[X&Y] 8 "Innocent Lies" Women Tell
Published: Mon, 07/22/24
Updated: Wed, 07/24/24
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WHAT'S INSIDE: How can you tell for sure
when a woman is blowing smoke at you?
Here are eight ways to get a handle on the
situation every time...
=====
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I'm not sure exactly. Maybe it was the seven years I spent working
with gang kids.
Or perhaps I've been conditioned by those eleven years' worth of
high-pressure dealings with telecom companies.
More likely, it was that last five years of dating before I met Emily
that got me to this point.
But there's no denying it. I have a smoke detector that would
make Judge Judy jealous.
No doubt, I make it a point to look for the best in people, and I
believe I do my part in bringing it out in them. As an adopted
Texan a handshake means something to me.
But I'll tell you what, there's wisdom in training ourselves to
recognize when someone's trying to deceive us, and courage in
having the self-esteem to accept that we're being flim-flammed
and call it out.
For some unknown reason, such trickery is particularly prevalent in
the dating world. Here are eight examples of the many ways men
AND women try to dupe each other into accepting ridiculous
circumstances:
This is said as a response to interest expressed by someone else.
At best, a woman who replies with this is on the fence about
whether or not to go out with you. In other words, you're being
"breadcrumbed".
At worst, she has already made the decision but isn't really
interested in hearing you beg her to change her mind. The "easy
way out" is just to leave you hanging.
Either way, don't count on anything interesting happening. If this
were a promising situation, you would be hearing more details.
Translation: "Yeah, well...I think I need some extra time to work
out the details of how I'm going to end up ghosting you."
You're better off saving her the trouble of having to manufacture
some sudden "family emergency" excuse for you.
Let's assume for a moment, hopefully correctly, that you are not a
pathologically jealous loser.
Fair enough?
Okay, then...if you had to ask her about her clearly cozy
relationship with some other heterosexual guy, her "friend" ISN'T
JUST A FRIEND.
And if the woman of your affection DOES operate with her "friends"
in a manner that fuels speculation otherwise, why put yourself
through being concerned about it?
Find someone with integrity, which of course segues nicely into
the next bullet point...
Yeah, well...if you agree to this don't plan on being the kind
of "friend" referred to in the point above.
Long utilized as a de facto standard by disinterested people
everywhere, this signals that all attraction is now lost--if there
ever even was any to begin with.
Sometimes a woman really, truly does want to remain friends with
you despite an utter lack of romant-o-sexualtm chemistry.
But such a mindset requires immense integrity on the part of
someone who has true character. Knowing how rare that is, rest
assured this line is typically employed as an allegedly "nice"
way to actually end things altogether.
Ultimately, she just doesn't want to hurt your feelings and/or
deal with your emotional reaction to the true reason she's no
longer interested (or wasn't to begin with).
Followed mentally by, "...at least not until someone comes along who
is more in line with who I am looking for than you are."
Argue with me if you must on this one. I've known people who were
just "hurt real bad" by someone, "super focused on work" and/or
"getting in touch with 'self' right now" to meet someone who really
rocks their world right in the midst of whatever they were allegedly
dealing with.
Then all of this crazy talk about "not being ready" goes out the
window. It happens ALL THE TIME.
Deep down, unless we are in a coma we all are ready to "relate" to
someone, as long as it's the right someone.
...But most likely maybe NOT. Women who are interested don't use
this word with you unless they are major game players.
Find someone else to spend your valuable energy on.
This is simply a code phrase for "you are not a priority".
You and I both know it's basic human nature to move mountains
in order to create huge blocks of time out of the "busiest" of
schedules when we meet someone we are truly crazy about.
Don't shout me down for telling the truth.
Ah, yes...the trickiest one of all.
Sometimes this one really is true.
What a bummer to have to play this card at face value. After all,
most of the time this is what falls out of the mouth of someone who
wants to bail out of a date with immediate urgency.
So how can you tell the difference?
Simple. If it comes out of left field and without any elaboration,
there's a 100% chance she wants out...now.
On the other hand, if you are told ahead of time about it you can
put some stock in the statement, especially if she bends the rules
some when the pre-determined hour arrives and chooses to stay
out a bit later.
Meanwhile, if and when a woman legitimately has to get home early
for an unexpected reason you are likely to be bombarded with
heartfelt apologies and proactive suggestions about when and
where she'll see you again.
I know that you've likely heard some of these examples before. In
fact, I'm willing to bet you've even uttered some of them yourself.
Either way, it all comes down to something other than a desire to
be blatantly deceitful. Rarely is anyone who says these things
coming from a position of evil intent. In fact, quite the
opposite--they're trying to avoid potential pain and conflict.
As such, I believe all of this "smoke blowing" is rooted in nothing
other than sheer cowardice. People just don't have the guts to
tell others the truth.
Either that, or they don't have the guts to HEAR the truth.
So they lie.
My stand on the matter is that we're all adults around here and
tactful positioning of the truth is always more productive for
everyone involved in the dating world than laying false hope on
someone.
Never mind that whoever is subject to such mental gymnastics would
have to be naïve and/or flat-out obsessed to believe any of it.
That's beside the point.
Yet, many of us are serving up more "whoppers" than Burger King
when it comes to dealing with people who are interested in us.
Stop that. Be honest with people.
And be honest with YOURSELF when you are hearing any of the lines
above. What we often consider "tried and true" lines to feed one
another are actually "TIRED and FALSE". Deserve what you want.
Oh, and by the way "I can't get pregnant...don't worry" is NOT to
be classified as an "innocent lie". Neither is, "Oh, my divorce
is going to be final really, really soon." Words to the wise.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
=====
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when a woman is blowing smoke at you?
Here are eight ways to get a handle on the
situation every time...
=====
THE BIGGEST "EVERYTHING PACKAGE" EVER
Many of you have been asking me to bring back The
Everything Package.
That's the promo featuring an extra discount on the
already special-priced bundle of all fifteen of my
major programs.
So let's do that. AND...this time let's make it SO
good it's a no-brainer even if you have a couple of
the programs already.
Cool?
Here's how it works.
FIRST...score the discounted bundle of all 15
programs (Invincible, The Big 4 Challenge, The
Master Plan, The Leading Man, The Man's Approach,
The Difference, Online Dating Domination 3.0,
Female Persuasion, Behind Closed Doors, The
Walking Code, Code Of The Natural, Massage Your
Date, Chick Whispering, Virtuosity and Get Together
Stay Together).
THEN...an automatically applied coupon code gets
you an additional 50% off the whole thing.
THEN...I'll fork over my four premium e-books:
Deserve What You Want, Cook For Your Date, Never
Ever Settle and Wildly Successful Dating Life
AND...You'll also get all five of my Amazon books
in special PDF format...including my book on what to
say when she's ready for sex, which is no longer on
Amazon at all.
PLUS...you'll get 365 days of Power Sessions
Membership, allowing direct access to me personally
24/7. Ask your e-mail questions and get real,
customized responses...for a full year.
AND...you'll also get the classic Masterclass
called Comedy Clinic, all about how to make women
laugh.
THEN...I'm adding in BOTH of my newest programs
"Yes, And..." along with Women And AI.
AND...you also get a cache of all 1200 newletter
banners ever, all of my Seven Dollar Seminars
and even my audio How To Talk To Your Son About
Women And Sex.
I'll even give you all of the add-on programs that are
usually sold separately to enhance the main ones.
You know, like Music To Massage By, Extra Persuasion, and
The Online Dating Difference.
Add it all up and it's the best bundle ever at the best
price.
That's why I call it "The Everything...And More Package":
All 15 Programs, All 9 Books, 365-Days Of Power Sessions
There's no need to grab a calculator. Add it all up
and its a $2425 value...but it's yours for a full
90% off:
The Everything...And More Package
That's less than the price of just three of my programs
if purchased separately.
If you want, you can split it up using the Easy
Purchase option.
That makes it easier than ever before to get every
one of the very best solutions to virtually any sticking
point imaginable...all in one place:
Use Easy Purchase
When you order, I'll send you complete and unrestricted
access to everything in the Member's Portal. This is
the real deal.
Act fast on this. The promo ends promptly at 11:59pm
PDT (GMT -7) on Wednesday night and is for newsletter
subscribers ONLY.
=====
8 "INNOCENT LIES" WOMEN TELL
I'm not sure exactly. Maybe it was the seven years I spent working
with gang kids.
Or perhaps I've been conditioned by those eleven years' worth of
high-pressure dealings with telecom companies.
More likely, it was that last five years of dating before I met Emily
that got me to this point.
But there's no denying it. I have a smoke detector that would
make Judge Judy jealous.
No doubt, I make it a point to look for the best in people, and I
believe I do my part in bringing it out in them. As an adopted
Texan a handshake means something to me.
But I'll tell you what, there's wisdom in training ourselves to
recognize when someone's trying to deceive us, and courage in
having the self-esteem to accept that we're being flim-flammed
and call it out.
For some unknown reason, such trickery is particularly prevalent in
the dating world. Here are eight examples of the many ways men
AND women try to dupe each other into accepting ridiculous
circumstances:
1) "Get in touch with me and we'll make plans."
This is said as a response to interest expressed by someone else.
At best, a woman who replies with this is on the fence about
whether or not to go out with you. In other words, you're being
"breadcrumbed".
At worst, she has already made the decision but isn't really
interested in hearing you beg her to change her mind. The "easy
way out" is just to leave you hanging.
Either way, don't count on anything interesting happening. If this
were a promising situation, you would be hearing more details.
2) "Call me on that day and we'll set a time for the date."
Translation: "Yeah, well...I think I need some extra time to work
out the details of how I'm going to end up ghosting you."
You're better off saving her the trouble of having to manufacture
some sudden "family emergency" excuse for you.
3) "Oh, him? He's just a friend."
Let's assume for a moment, hopefully correctly, that you are not a
pathologically jealous loser.
Fair enough?
Okay, then...if you had to ask her about her clearly cozy
relationship with some other heterosexual guy, her "friend" ISN'T
JUST A FRIEND.
And if the woman of your affection DOES operate with her "friends"
in a manner that fuels speculation otherwise, why put yourself
through being concerned about it?
Find someone with integrity, which of course segues nicely into
the next bullet point...
4) "I think we should just be friends."
Yeah, well...if you agree to this don't plan on being the kind
of "friend" referred to in the point above.
Long utilized as a de facto standard by disinterested people
everywhere, this signals that all attraction is now lost--if there
ever even was any to begin with.
Sometimes a woman really, truly does want to remain friends with
you despite an utter lack of romant-o-sexualtm chemistry.
But such a mindset requires immense integrity on the part of
someone who has true character. Knowing how rare that is, rest
assured this line is typically employed as an allegedly "nice"
way to actually end things altogether.
Ultimately, she just doesn't want to hurt your feelings and/or
deal with your emotional reaction to the true reason she's no
longer interested (or wasn't to begin with).
5) "I'm not ready for a relationship."
Followed mentally by, "...at least not until someone comes along who
is more in line with who I am looking for than you are."
Argue with me if you must on this one. I've known people who were
just "hurt real bad" by someone, "super focused on work" and/or
"getting in touch with 'self' right now" to meet someone who really
rocks their world right in the midst of whatever they were allegedly
dealing with.
Then all of this crazy talk about "not being ready" goes out the
window. It happens ALL THE TIME.
Deep down, unless we are in a coma we all are ready to "relate" to
someone, as long as it's the right someone.
6) "Maybe..."
...But most likely maybe NOT. Women who are interested don't use
this word with you unless they are major game players.
Find someone else to spend your valuable energy on.
7) "I've been really busy."
This is simply a code phrase for "you are not a priority".
You and I both know it's basic human nature to move mountains
in order to create huge blocks of time out of the "busiest" of
schedules when we meet someone we are truly crazy about.
Don't shout me down for telling the truth.
8) "I have to be home early and/or get up early tomorrow."
Ah, yes...the trickiest one of all.
Sometimes this one really is true.
What a bummer to have to play this card at face value. After all,
most of the time this is what falls out of the mouth of someone who
wants to bail out of a date with immediate urgency.
So how can you tell the difference?
Simple. If it comes out of left field and without any elaboration,
there's a 100% chance she wants out...now.
On the other hand, if you are told ahead of time about it you can
put some stock in the statement, especially if she bends the rules
some when the pre-determined hour arrives and chooses to stay
out a bit later.
Meanwhile, if and when a woman legitimately has to get home early
for an unexpected reason you are likely to be bombarded with
heartfelt apologies and proactive suggestions about when and
where she'll see you again.
I know that you've likely heard some of these examples before. In
fact, I'm willing to bet you've even uttered some of them yourself.
Either way, it all comes down to something other than a desire to
be blatantly deceitful. Rarely is anyone who says these things
coming from a position of evil intent. In fact, quite the
opposite--they're trying to avoid potential pain and conflict.
As such, I believe all of this "smoke blowing" is rooted in nothing
other than sheer cowardice. People just don't have the guts to
tell others the truth.
Either that, or they don't have the guts to HEAR the truth.
So they lie.
My stand on the matter is that we're all adults around here and
tactful positioning of the truth is always more productive for
everyone involved in the dating world than laying false hope on
someone.
Never mind that whoever is subject to such mental gymnastics would
have to be naïve and/or flat-out obsessed to believe any of it.
That's beside the point.
Yet, many of us are serving up more "whoppers" than Burger King
when it comes to dealing with people who are interested in us.
Stop that. Be honest with people.
And be honest with YOURSELF when you are hearing any of the lines
above. What we often consider "tried and true" lines to feed one
another are actually "TIRED and FALSE". Deserve what you want.
Oh, and by the way "I can't get pregnant...don't worry" is NOT to
be classified as an "innocent lie". Neither is, "Oh, my divorce
is going to be final really, really soon." Words to the wise.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
=====
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