[X&Y] 10 Ways Boring Men Land In The Just Be Friends Zone

Published: Sat, 10/05/24

Updated: Sat, 10/05/24

A sure fire way to make sure you intrigue a woman is to come off as exciting and interesting. Here's a quick list to make sure you never end up doing the exact opposite.

=====

IN THIS EDITION: A sure fire way to intrigue a woman is to
come off as exciting and interesting. Too many guys are doing
the exact opposite.

=====



HOW TO BE AMAZING WITHOUT REALLY TRYING


Today's newsletter is how to avoid being boring.

Obviously, if women find you amazing, you've succeeded
wildly at not boring them.

I'd even argue that "you're amazing" could be the best phrase
you could ever hear a woman utter.

But to most guys being amazing sounds like it requires too
much raw talent and/or too much work.

That's just not the case, however.

One of the most powerful modules in Invincible is on
how to be flat-out, mind-bogglingly amazing to people
(yes, even the hottest women) without having to learn,
memorize or suffer through ANYTHING.

All you do is "flip the switch":



Invincible Is 50% Off + Bonuses + The Master Plan



But that's only ONE part of the entire Invincible program.

Maximize your your boldness and confidence in a way that's
irresistible to women...and unstoppable in every other area
of your life.

And what if you believed that women couldn't hurt you,
nor did they even want to? How would that transform how
you approach and meet them?

You can transcend the madness in the world nowadays going
on between men and women...all by being the bold, confident
man women STILL crave and adore:



Invincible Is 50% Off + Bonuses + The Master Plan



For the next 24 hours, get Invincible for half-price.  No
coupon code is necessary if you use the link above.

Plus, I've brought back all the original fast-action bonuses
from the initial launch, including a full 30-minute 1-on-1
session with me personally.

And...I'm also giving you the classic program The Master
Plan for free.



=====



10 WAYS BORING MEN LAND IN THE JUST BE
FRIENDS ZONE


There's never a shortage of information on how to be a
scintillating conversationalist.  After all, if a woman finds you
interesting, she'll want MORE of you.

But oftentimes in life, one of the best ways to really grasp a
concept is to learn what NOT to do as well.

With that in mind (and after enduring years of listening to
engineers with IQs of about 200 talk about what they find
"fascinating"), I've come up with a fairly quick (as opposed to
boring) top-ten list of patterns typical among people who
bore others out of their mind in social situations.

Next to failing to demonstrate your masculine nature,
being boring is the surest ticket to the "Just Be Friends
Zone" there is.

Obviously, you don't want to be that guy. So here goes:



1)  They Talk About Themselves


It doesn't matter if you've experienced colossal adventures that
will probably languish on most people's "bucket lists" for the rest
of their natural lives.

If you constantly focus on what you think, do, or have, other
people aren't going to find you interesting. 

Worse, you'll come off as a needy approval seeker.

The best strategy is to let others ask you questions about yourself
when they're good and ready.

Then, give them matter-of-fact answers that are concise enough
to leave them wanting more.

Rest assured.  Others will almost always get around to asking
about you.  Otherwise, they'd be boring and you'd stop talking to
them.

For what it's worth, "one-upmanship" is a particularly insidious
boredom inducer.  If you ever find yourself responding to someone's
comment about what they have or what they've done with, "That's
nothing, one time I..." then you'll know you need work.



2)  They Harp On The Same Subject When It Needs Changing


Have you ever been in a conversation with someone who just didn't
"get" that there was something else worth talking about
other than that ONE subject he or she was so fixated on?

It's irritating as all get-out, isn't it? 

Fortunately, it's ridiculously easy to prevent yourself from
falling into this pattern.  All you do is actually follow through
and CHANGE the subject whenever someone indicates it's time
to, be that directly or indirectly. 

And then, don't work your way back to it again a minute or so later,
por favor.



3)  They Bring Up Stuff That's Not Relevant


Ah, yes...the exact OPPOSITE of point #2 above.

The whole idea of engaging someone in conversation is to talk
WITH them, not in spite of them.  So whenever someone brings
up a topic and you either fail to track with it or you change it
somewhat randomly, they'll grow tired of trying to talk with
you very quickly.

Heck, it's going to feel like too much like work.



4)  They Have No Energy Or Enthusiasm


This is about as basic as it gets:  If YOU aren't excited and
tantalized by what you're talking about, NOBODY ELSE will be
either.

If you drone on like a dial tone with absolutely zero "life" in your
voice, you might as well be saying "Bueller?" over and over.  The
general effect will be about the same.



5)  They Lack "Field Sense"


This one's a bit more subjective, but still easy to recognize.

Essentially, conversational "field sense" is the ability to see
you're "losing" someone in a conversation and change course
on the fly.  Think of how an NFL quarterback can improvise
after the snap and you've got the right idea.

Coupled with this is the ability to choose topics the person
you're talking to can resonate with.  That prevents the problem
from ever rearing its ugly head in the first place.



6)  They Give Too Many Details


If you can cut to the chase, that's a virtue.  The more relevant
each bit of a story or description is to the actual topic at hand,
the better.   

Too many tangents and asides tend to obscure the point, even
while it takes longer to get to it.  That's like a "double whammy".



7)  They Repeat Themselves


Have you ever talked to someone who kept saying the same thing
over and over again?

I mean, you feel like you're talking to Bubba in Forrest Gump.

If you ever find yourself saying, "Like I said,..." you're skating on
thin ice.  For what it's worth, I've swore off typing that phrase in
any newsletter I ever write.

People either heard you the first time or they're not really in the
conversation to begin with, which brings us to the next point...


   
8)  They're Distant


By "distant" in this context I mean "not engaged".

Sure, someone might be barely listening to you because YOU
bored them first.  But then again, it's still tedious and irritating
to attempt a conversation with someone who would clearly
rather be somewhere else.

It's a "chicken or the egg" thing, really.



9)  They Stay "Engaged" Too Long


Most conversations have a natural ending point.   If you've ever
been on the phone with someone and you both say, "OK, I
gotta run" at the same time, then you know what I'm talking
about.

On the other hand, if you've NEVER had that happen you might be
missing a very important social signal.

Whenever someone shows signs it's time to move on, let them go.  

Don't take it personally because the vast majority of the time
it's not meant as such.



10)  Good Grief, They Never Freaking Shut Up


Self-explanatory.  And with that I'll shut up.



Having jotted down those ten bullet points, I've realized how
challenging it is to talk about being boring in an "engaging" way.

But hey, I trust you got a kick out of this and now have some
valuable mental notes to keep in mind whenever talking to
someone else.

There's certainly no shame in slipping up once in a while.  We
all do so, and I'm sure I'll hear about it the next time it happens
in one of these newsletters.

The key is always to limit mistakes so as to maximize positive
results.
 

=====




(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2024. All Rights Reserved.


Forward this newsletter to a friend, and help
build this worldwide movement of over 100,000
men reclaiming their masculinity, standing as a
positive role model and deserving the high
quality women we want.

 
The Definitive Facebook Group For Men
 
Check Out The Videos On YouTube And Subscribe

The Mountain Top Podcast...Subscribe And
Leave A Review


This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please use the
link below to remove yourself from our mailing list.
 
 


X & Y Communications LLC
20403 Encino Ledge
#591313
San Antonio, TX 78259-1313
United States Of America

Unsubscribe   |   Change Subscriber Options