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WHAT'S INSIDE:   Pay close attention to this modern-day
parable and don't be a "settler"...

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TRUE STORY: DO THIS AT YOUR OWN RISK


The following story is true. The names have been changed to
protect the innocent. 

But there isn't anything that's going to protect YOU from the very
same thing happening in YOUR life unless you deserve what you
want and put to an end any mindset whatsoever that would cause
you to "settle". 

Here's the deal.

About two years ago Dudley The Desperado went to a bar,
hopefully to meet some women. 

After throwing the proverbial "spaghetti against the wall" to
see what "stuck", lo and behold he got a woman named Mary
Meenow to talk to him. 

She gave him her number. He called her and asked her out the
"customary" three days later.

A few weeks went by, and Mary started bugging Dudley about
becoming "exclusive". "Make me your girlfriend or I'm outta
here!", she announced. 

After an audible wussy-boy sigh, Dudley The Desperado feverishly
rifled through the file cards in his head but gave in. After all,
it was a heck of a lot easier than going out there trying to meet
someone else, huh?

So Dudley and Mary soldiered on a few more months. Finally,
Mary uttered the inevitable: "Hey my friend told me today that her
boyfriend asked her to marry him, and we've been dating longer
than they have!" 

Dudley was flustered and avoided the issue. 

But Mary was persistent. Only a couple of days passed by before
she dropped the Weapon Of Mass Destruction: "I've had it with your
non-committal attitude. Either I get a ring from you or I'm walking.
You have five days to think about it." 

And so the ultimatum had been issued. Using the exact same logic
he drew from months before, Dudley showed up with a ring four
days later. 

Within two weeks they got married in Vega$. 

Only a mere thirty days went by before Dudley--a military man--
got orders out to a base 1500 miles away. Mary, who had a son
in school, decided to wait behind for the duration of the six month
deployment rather than pick up and move, only to move back
half a year from now.

Shortly thereafter, she got a call. Dudley was being sent out
to sea for 90 days, during which time any communication would
be all but impossible.

But it was only a month and a half or so before Mary got another
surprise call from Dudley. He had gone through her email
account somehow, and read where she told a friend about having
gone Salsa dancing the other night. 

(Note: If you are thinking this whole jigsaw puzzle is missing a
couple of pieces, I'm right there with you.) 

Dudley was angry, assumed she must have gotten "frisky" with
a few other guys, branded her a "cheater" and declared that he
wanted a divorce.

Click.

So what happened here?

Well, Mary isn't a cheater. And furthermore, here it is: Dudley
doesn't actually think so either.  

It's just that he...well, uh...he sorta hasn't really...um...missed
her a whole lot since he has been gone. It isn't like he even
looks at her picture much. 

And he darn skippy didn't use whatever precious Internet
access time he had to email her, let alone mix in a video call.

He doesn't love her anymore. 

In fact, he probably never did. 

Worse, he doesn't have the masculine strength to admit it to
her, therefore he scapegoats her with a ridiculous accusation
which he feels offers him a ready-made excuse.

How do I know all this? Simple: men who LOVE their cheating
wives typically respond to discovery of infidelity with hurt and
denial rather than a quick and dirty exit.

The real problem started much earlier in the relationship. He
had settled.

And so did she.

This is what happens when there is no effort made to deserve
what one wants, and two people allow themselves to be okay
with accepting whoever "happens to come along". 

By now you may be thinking that if two people settle for each
other, one or the other would probably end up really cheating
eventually rather than simply coming up with lame excuses.

That would seem like an obvious probable outcome from a
set-up like this, wouldn't it?

Indeed, Mary and Dudley did not choose each other. They
accepted each other vis-à-vis circumstance, based on the
possibly self-perceived notion that they didn't have a whole lot
of dating options.

And that feeling was not likely to change after they got
together, was it? 

So sure, they may not actively pursue someone else, but if
someone interesting just so happens to show interest in one of
the partners in the relationship, the temptation to cheat could be
very strong.

But first, it's THAT partner who would have to come up with some
sort of "excuse" to justify breaking things off to be with someone
else. 

That may sound messed up, but remember we're talking about two
"settlers" here. Most of the time, "settlers" aren't used to being
the ones who initiate break-ups, so they tend to be awkward in
their execution.

A couple who settles for each other has already proven that they
both dread the concept of breaking up and "starting all over"
with someone else more than staying together.

So it makes perfect sense that they don't have the guts to face
being the one at fault for the breakup either.

In the example I gave, there's no real way to tell whether Dudley
actually cheated first or is simply sick of being in an
unfulfilling relationship.

But either way, the central point is the same: Things do not end
well for two people who settled for each other. They'll always
wish they had done better.

So the moral of this sad story is that you should absolutely go out
and meet some women, and often--literally anywhere and
everywhere you go. Find out what it is you truly want in a woman
BEFORE you commit to one. 

Don't be a Dudley. Deserve what you want and never, ever
settle. 


Be Good,

Scot McKay

 
P.S.  Have you caught the latest rambunctious episode of The
Mountain Top Podcast yet?


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