[X&Y] 2 Different Kinds Of Shy Women (And What's Up With Them)
Published: Mon, 04/07/25
Updated: Mon, 04/07/25
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IN THIS EDITION: All "shy" women aren't the
same. Here's why knowing the difference
between the two main types helps you
succeed with them.
=====
same. Here's why knowing the difference
between the two main types helps you
succeed with them.
=====
STOP BEING "MR. INVISIBLE", ALREADY.
Oh man, I know some guys who slump and
slouch around...and then act like they're
completely floored as to why women aren't
noticing them.
The irony is if they were actually on the floor,
a woman might actually notice...and call an
ambulance!
But enough about me...
Here's the deal. Way too many dudes are out
there lookin' like they've been beaten down by
life.
And they CARRY themselves like it.
Man, it can creep up on you...especially if
you've been in kind of a "dry spell" lately.
And it basically makes you "Mr. Invisible"
to women.
What sucks is this is one of those things we
will NEVER figure out on our own.
And women? It's not like THEY'RE going to
tell us.
I mean, they're not even NOTICING, remember?
We need another guy who GETS IT to (literally)
show up and straighten us out:
The Walking Code -- 50% Off + CotN + Massage Your Date
Rob brinded is your "huckleberry". (That's in
honor of the late-great Val Kilmer.)
He is STILL the only mofo out there who has
the secrets to transforming your attractiveness
to women by how you MOVE.
Nowadays, he works with La Liga footballers
who want to improve their game. And you KNOW
those guys wouldn't waste their time (and a
lot of Euros) on a guy who was anything less
than a pure genius at this stuff.
Lucky for us, (or maybe "fortunately" is the
right word?) you can steal Rob's mojo in the
attraction department for a whole lot less:
The Walking Code -- 50% Off + CotN + Massage Your Date
Know how you notice when a sexy chick has
"the moves"? She just does something for
you, right?
Yeah, well...women notice US even more
when we have our act together in that
department.
Rob's program The Walking Code is the
secret weapon of a whole lot of guys who
soon became amazed at how women
STARTED NOTICING.
Need some motivation?
Fine. I'll throw in Rob's legendary "better than
body language" program, Code of the Natural...
...AND Trace Loft's Massage Your Date
AND Music To Massage By.
And YES, The Walking Code itself is also
50% off.
You're good to go for another 24 hours only.
You can now use the new "Pay Later"
feature, which is pretty cool.
The Walking Code -- 50% Off + CotN + Massage Your Date
Go ahead and take a look. You CAN start
making REAL, LIVE connections with REAL,
LIVE women...yes, even the shy ones.
START meeting women and STOP kicking
yourself for "failing to deploy".
This makes life SO much easier.
=====
We spend our fair share of time around here helping normal guys
everywhere combat shyness. After all, when you get down to it,
"shyness" is a certain reticence on someone's part to be social.
For us as guys, shyness really is the proverbial kiss of death when
it comes to success with women.
Sure, you might hear from certain women here and there that shy men
are "cute" or "endearing".
Notwithstanding those rare instances, I think most of us would agree
that if we're shy--especially around women--we need to find a way to
change that.
Meanwhile, there are a LOT of shy women out there also. Don't kid
yourself.
But you see, in a very real way the image of a demure, socially
tentative woman is rather attractive to many of us.
It provokes the imagination to fantasize about her as a woman who
might follow our leadership particularly easily, or who we could
introduce to new and exciting adventures she's never experienced.
And perhaps the most endearing aspect of all? We might see her as
a woman who, despite her outer beauty and inner kindness, etc.
would NOT be so fast to flirt with other guys and/or be disloyal.
Interesting, right? And in a way, it's not fair. We as men
generally attract women by being bold, courageous leaders who know
what we want and go get it. For us, being shy most certainly
craters that image in a heartbeat.
Meanwhile, women are almost MORE attractive when they're shy, at
least sometimes.
So the only conclusion that can be drawn here is that there has most
likely been a woman (or six) in your life who you viewed as shy,
most certainly, but who became even more intriguing and desirable
to you for that very reason.
BUT...if you're like most guys, her apparent shyness made it even
more difficult to approach her, and certainly tougher for her to
talk to you even if you did.
It's like a "double whammy". I mean, if you abhor the prospect
of confronting an awkward silence when talking to women, then
it would be east to dread the worst-case scenario there.
Still, I personally believe that YOU (yes you) really can meet and
attract shy women. Not only do you stand to gain an amazing
girlfriend when you do, it is my honest belief that she'll turn out
to accurately represent all of those factors that intrigued you to
begin with.
As with most areas of interest in this life, you simply have to be
well-informed and have the necessary skills to build a solid plan
and execute on it.
So here's my take on succeeding with shy women: The true secret
to it is to realize there are actually at least TWO separate kinds of
women we commonly consider "shy". You've got to know the
difference and how to handle each:
The key to identifying this kind of shyness is CONSISTENCY. That
is, both her personality and every other social appearance indicate
that she's not only shy around you, she's shy around most
EVERYONE...and remains that way.
Indeed, others in your social circle who know her will also
describe her as "shy" or "reserved", etc. If you go on a few dates
with her, she'll continue to be quite tentative and perhaps not say
much.
The bottom line with women like this is that it really would be a
great idea for them to get over their fear of social situations.
And for real...under that outer veneer of shyness may be a truly
amazing, feminine woman of character who is just dying to go out
and have some fun.
But yes, that social confidence has to be built up in order for her
to truly shine in those respects. The extent to which you can
believe in her and lead her in that direction of being a true "Big
Four" woman is the extent to which both you and she can enjoy the
ultimate payoff.
Is she woman enough for you to make that effort for her? Only you
can decide that, but if you do--and you succeed--you have to believe
she'll absolutely ADORE you for it.
Now we get to that kind of "shy" woman who fascinates me to no end
to talk about.
Here's why. Unlike the first type of shy woman, she has all the
outward appearances of being interesting, fun and perhaps
adventurous. She may even be socially "popular" for lack of a
better word.
But when she first meets you she comes off every bit as shy as the
"Type 1" woman described above.
The difference? Well, she's only shy at first...until she knows she
can TRUST you, and--perhaps more significantly--until she believes
you actually, really LIKE her.
Make no mistake, there's still some social fear inherently present
in women like this. It's just that they do eventually dive into
the pool after sticking their toe in the water for a bit.
So what's the solution? Hang in there for a couple of dates and
make the extra effort to make her feel safe in comfortable in your
presence, which you should be habitually doing anyway.
Whatever you do, don't push and don't buttonhole her for answers to
your probing questions.
If you indeed observe that she has an active social life with
people she HAS known for a while, then you should simply exercise
patience and let your wisdom pay off. She'll surely come around.
Well, either that or the two of you will flat-out not get along
after all. Either outcome is fine, of course, it just might take a
bit longer to reach the conclusion.
Interestingly, a decent percentage of women recognize this "Type 2"
shyness factor in themselves, and will actually TELL you that's how
they are when you first meet them.
If a woman informs you as such, take her at face value and proceed
accordingly. It probably is what it is rather than some weird
"mind game" she's playing with you. Really.
The potential payoff here, of course, is that if she's otherwise a
highly desirable woman you'll have a LOT of your male peers
scratching their heads as to how YOU ended up with her.
The answer to that apparent quandary, of course, is that you were
not as intimidated by how she presented herself initially as they
may have been. Therefore, you win (and so does she, for that
matter). Outstanding.
There's a possible twist to all of this, found in a few
particularly exceptional "Type 2" women here and there. That is,
in some cases such women as this understand a principle that's
actually one of Robert Greene's infamous 48 Laws Of Power: Use
fewer words than necessary.
And no kidding, right? The less an already intriguing woman says,
the more potential there is for becoming utterly obsessed with her.
(That's not a gender-specific dynamic, by the way.)
Retain your masculine power with a woman like that by understanding
the situation for what it is, remaining calm and patient, and
countering with your own methods of intrigue.
No, that doesn't mean she drives a Prius. And it certainly doesn't
mean that you have to plug her in until her motor decides to start
running (at least not necessarily).
Rather, she simply has some measure of both factors I've
described above going on.
As an example, she may be more shy in general like a "Type 1" woman
but especially eager to make friends and find a great guy like you
so she makes a concerted effort to open up to you sooner than later.
Women like that can be true gems.
By now you can see the value of thinking a woman's apparent shyness
through a bit more than you may have in the past.
Importantly, remember that "shyness" and "introversion" are not the
same thing. Where shyness is a fear related to social interaction
(or potential social interaction), introversion is simply a
personality type that lends itself to gaining power from solitude
rather than hanging out with a crowd of people.
There are plenty of introverts who are not shy at all, and plenty
of shy extroverts as well.
And most of all, remember that as a man your best shot at
reaching a shy woman at her feminine core is to first conquer any
tendency toward shyness in yourself.
start taking right away.
=====
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build this worldwide movement of over 100,000
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Oh man, I know some guys who slump and
slouch around...and then act like they're
completely floored as to why women aren't
noticing them.
The irony is if they were actually on the floor,
a woman might actually notice...and call an
ambulance!
But enough about me...
Here's the deal. Way too many dudes are out
there lookin' like they've been beaten down by
life.
And they CARRY themselves like it.
Man, it can creep up on you...especially if
you've been in kind of a "dry spell" lately.
And it basically makes you "Mr. Invisible"
to women.
What sucks is this is one of those things we
will NEVER figure out on our own.
And women? It's not like THEY'RE going to
tell us.
I mean, they're not even NOTICING, remember?
We need another guy who GETS IT to (literally)
show up and straighten us out:
The Walking Code -- 50% Off + CotN + Massage Your Date
Rob brinded is your "huckleberry". (That's in
honor of the late-great Val Kilmer.)
He is STILL the only mofo out there who has
the secrets to transforming your attractiveness
to women by how you MOVE.
Nowadays, he works with La Liga footballers
who want to improve their game. And you KNOW
those guys wouldn't waste their time (and a
lot of Euros) on a guy who was anything less
than a pure genius at this stuff.
Lucky for us, (or maybe "fortunately" is the
right word?) you can steal Rob's mojo in the
attraction department for a whole lot less:
The Walking Code -- 50% Off + CotN + Massage Your Date
Know how you notice when a sexy chick has
"the moves"? She just does something for
you, right?
Yeah, well...women notice US even more
when we have our act together in that
department.
Rob's program The Walking Code is the
secret weapon of a whole lot of guys who
soon became amazed at how women
STARTED NOTICING.
Need some motivation?
Fine. I'll throw in Rob's legendary "better than
body language" program, Code of the Natural...
...AND Trace Loft's Massage Your Date
AND Music To Massage By.
And YES, The Walking Code itself is also
50% off.
You're good to go for another 24 hours only.
You can now use the new "Pay Later"
feature, which is pretty cool.
The Walking Code -- 50% Off + CotN + Massage Your Date
Go ahead and take a look. You CAN start
making REAL, LIVE connections with REAL,
LIVE women...yes, even the shy ones.
START meeting women and STOP kicking
yourself for "failing to deploy".
This makes life SO much easier.
=====
2 DIFFERENT KINDS OF "SHY" WOMEN (AND WHAT TO DO WHEN
YOU ENCOUNTER THEM)
YOU ENCOUNTER THEM)
We spend our fair share of time around here helping normal guys
everywhere combat shyness. After all, when you get down to it,
"shyness" is a certain reticence on someone's part to be social.
For us as guys, shyness really is the proverbial kiss of death when
it comes to success with women.
Sure, you might hear from certain women here and there that shy men
are "cute" or "endearing".
Notwithstanding those rare instances, I think most of us would agree
that if we're shy--especially around women--we need to find a way to
change that.
Meanwhile, there are a LOT of shy women out there also. Don't kid
yourself.
But you see, in a very real way the image of a demure, socially
tentative woman is rather attractive to many of us.
It provokes the imagination to fantasize about her as a woman who
might follow our leadership particularly easily, or who we could
introduce to new and exciting adventures she's never experienced.
And perhaps the most endearing aspect of all? We might see her as
a woman who, despite her outer beauty and inner kindness, etc.
would NOT be so fast to flirt with other guys and/or be disloyal.
Interesting, right? And in a way, it's not fair. We as men
generally attract women by being bold, courageous leaders who know
what we want and go get it. For us, being shy most certainly
craters that image in a heartbeat.
Meanwhile, women are almost MORE attractive when they're shy, at
least sometimes.
So the only conclusion that can be drawn here is that there has most
likely been a woman (or six) in your life who you viewed as shy,
most certainly, but who became even more intriguing and desirable
to you for that very reason.
BUT...if you're like most guys, her apparent shyness made it even
more difficult to approach her, and certainly tougher for her to
talk to you even if you did.
It's like a "double whammy". I mean, if you abhor the prospect
of confronting an awkward silence when talking to women, then
it would be east to dread the worst-case scenario there.
Still, I personally believe that YOU (yes you) really can meet and
attract shy women. Not only do you stand to gain an amazing
girlfriend when you do, it is my honest belief that she'll turn out
to accurately represent all of those factors that intrigued you to
begin with.
As with most areas of interest in this life, you simply have to be
well-informed and have the necessary skills to build a solid plan
and execute on it.
So here's my take on succeeding with shy women: The true secret
to it is to realize there are actually at least TWO separate kinds of
women we commonly consider "shy". You've got to know the
difference and how to handle each:
1) She's Seriously Scared In Social Situations...Regardless
The key to identifying this kind of shyness is CONSISTENCY. That
is, both her personality and every other social appearance indicate
that she's not only shy around you, she's shy around most
EVERYONE...and remains that way.
Indeed, others in your social circle who know her will also
describe her as "shy" or "reserved", etc. If you go on a few dates
with her, she'll continue to be quite tentative and perhaps not say
much.
The bottom line with women like this is that it really would be a
great idea for them to get over their fear of social situations.
And for real...under that outer veneer of shyness may be a truly
amazing, feminine woman of character who is just dying to go out
and have some fun.
But yes, that social confidence has to be built up in order for her
to truly shine in those respects. The extent to which you can
believe in her and lead her in that direction of being a true "Big
Four" woman is the extent to which both you and she can enjoy the
ultimate payoff.
Is she woman enough for you to make that effort for her? Only you
can decide that, but if you do--and you succeed--you have to believe
she'll absolutely ADORE you for it.
2) She Opens Up After She Gets To Know You
Now we get to that kind of "shy" woman who fascinates me to no end
to talk about.
Here's why. Unlike the first type of shy woman, she has all the
outward appearances of being interesting, fun and perhaps
adventurous. She may even be socially "popular" for lack of a
better word.
But when she first meets you she comes off every bit as shy as the
"Type 1" woman described above.
The difference? Well, she's only shy at first...until she knows she
can TRUST you, and--perhaps more significantly--until she believes
you actually, really LIKE her.
Make no mistake, there's still some social fear inherently present
in women like this. It's just that they do eventually dive into
the pool after sticking their toe in the water for a bit.
So what's the solution? Hang in there for a couple of dates and
make the extra effort to make her feel safe in comfortable in your
presence, which you should be habitually doing anyway.
Whatever you do, don't push and don't buttonhole her for answers to
your probing questions.
If you indeed observe that she has an active social life with
people she HAS known for a while, then you should simply exercise
patience and let your wisdom pay off. She'll surely come around.
Well, either that or the two of you will flat-out not get along
after all. Either outcome is fine, of course, it just might take a
bit longer to reach the conclusion.
Interestingly, a decent percentage of women recognize this "Type 2"
shyness factor in themselves, and will actually TELL you that's how
they are when you first meet them.
If a woman informs you as such, take her at face value and proceed
accordingly. It probably is what it is rather than some weird
"mind game" she's playing with you. Really.
The potential payoff here, of course, is that if she's otherwise a
highly desirable woman you'll have a LOT of your male peers
scratching their heads as to how YOU ended up with her.
The answer to that apparent quandary, of course, is that you were
not as intimidated by how she presented herself initially as they
may have been. Therefore, you win (and so does she, for that
matter). Outstanding.
There's a possible twist to all of this, found in a few
particularly exceptional "Type 2" women here and there. That is,
in some cases such women as this understand a principle that's
actually one of Robert Greene's infamous 48 Laws Of Power: Use
fewer words than necessary.
And no kidding, right? The less an already intriguing woman says,
the more potential there is for becoming utterly obsessed with her.
(That's not a gender-specific dynamic, by the way.)
Retain your masculine power with a woman like that by understanding
the situation for what it is, remaining calm and patient, and
countering with your own methods of intrigue.
3) The "Hybrid"
No, that doesn't mean she drives a Prius. And it certainly doesn't
mean that you have to plug her in until her motor decides to start
running (at least not necessarily).
Rather, she simply has some measure of both factors I've
described above going on.
As an example, she may be more shy in general like a "Type 1" woman
but especially eager to make friends and find a great guy like you
so she makes a concerted effort to open up to you sooner than later.
Women like that can be true gems.
By now you can see the value of thinking a woman's apparent shyness
through a bit more than you may have in the past.
Importantly, remember that "shyness" and "introversion" are not the
same thing. Where shyness is a fear related to social interaction
(or potential social interaction), introversion is simply a
personality type that lends itself to gaining power from solitude
rather than hanging out with a crowd of people.
There are plenty of introverts who are not shy at all, and plenty
of shy extroverts as well.
And most of all, remember that as a man your best shot at
reaching a shy woman at her feminine core is to first conquer any
tendency toward shyness in yourself.
See The Man's Approach for more on that, including how to be more
intriguing (as suggested above) and some practical steps you canstart taking right away.
=====
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2025. All Rights Reserved.
Forward this newsletter to a friend, and help
build this worldwide movement of over 100,000
men reclaiming their masculinity, standing as a
positive role model and deserving the high
quality women we want.
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