[X&Y] It All Starts When Someone Is Bored...And Then Things Get Ugly
Published: Thu, 07/03/25
Updated: Thu, 07/03/25
WHAT'S INSIDE: Are you bored much of the time? How about
the women you meet? Here's why it all matters...
=====
For the past several months, nearly
HALF of the coaching I've been doing
is on career and entrepreneurship.
Many of you know first-hand how rough
the IT career market is right now.
Or you may have just been laid off
from a government job.
If so, I talk to men in a similar position
to yours just about every day.
If you're feeling stuck right now, I'm
here for you. That's what Unchained
Office is all about:
Get Unstuck
Nearly 20 years ago, I finally said
goodbye the corporate world after
years of success...including a $1.5
billion lifetime sales number.
"Climbing the corporate ladder" felt
more like running on a hamster wheel.
Emily and I have since built a
lifestyle business we can run from
anywhere in the world, on our terms.
That's true freedom:
Get Unstuck
X & Y Communications was built on
dating and relationship coaching,
for sure.
But it wasn't long before guys like
you started coming to me wanting to
get out of the "ratrace" themselves.
So actually, Unchained Office has
been going for over a decade and a
half now.
Maybe you've been reading these
newsletters for the advice on women.
That means you know me by now.
If you either WANT or NEED to make
a change in your career path, let's
talk about it:
Get Unstuck
Yes, resumes are filtered by the
infamous Applicant Tracking Systems,
AI is everywhere, and sites like
Indeed and Dice feel like black
holes.
But there IS a way to get ahead.
Let's get you where you want and
need to be.
=====
By now the concept of women being bored out of their mind in
relationships has become a fixture in modern culture.
And sure, television has lots to do with that.
"Desperate Housewives" had a long run, and you really can't surf
the cable menu without seeing four or five shows on at night
about rich wives with nothing to do.
But wait a second...if they're so bored, then why in the world is
that so interesting to so many people?
That's a good question. And there's an equally good answer.
In short, women who are bored tend to create drama for the sake of
having something (i.e. anything) to concern themselves with.
And where is the "low hanging fruit" when it comes to creating said
drama?
You guessed it: in their relationships.
It's the "relationship drama" that draws hefty viewing audiences.
Now, to be sure, it's unfair to limit this discussion strictly to
non-platonic male/female relationships.
Friends, co-workers and relatives are often drawn into the melee.
But make no mistake about it. BOREDOM foments DRAMA.
So far, you may be thinking I've got a firm grasp on the obvious.
Okay, then. How about if I drop THIS "bomb" on you?
The dynamic I've just described is NOT gender specific.
Now, I fully get that there's never been a show called "Desperate
Husbands", "Bored NBA Players Who Are Married", or anything like
that.
But lookit...you and I have already heard a million times about how
having "an exciting life" is like catnip to women.
That's 100% true. If women are typically so bored (and they are),
then they really do appreciate when a man takes the lead to make
life more exciting for her.
And if you've got something fun and interesting going on, she's
glad to have you introduce her into the mix.
So it follows logically, then, that if you do not have a very
exciting life, then you might not have the girlfriend you
really want.
And what does the collective mashup of all these boredom
factors net you?
Well, if you're in such an excitement-free relationship, you're not
only "settling", you're probably still bored...together.
Wow...this is heavy stuff, isn't it?
But it gets more complicated from there.
Don't kid yourself. If you are bored in this life, you just might
also be creating drama in your relationships in order to generate
some excitement...just like women are famous for doing.
Hear me out.
If you are bored at work sitting in a cubicle all day and you have
boring friends who do nothing but play video games, then you're
going to have to find something to occupy your mind.
We as guys tend to require that in order to stay sane (at least
relatively speaking).
So if you're not a NASCAR crew chief or building a nuclear
submarine in your garage then your personality might really start
craving the opportunity to take things apart just so you can try
to put them together again.
Some of us as guys go so far as to really enjoy breaking things
intentionally and trying to fix them.
The motorcycle enthusiast, surfer, BMXer, world traveler, musician
and BBQ guy in me can relate.
It's fun. It's like a puzzle. It's a cool challenge to our ability to
protect and provide, if you think about it. We can prove we "still
got it".
And that's precisely why Emily and I know of at least four couples
who habitually go out of their way to sabotage their respective
relationships, only to patch things up again...and again...and again.
What do all eight people we know who fit that description have in
common?
They're all bored.
The moral of this story? If you do what it takes to mix in some
fun and fulfilling activities in your life, you have even more
reason to believe that's going to have a very positive effect on
your relationships with women...both in the short and the long term.
As always, deserve what you want.
=====
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Forward this newsletter to a friend, and help
build this worldwide movement of over 100,000
men reclaiming their masculinity, standing as a
positive role model and deserving the high
quality women we want.
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the women you meet? Here's why it all matters...
=====
For the past several months, nearly
HALF of the coaching I've been doing
is on career and entrepreneurship.
Many of you know first-hand how rough
the IT career market is right now.
Or you may have just been laid off
from a government job.
If so, I talk to men in a similar position
to yours just about every day.
If you're feeling stuck right now, I'm
here for you. That's what Unchained
Office is all about:
Get Unstuck
Nearly 20 years ago, I finally said
goodbye the corporate world after
years of success...including a $1.5
billion lifetime sales number.
"Climbing the corporate ladder" felt
more like running on a hamster wheel.
Emily and I have since built a
lifestyle business we can run from
anywhere in the world, on our terms.
That's true freedom:
Get Unstuck
X & Y Communications was built on
dating and relationship coaching,
for sure.
But it wasn't long before guys like
you started coming to me wanting to
get out of the "ratrace" themselves.
So actually, Unchained Office has
been going for over a decade and a
half now.
Maybe you've been reading these
newsletters for the advice on women.
That means you know me by now.
If you either WANT or NEED to make
a change in your career path, let's
talk about it:
Get Unstuck
Yes, resumes are filtered by the
infamous Applicant Tracking Systems,
AI is everywhere, and sites like
Indeed and Dice feel like black
holes.
But there IS a way to get ahead.
Let's get you where you want and
need to be.
=====
IT ALL STARTS WHEN SOMEONE IS BORED...AND THEN
THINGS GET UGLY
THINGS GET UGLY
By now the concept of women being bored out of their mind in
relationships has become a fixture in modern culture.
And sure, television has lots to do with that.
"Desperate Housewives" had a long run, and you really can't surf
the cable menu without seeing four or five shows on at night
about rich wives with nothing to do.
But wait a second...if they're so bored, then why in the world is
that so interesting to so many people?
That's a good question. And there's an equally good answer.
In short, women who are bored tend to create drama for the sake of
having something (i.e. anything) to concern themselves with.
And where is the "low hanging fruit" when it comes to creating said
drama?
You guessed it: in their relationships.
It's the "relationship drama" that draws hefty viewing audiences.
Now, to be sure, it's unfair to limit this discussion strictly to
non-platonic male/female relationships.
Friends, co-workers and relatives are often drawn into the melee.
But make no mistake about it. BOREDOM foments DRAMA.
So far, you may be thinking I've got a firm grasp on the obvious.
Okay, then. How about if I drop THIS "bomb" on you?
The dynamic I've just described is NOT gender specific.
Now, I fully get that there's never been a show called "Desperate
Husbands", "Bored NBA Players Who Are Married", or anything like
that.
But lookit...you and I have already heard a million times about how
having "an exciting life" is like catnip to women.
That's 100% true. If women are typically so bored (and they are),
then they really do appreciate when a man takes the lead to make
life more exciting for her.
And if you've got something fun and interesting going on, she's
glad to have you introduce her into the mix.
So it follows logically, then, that if you do not have a very
exciting life, then you might not have the girlfriend you
really want.
And what does the collective mashup of all these boredom
factors net you?
Well, if you're in such an excitement-free relationship, you're not
only "settling", you're probably still bored...together.
Wow...this is heavy stuff, isn't it?
But it gets more complicated from there.
Don't kid yourself. If you are bored in this life, you just might
also be creating drama in your relationships in order to generate
some excitement...just like women are famous for doing.
Hear me out.
If you are bored at work sitting in a cubicle all day and you have
boring friends who do nothing but play video games, then you're
going to have to find something to occupy your mind.
We as guys tend to require that in order to stay sane (at least
relatively speaking).
So if you're not a NASCAR crew chief or building a nuclear
submarine in your garage then your personality might really start
craving the opportunity to take things apart just so you can try
to put them together again.
Some of us as guys go so far as to really enjoy breaking things
intentionally and trying to fix them.
The motorcycle enthusiast, surfer, BMXer, world traveler, musician
and BBQ guy in me can relate.
It's fun. It's like a puzzle. It's a cool challenge to our ability to
protect and provide, if you think about it. We can prove we "still
got it".
And that's precisely why Emily and I know of at least four couples
who habitually go out of their way to sabotage their respective
relationships, only to patch things up again...and again...and again.
What do all eight people we know who fit that description have in
common?
They're all bored.
The moral of this story? If you do what it takes to mix in some
fun and fulfilling activities in your life, you have even more
reason to believe that's going to have a very positive effect on
your relationships with women...both in the short and the long term.
As always, deserve what you want.
=====
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2025. All Rights Reserved.
Forward this newsletter to a friend, and help
build this worldwide movement of over 100,000
men reclaiming their masculinity, standing as a
positive role model and deserving the high
quality women we want.
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