[X&Y] How To Do Your Best With What You've Got (Reader Question)
Published: Fri, 03/29/24
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Here's the complete lowdown
on keeping body hair, nails, etc. under control
like every man should.
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READER QUESTIONS AND COMMENTS
Hi Scot,
You're the boss and you haven't led me astray yet, so could you
help me out?
Manscaping and general grooming. I need the hows of ear/nose/
facial/body hair maintenance.
I feel like an idiot, but I don't know where to start with this.
Thanks Man,
Jonah (Akron, OH)
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What's up, Jonah? Thanks for writing.
First off, let's clear the air here for everyone who's reading
these words: There's no shame at all in "manscaping".
Contrary to what some may say, this isn't necessarily about being a
"metrosexual" or anything like that. Rather, it has everything to
do with simply doing the best with what you've got.
As you well know by now, women genuinely appreciate that and
often credit it to you as raw physical attractiveness.
Now okay, maybe if you become obsessed with this stuff and get a
full-on Brazilian wax and a pedicure you might be going "metro" on
us.
But for the rest of us, it's about being more attractive to women
instantly with relatively little effort. That's always a terrific plan.
Similarly, there's no shame in not knowing exactly where to start
with this, either.
It's not really hard wired into us as men to be so interested in
anything that sounds like it should take place at a salon, which
could be why relatively few guys ever do what they should to get
their body hair, nails etc. under control.
Nevertheless, it doesn't have to be rocket science to get it right.
In fact, regular maintenance can be disarmingly quick and easy to
take care of.
As for so many other technical jobs in a man's life, it all
starts with having the right tools.
The first and easiest place to start here is your nails. Own a
good pair of fingernail clippers AND a pair of the larger toenail
clippers.
Some guys prefer to file their nails instead, and that's fine...
especially if there are any rough edges.
I'd say keep your fingernails evenly trimmed at about 1mm at all
times, and ride herd on this faithfully. Women look at our hands
and instinctively consider whether or not they want them running
all over their bodies.
(And admit it...we look at a woman's hands and think the same
thing, don't we?)
This also means that dirt under the fingernails is a bad, bad idea.
That's what nailbrushes are for. Use one in the shower with some
good, organic soap.
What's good for your fingernails is also good for your toenails.
You can leave your toenails a bit longer (up to 2mm, I'd say).
Just remember that if you find yourself in bed with a woman, you
don't want to kill the joy by scratching her legs with your ragged
toes.
There are two other tools you can and probably should stock your
bathroom drawer with. I have to say I never even knew these
things even existed until I was in my thirties.
The first is a cuticle knife. All you do is run your fingers under
water for about 20 seconds, push your cuticles back with one end
and carve the excess skin off with the other.
It sounds ugly, but it's actually a pretty straightforward and
painless process when done by the book. Your fingers look tons
better afterward.
The other tool to get is a heel scraper. You use it to literally
shave off the calluses from the back of your heels. Again, having
rough, cracked feet is a killer when in bed with a woman, so why not
make it a "non-issue"?
When it comes to body hair, I recommend owning an electric "body
trimmer" and what's sometimes called either a "personal trimmer" or
a "precision trimmer".
The latter is a clipper with, for lack of a better description, a
pointier head than the regular body trimmer. They run about 12
bucks and are custom-made to tackle ear and nose hair.
Ear and nose hair start being an issue around 35 or so, and it
seems to grow nearly as fast as your beard, unfortunately.
Getting into the habit of trimming it at a relatively young age is
a great idea, as it grows thicker and more abundantly as we
mature.
You don't want to end up looking like the old guy from Up at
age 45 or so.
The personal/precision trimmer really is the most efficient way to
seriously get at both ear and nose hair, as it tends to grow from a
really tough angle.
Be sure to shave the outside edges of your ears also. It's amazing
how doing away with ear and nose hair gives your appearance an
immediate lift.
The "body trimmer" is for more general tasks, like touch-ups or
stray hair growth.
I recommend either Remington or Braun trimmers. Others I've
tried are notorious for burning up motors and/or wearing out their
rechargeable batteries WAY too quickly.
Fortunately, eyebrows grow much more slowly.
Getting them trimmed is also a must, and since one unforgivable
slip of the wrist can hack a bare spot into your brow that won't
resolve itself for weeks, I say leave the task to your barber when
you get your regular haircuts--which should be a maximum of a
month apart. Three weeks is better.
Obviously, most guys shave their faces. Having tried just about
everything, using a blade still delivers the closest shave compared
to any electric razor I've tried.
For best results, shave after showering so your beard is softened
up some.
Splash some more water on your face and use your choice of foam
or gel. I personally prefer foam because it just seems to be less
work to lather up and I would swear it performs better too.
The problem is finding good stuff that won't break the bank and
doesn't contain parabens. Hero Soap, who sponsors the show, is
a great choice.
[NOTE: I'm so fed up with bad shaving cream choices that I'm
going to start making the best you've ever tried. More on that
soon enough...]
As for which razor to choose, go for a name brand one. If you're
not buying Gillette ones anymore, try Schick or Remington. The
truth is different faces prefer different razors. Life is weird like
that.
Take your time when shaving and importantly, make sure the blades
are sharp. Cartridges will definitely keep their edge longer than
the manufacturers advertise, but make no mistake--it's dull blades
that'll likely nick your face up, not the sharp ones.
Nowadays they've gone overboard with multiple blade heads and even
battery-powered manual razors. It's all a grand scheme to charge
more for cartridges, I think, which they've been wildly successful
at getting away with.
I'll admit I've tried the battery powered manual razors and the
benefit realized was minimal, at best.
I've had a hairy chest my entire adult life and have seldom had
women object to it. Most, in fact, like it.
Ridiculously, chest hair is said to have gone in and out of style
over the years but I wouldn't pay much attention to what's
current in that regard since you are who you are no matter what.
Back hair is a different story, of course I confess it's an issue for
me, and I've always just used Nair on it once a month, around the
time I get a haircut.
Believe it or not, you can simply use one of those long wooden
kitchen spoons to apply it with, just make sure to dedicate one to
the task forever, keeping it under the sink in the bathroom or
wherever.
If you try to use that spoon in the kitchen ever again, I can
assure you it won't end well.
Be sure not to miss the back of your arms where your triceps meet
your delts.
Amazingly, back hair isn't as huge a turn-off for many women as you
might think, especially if you're not exactly gorilla-esque back
there. Then again, I've never had a woman beg me to let it go au
naturel.
If you have a higher tolerance for going to any establishment that
resembles a salon than I do, then you could definitely get your
back waxed or lasered and consider it a great investment.
I wouldn't shave my legs unless sports or medical procedure
demanded it.
And with THAT, the only area that's really left to talk about is
the pubic region.
I'll tell you what, this newsletter is already EPIC length as is,
but I've covered that over on the blog:
EduMcKaytion Blog
Rest assured, every lurid detail you'd ever want to know about
keeping your "nether regions" in check (and why you should) is
there for you at that link above.
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