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INCLUDED BELOW:  How come women SAY they want a
certain type of guy, and then end up with someone completely
different?
   
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IT'S YOUR TURN


Craig lives in rural Montana.  As you might imagine, right now
it's cold out there in the middle of the wilderness.

Not long ago, he put me to work for him.  He is all about
being the best version of his authentic self, and he's ready
to finally meet the woman of his dreams.

We launched his profile on Match.com. Then we started
working on writing women.

One of the women he messaged wrote him back within
ten minutes.

They went out that same night, and it went GREAT.

But then, a day or so later Craig dropped me a message.

A woman he was particularly excited about had written him
back, and he had already set a first meeting with her.

We talked at length about how to make sure everything
went great.

To say it did would be an understatement.

He and his new female friend hit it off spectacularly.  They
laughed, they kissed, and they can't wait to see each other
again.

She's a cutie.  She's also 15 years his junior, for what it's
worth.

Craig's Projection Profile caught the attention of EXACTLY
the kind of woman he wants.  Women were openly excited
to meet him, and they were SHOWING UP.  No "ghosting".

Best of all, he has the skills and confidence to deserve
what he wants. That means when women meet him, they
want MORE.

He was READY to meet wonderful women when the time
came, and it didn't take long.

This is all VERY REAL.  It's not some subjective "what
if" scenario.  Craig is a real guy with real goals who is
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DO WOMEN REALLY KNOW WHAT THEY WANT?


There's a popular teaching going around these days.

Basically, a lot of guys believe that no guy in his right mind
should EVER get ANY kind of dating advice from women.

"After all", so the story goes, "they have no idea what they really
want."

This fascinates me.

On one hand, I fully get how this sentiment would come about.

After all, there are quite a number of lady "dating gurus" teaching
women how to trick guys into relationships...after all, we as men
obviously (in their mind's eye, at least) "only want one thing",
and a relationship isn't it.

And, of course, there's the age-old meme that women want "nice
guys", when every "nice guy" out there has been slapped with the
"Just Be Friends" talk ad nauseam.

But on the other hand, I question whether an entire gender can
fully and consistently wander around the desert aimlessly, having
no earthly idea what it wants out of MOTOS (members of the other
sex).

And when it comes right down to it, I do think women are perfectly
capable of recognizing--and articulating--what they want in a man.

No doubt, if you've been hanging out here for more than a month or
so, it should be obvious to you that I value women's opinions
regarding what they want in a man.

I've never been shy about inviting "lady gurus" to sit in with me to
talk shop.

And then there's that other "lady guru", some chick named Emily
McKay.  I've become fairly familiar with her opinions on men over
the past sixteen years.

So yes, based on what I've seen, what women tell you they want
in a man will indeed bear itself out in reality...USUALLY.

Ha...got you there, didn't I?

But careful.  We shouldn't be so quick to paint women as uniquely
fickle and clueless in this area.  The same sometimes holds true
for us guys too, doesn't it?

Regardless of gender, one's taste in MOTOS is not exactly a clear
cut matter.

Consider, for example, how you may have spent your youth
daydreaming of a tall, leggy supermodel of a blondie in your life
someday, only later to find yourself with a 5'1" former gymnast with
raven black hair.

If so, I'm sure you were actually thrilled by that outcome.

Or maybe you always thought you wanted a woman who wasn't a
"shrinking violet", until you actually found yourself in a relationship
with a woman who challenged your every thought.  Then you
reconsidered.

And see, that's the thing:  Man or woman, I believe there are two
distinct areas where our opinions on what we want or don't want in
MOTOS is very much subject to change.

The first is when our preference is built on pure fantasy rather than
objective, experiential reality.

A petite woman may say she wants a man who is 6'4".  And when
she gets in a relationship with such a guy, she might be blissfully
happy.

Then again, she may discover that there are some aspects of that
arrangement she hadn't thought through ahead of time.

Or perhaps there's a guy (or three) out there who just crested the
"Big Four-Oh" and is jonesing for an 18- or 19-year-old girl to
date (yes...I said "girl").

Show me a man who longs to date 'em that young, and I'll often
show you a guy who HASN'T done so.

Why?  Well, because someone should be paying him to
"babysit" rather than him paying for a date, that's why.

By the way, as an aside here, note that a TON of "limiting beliefs"
commonly found on both sides of the gender ledger are often
driven by pure fantasy, as supposed (or is that "imposed"?) upon
the general population by today's media-driven culture.

Crazy isn't it?

But moving on, the second instance where what we SAY we want
from MOTOS is subject to change is when an exceptional human
being comes along who breaks the mold.

You see, even if objective experience has crafted a very real,
genuine preference in us, we cannot logically dismiss the
possibility--however remote we see it--that the "right person" is
going to come along who challenges every thought, opinion
and--yes--experience we've ever had.

After all, we as human beings are individuals.  And with that
individuality comes the wonderful, magical ability for any person
at any given time to exceed the capacities of our imaginations.

So let's say you have a specific "type" in mind, and along comes a
woman who breaks every blasted rule you have for who you're
typically attracted to and compatible with...or the subjective ones,
at least, right?

Are you "settling" if you select her?  Of course not.  You simply
raised the bar in a way you never expected...and in a way that only
a certain, magical woman ever could.

By the way, make no mistake:  No matter what YOUR "limiting belief"
is, as long as you are a "big four" man doing the best with what you
have, there are women out there for whom YOU will be a "magical
exception" also.

Sound Pollyanna-ish to you?  Stop kidding yourself.  As sure as YOU
have found yourself attracted to women without logical explanation,
YOU can indeed defy logic in a woman's mind.  Count on it.

So finally then, what about when you really can expect when
women know exactly what they're talking about when it comes to
their taste in a man?

Well, essentially, that would be every time other than those
instances I've presented above.

For example, if a woman has been out with her fair share of guys, I
think she is speaking from a position of authority when she tells
you what will and will not lead to a second date with her.

"Magical exceptions", after all, are NOT common.

It's especially important to recognize that when either you or a
woman express a like or dislike for a very clear, objective thing,
it should be taken at face value.

To dismiss someone's sentiments toward that which IS black and
white is essentially to either utterly disrespect someone's common
intelligence and/or to stick your head in the sand due to personal
insecurity and or flat-out stubbornness.

So yes, when you say, for example, that you don't like women
who are raging alcoholics, I think it's a safe assumption to believe
you mean it...at face value.

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