[X&Y] The Just Be Friends Talk In Reverse
Published: Thu, 10/24/24
Updated: Thu, 10/24/24
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IN THIS EDITION: Have you ever considered the
ramifications of the"Just Be Friends" talk in reverse?
=====ramifications of the"Just Be Friends" talk in reverse?
IT'S TIME TO GET REAL
For far too long now you've "settled" for whatever woman
comes along, assuming that actually ever happens.
And you're sick and tired of it.
So you've promised yourself to get this part of your life
handled. It's time to get the woman you REALLY want,
for a change.
Meanwhile, dating apps are exhausting these days.
Going to bars isn't your thing, but meeting women
"wherever and whenever' seems tedious.
And with all you've got going on in your career, every
other priority keeps getting pushed to the side.
But consider this: The woman who is right for you is
VERY real.
And right at this moment, she's WAITING for you to
step up and deserve what you want.
Sooner than later, the two of you will meet, sparks will
fly and you'll ultimately be happy together.
And it will all be because YOU took ownership over
the situation and got it right.
Does all of this sound a little too far out? Am I over-
romanticizing all of this?
Not at all.
You see, had I met my wife Emily just a year or two
before I did, chances are SKY HIGH I would have
blown it.
My mindset wasn't right. My confidence wasn't there
yet, and I had a LOT yet to learn.
But let me tell you...words cannot express how grateful
I am that I was stone-cold READY to meet her the day
she walked into my life.
Now it's YOUR TURN.
You can and WILL make it happen in your life.
But like I did, you have to take the bull by the horns
and get moving on this. It won't just happen by
itself.
Right now I have five new Ten-Plus coaching spots
open. The first step is to find the right plan of action
for you. Schedule 25 minutes for free here:
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Let's talk about how to empower you. It's time to finally
get what you want.
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THE "JUST BE FRIENDS" TALK IN REVERSE
Man, do we as guys ever detest hearing the dreaded "Just Be
Friends" talk.
As I've told you before, that's what we tend to hear over and over
again from women WE like, but whom we've failed to ignite with
natural masculinity.
Yeah, we're "nice guys" and "really sweet" and such, but she just
doesn't "feel it" for us or she doesn't "like us in that way".
Well, if you've fallen into a pattern of hearing that, then you
likely already know that my program The Master Plan is the
definitive cure.
And as I alluded to yesterday, it's not the cure that "makes sense"
to guys who believe women think like guys, it's what straight-up
WORKS.
But check this out.
Have you ever noticed that you (yes YOU) are probably giving
women whom YOU feel very little, if any attraction for a form of
the "JBF talk" yourself?
Come on now, admit it.
There's been a time or two when a woman you felt NOTHING for
somehow latched onto you and decided you were her "future
honey".
Oh, geez Louise. Awkward, isn't it?
So what did you do?
You didn't want to blow her out of the tub and scar her for life,
so you were "nice" about it, weren't you?
But you also told her (even if "sort of") that you thought she was
cool and all, but you didn't think it was a good idea to "go out"
because of [insert excuse here].
Yeah, man. Face it...you "JBFed" her.
For the purposes of this newsletter, let's call that the "JBF-R".
You performed that dirty deed that's usually associated with women,
but this time the roles were switched.
Just like the "TGR-R" (The Golden Rule, Reversed) that I talk about
once in a while, "JBF-R" may sound like a Yamaha sportbike, but
it's actually a life-altering premise that's crucial to know about.
So what's my point here?
You can learn a metric ton about how YOU react to being "JBFed"
by considering how girls you've "JBFed" have reacted to you.
No kidding. It's not a gender-specific dynamic
For starters, women who you give the "JBF-R" talk to do NOT
exactly care to be "friended". It irks and frustrates them every bit
as much as it does when a woman "JBFs" you.
What's more, if you've been through enough of a "dry spell" lately
that you led her on for a week or two BEFORE ultimately deciding
that you didn't like her as more than a friend (or a "booty call",
even), don't be surprised if she wants nothing to do with you.
That's nothing more than her self-respect kicking in--and rightly
so, if you ask me.
She didn't want to be "just friends". She wanted to be your
GIRLfriend.
Assuming that you're tracking with me this far, I ask you this.
Have you ever felt the "pain of rejection" after a woman you've
just "JBF-R"ed tells you to "stick it" (or similar)?
I hear from guys all the time who are struggling with those
feelings. They usually say something, like, "Man, dude...I didn't
even really find this girl all that great and even SHE 'rejected'
me after I told her I wasn't so sure I was interested in her as a
girlfriend."
Nonsense. Don't you dare feel "rejected".
What's going on there isn't rejection of you by her, if anything
SHE'S feeling rejected. She's hitting you with a solid "no thanks"
to your "JBF" offer like a friggin' pie in the face. That's what
hurt feelings compel women to do.
So then, if your brain wanders in the direction of wondering how
you'll ever get a woman you really DO like when you "get rejected"
even by women you DON'T really like, you're just letting your mind
play tricks on you.
That's 100% a logical fallacy in context.
You didn't like her all that much, she knows it, and she won't
allow herself to be even more disappointed. Good for her, actually.
And when you, as the "chooser" you've already proven you are,
actually meets a woman worthy of you admiration and attraction,
she'll appreciate that--enough to be thrilled.
That's the "law of the jungle", gentlemen. Never, ever measure
your ability to succeed with high quality women by how women who
ARE NOT to your standards react to your disinterest.
Read that last line again and let it sink in. You may wonder why I
need to even write a newsletter devoted to that premise, but years
of experience have repeatedly demonstrated how necessary it is to
drop a reminder now and then.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. In case you've not figured it out already, the term "JBF-R"
is really meant to draw attention to the fact that we as guys
really, truly do "JBF" women too.
The down-to-earth truth is that "JBF"ing isn't gender-specific.
Whether it's coming from a woman to a man or vice-versa, rest
assured it's still the same garden-variety "JBF" talk.
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