waiting for YOU to call the shots.

Ultimately, since the decision to create a separation of hundreds of
miles between you has happened on your watch, you've reaffirmed
in her mind that you weren't ever likely to make her your wife and
love her forever.

So, in effect, it's not so much that you didn't lead in the LDR,
it's more the fact that you did lead into the LDR.  If you think
about it that way, you can readily see how that can't exactly be
confidence inspiring for her.

For the purposes at hand I'm going to assume you've already
confirmed that she is NOT with some other guy already.

Notwithstanding that, if you truly want this woman, you'll drive to
wherever she is with a ring and tell her that you can't imagine life
without her in it. 

Then you'll sit down and have an honest talk about where it makes
most sense to live.

That talk should have happened before she ever even applied for
school, so let me tell you right now:  at this point it's probably going
to be where SHE is.  Prepare to own that one yourself and take the
lead in being the one who moves.

Ultimately, when a woman loves you she needs you to LEAD.  That
leadership works in a way that has the woman's best interest at
heart, but--importantly--also comes from a position of strength
rather than weakness.

I'm sure that at this point what I'm suggesting might sound like
you're actually giving your power away. 

Actually, the opposite is true.  What you'd be doing is taking
responsibility for getting into this mess to begin with, and taking
the proverbial bull by the horns to get out of it.

You see, we're not talking about approaching women or first dates
here.  This is a woman you've had an established relationship with
who's been literally waiting around for you to make a decision for
her or not.

If the decision's for her, you'll make a bold move...not unlike
what you often see at the end of movies.

But here's the thing.  I'm not at all convinced that's the way you
really want to go.

You've already let the move away from each other happen, then the
breakup.

And now you've let five weeks go without talking to her at all.

You've also gotten your hands on ODD2 and sound pretty stoked to
meet all the hotties you can in your new city.

Similarly, guys who are all about building a great relationship
with a certain woman don't talk in terms of "keeping her as an
option in the future".  And I'm sure she's not exactly interested
in waiting around as you explore other ones.

Ultimately, despite how touching a story the two of you would have
to tell your kids and grandkids someday if you went and swept her
off her feet, I strongly suspect that the RIGHT decision for both
of you would be to move on.

But only YOU can decide.

So which is it?  Are you genuinely excited about meeting new
women online or wherever else they may be?  Or is your true
desire to be with this one woman? 

Obviously, it can't be both.  The point is that YOU lead, but
you've got to go in one direction or another.  In this case, doing
nothing would NOT be leadership.

If she's The One, go get her.  If she's not, it's time for closure.

If it's the latter, pick up the phone and either tell her it's really over
or that you'll "just be friends", whichever you think is most fitting.

It's up to you to make the call, but definitely make the call...if
you get my drift.