[X&Y] "Bad Boy" Or "Nice Guy"...Or Neither?

Published: Thu, 06/06/24

Updated: Thu, 06/06/24


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WHAT'S INSIDE:  You asked for some clarification on being
a great man as opposed to "Mr. Nice Guy".  I've got your
back, as always...

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YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE A "BAD BOY" OR A "NICE GUY
 
 
[Ed Note:  A TON of you asked for more on how to identify the
difference between being the unattractive "nice guy" and being
the kind of great man that women crave instead.
 
That's an excellent question.  So good, in fact, that I wrote
about it almost nine years ago.
 
Here, from the "archives", is exactly what the doctor ordered...]


We know that "Nice Guys" tend to end up in the dreaded "Just Be
Friends Zone".  But that doesn't stop women everywhere from
claiming that's what they really want in a man.  So what's the deal
here?

As often seems to be the case, the true answer is a disarmingly
simple one.

"Nice" behavior by a man in and of itself is not what
differentiates "keepers" from the "rejects" in the minds of women. 

To the contrary, it's all about HOW the man presents himself.

Make no mistake, it's not necessarily the I/Js (Idiot/Jerks) who
get women, especially the highest echelon of women.  Being "good"
or "bad" in and of itself is NOT the key, despite what you may have
heard elsewhere. 

In fact, being a "bad boy" is at best a quick-fix for getting some
women...any women who'll take him, as long as she's "hot". 

Whether they are "good" or "bad", it is my informed and therefore
strong opinion that guys rarely if ever get tossed into the
"friendship" pile if they have succeeded in any way, shape or form
at creating attraction. 

Sure, there's the rare instance when a truly sharp woman recognizes
that a guy is flat-out no good for her despite her overpowering
desire for him, but let's face it--that wasn't a good man she was
dealing with anyway.  And you know by now that we LOVE truly sharp
women around here.

So here it is:  The difference between a genuinely good man who
attracts women and one who ultimately does not is centered around
from what position he is coming from in performing his "good guy"
behavior. 

Men who act "nice" from a position of WEAKNESS end up rejected.
Men who are in a position of STRENGTH, yet who treat women well
often make women so crazy for them that they have more options than
they can handle.

As always, I'm happy to break it down for you.  Here are some key
differentiators between "nice guys" who finish first and those
who...well...don't.


 
THE NICE GUY WHO FINISHES LAST
(Coming From A Position Of Weakness)...


 
1)  ...Capitulates To Women's Whims.


"Yes Dear."  "Whatever you want, Honey." 

Men only say this to avoid conflict (at best) or (at worst) because
they pathetically think that their efforts will somehow impress a
woman.  Sorry, but women can smell insincerity a mile away.


 
2)  ...Is Afraid To Lose The Woman He Is With. 


Therefore, they literally bend over backwards not to "upset" her or
say the wrong thing.

Despite the obvious desperation involved here, arguably the most
unattractive aspect of all this to a woman is how BORING it is.


 
3)  ...Has Zero Leadership Ability. 


Guys often hear that "if Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy".  So
the thought process is geared toward letting HER make decisions and
letting HER get what she wants. 

Unfortunately, women have a level of respect for a man that
correlates to his level of leadership in a relationship. 

Zero leadership equals zero respect...which logically equals zero
second dates.


 
4)  ...Lacks Confidence. 


If you are worried she won't like you she probably won't. 

And similarly, if you act "nice" because you haven't the courage to
stand up for yourself, she'll likely walk all over you...disgusted by
every second of it.


 
5)  ...Has Thinly-Veiled Ulterior Motives.
 

Nobody likes to be "brown nosed" or "buttered up".  There is no
more blatant display of viewing a woman as a purely sexual object
than to go overboard being "nice". 

She knows, you know and the rest of the world knows you wouldn't be
so "nice" if she wasn't so sexy.  Consider how weak this appears to
a woman.  End of story. 



Meanwhile,


 
THE GOOD MAN WHO WINS
(Coming From A Position Of Strength)...


 
1)  ...Treats ALL WOMEN Well, Regardless Of Sexual Attractiveness. 


Guys, take this test for yourself:  Do you open doors for ALL
women, or only for the ones who look good?

If the latter, don't be so shocked that your dates slot you in the
JBF zone so much.  Your "nice" behavior is all about manipulating
women into giving you what you need. 

Start appreciating women more genuinely, and you will begin to be
more genuinely appreciated.  Is this really so difficult to get?


 
2)  ...Is Not Focused On "Getting Some". 
   

Sex-starved men stay hungry. 

Men without pressing sexual needs cause women to feel more
comfortable in their presence. 

Ironically, women who are comfortable around a man are more
attracted...and ultimately more sexual.  So the pattern operates.


 
3)  ...Takes Charge. 


Such a man does not sheepishly ask a woman her preference and
thereby let her dictate the flow of a date. 

A Great Man has paid attention and learned what makes the woman
tick.  When the date comes, he has the plan completely handled. 

At the end of the evening, the woman is often flabbergasted at how
"perfect" her evening full of surprises was.  But the Good Man with
leadership ability knows it was all no accident.


 
4)  ...Has Options.


Therefore, he succeeds in causing the woman he is with feel to
particularly valuable and special.  She views herself as the
"winner", and rightly so. 

Other women want this guy, but she is with him.  That feeling is a
good one to have.  If a man can inspire a woman to feel valuable OR
special he's on the right track, but getting both right is an
unbeatable combination. 

By the way, contrast this scenario with the weak man's cavalcade of
compliments and/or gifts designed to help him somehow manipulate a
woman's attraction.


 
5)  ...Has High Standards. 


This means the man is EVALUATING the woman he is with rather than
attempting to impress her. 

He has complete control over his dating life, and as a good man is
confident enough in his character to realize that women worth his
time and effort will recognize that and be impressed without his
having to press the issue. 
      


Once again, men have been brainwashed in this culture into
believing that all male behavior is bad behavior.  Yet, women
continue to seek out real men. 

The tragedy is that most men have either given up on being great
men entirely and gone to the I/J "dark side", or they wallow around
in an asexual virtual mud pit of being too "nice". 

Either way, the casualty is that magically gallant true masculinity
that women starve for. 

Come on, guys...get it figured out and go get the amazing woman you
deserve. 
 

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