[X&Y] Is Your Brain Playing Tricks On You? Outsmart it!
Published: Wed, 11/13/24
Updated: Wed, 11/13/24
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IS YOUR BRAIN PLAYING TRICKS ON YOU? OUTSMART IT!
This time let's talk about another way in which both men and women
completely hamstring themselves when it comes to gaining confidence
and meeting members of the opposite sex.
Today's angle is a particularly interesting one for two reasons.
First, and as is often the case, I've never heard or seen it discussed
anywhere else. At all.
Second, and importantly, the concept is undeniably useful for both
men and women.
As a matter of fact, it's so foundational to success with not only
members of the opposite sex but for LIFE in general that you could
argue that it surrounds both INNER and OUTER game like an envelope.
What we're talking about here is training yourself how to see yourself
as others see you...and then how to see others as they see themselves.
So what does that mean?
You as a human being are in a remarkable position. Have you ever
considered how wild it truly is that out of seven billion plus human
beings just like you on this planet, you will only ever see light
through the eyes of ONE of them?
You are confined to your own physical being, at least as far as the
laws of physics apply in this life.
The metaphysics of all this are, of course, a subject better suited
to some other newsletter that is not about dating and relationships.
Fair enough.
But since we ARE focused like a laser on your total, utter and
massive success in the dating world--up to and including complete
control over your dating life--you'd best believe that there is
tremendous value in exploring this concept more deeply from a
certain perspective.
So many of us are limited in our belief that we can possibly
deserve the kind of partner we want.
Going way beyond "approach anxiety"...going way beyond "getting beat
by a girl" and indeed way beyond anything you've ever heard me talk
about until now, it can be safely assumed that much of the problem
is directly attributable to--yes--how you see yourself vs. how you
see others.
Here's what I mean.
Since you know every intimate detail of your own thoughts, fears
and weaknesses--as well as your strengths, of course--you know all of
your own darkest secrets.
Every imperfection, every prurient thought, every doubt and indeed--
every single blasted thing that would cause you humiliating
embarrassment if others knew.
Armed with this knowledge, what do you do? You go out and become
completely disarmed by a "beautiful" and apparently "perfect"
creature of the opposite gender. In your mind, she is flawless.
Then comes the vortex of self-doubt.
"Oh man...I could never be in HER league. She's a veritable vision
of perfection, and I can't even get into an elevator without feeling
claustrophobic, come from a foreign country, need a haircut, have a
big nose, have spring allergies, say stupid things when nervous,
masturbate twice a day, chew my toenails in private and once cheated
on a math test."
So once again you talk yourself out of being successful.
Erstwhile, she who is your "vision of perfection" is inside her own state of
being thinking, "Girl...get yourself TOGETHER! Your panty lines are
showing, you have stupid looking ears, are habitually late for
work, snort when you laugh, have two crooked teeth and wear contact
lenses. NO WONDER you've been DATELESS for a MONTH now!"
Crazy stuff, isn't it? If only we could see inside each other's
heads. Better yet, if only we could read the thoughts of others
regarding US.
Well, you can't do that, but here are three simple exercises you CAN
do:
1) Eliminate private knowledge as a "limiting factor"
First and foremost, realize that your private thoughts are NOT
public.
Nobody else can evaluate you by them, so STOP using them against
yourself.
They do not exist in the minds of others because they CANNOT.
2) Take mental notes regarding how others respond to you
Next, consider the comments you receive from people. Where you
hear patterns repeated, believe what you are hearing. If they're
pointing to ways you can better yourself, DO SO and deserve what
you want.
If you hear recurring positive comments and/or see recurring
positive reactions to your presence and/or interactions,
begin to recognize the truly positive manner in which others
perceive you.
This sounds so simplistic, yet how many of us go home and obsess
over self-perceived "negatives" that we are repeatedly told are
POSITIVES?
If in doubt, begin to pay careful attention to this dynamic in
your life. Note the PATTERNS that you detect, and trust them.
3) Pretend you are walking in the shoes of someone you find
attractive
Okay, here's the "power ball". Ready?
My guess is that when you encounter someone who really motors your
sexual attraction levels, that person is actually more "perfectly
imperfect" than "perfect".
The next time you are practically paralyzed by attraction towards
someone, I want you pretend for a moment that you were THAT PERSON
instead of yourself.
In your darkest, most self-critical thoughts, what would you be
most self-conscious about?
Go ahead and in your blind attraction make an effort to approach
that concept with sober judgment.
You will likely identify an entire litany of faults and potential
attitudes that would make her VERY insecure, at least
theoretically.
Ironically, you may find yourself recognizing traits and/or
features that some people may be self-critical about but which
are at the same time EXACTLY what is making you so hot for her.
It's strange for sure. But it is an EYE OPENER.
What we're really exposing here is a dark corner of human
ARROGANCE.
We somehow believe that our own self-pronounced judgments both
AGAINST ourselves and FOR others somehow carry greater weight
than everyone else's, don't we?
That's exactly what ends up limiting us, yet in reality yours or
mine is only one of over six billion different perspectives--be
it towards ourselves or others.
Allow yourself to open up to seeing others' perspectives for a
change. Do so and enjoy the shock when you finally do meet
someone who knocks you out...and you realize very quickly as you
get to know her that many of the insecurities you saw from their
potential perspective are actually ACTIVELY present in theirs.
And feel the power and joy of being able to share with that
person what others--namely YOU--see instead. How cool is that?
Usually you'll hear me harp on deserving what you want. Today you
get a breather. Today I've let you in on a secret: You may
already deserve WAY, WAY more than you have been giving yourself
credit for.
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