[X&Y] Approaching Groups Of Women [Reader Question]
Published: Tue, 04/21/20
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READER QUESTIONS AND COMMENTS
I have a question. I am applying the things I am learning
from you every day and I am paying special attention to the
podcasts on approaching women and where you meet them.
My obstacle now is I keep seeing women I would like to get
to know better at obscure moments like coffee shops, waiting
in line, etc.
They seem to be giving me "signals of interest" but how do
you go about trying to flirt and get a number when there are
two girls present?
With this there are the issues of jealousy or if the other
friend will try and hinder your attempts because you
approached the other girl.
This happened today at a coffee shop with two girls talking
to each other at a table.
We strategically sat at the middle table where all the girls
could see us.
I didn't make the attempt to go talk to the one girl that
seemed interested because her friend was there, but she did
go to the bathroom.
Maybe that was my opening but even then to get a number from
someone you just met with just 2 to 3 minutes to do it in is
strict.
There is a way to accomplish this? So what I am doing wrong
with my mindset?
Thanks again for your time and help, I appreciate it and can
say I am making the sincere decision to put myself on the
path to deserving what I want.
Nelson -- California
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Hey, Nelson. Thanks for writing.
If you see a woman you like who just so happens to be with
one or more of her friends, there is absolutely nothing wrong
with having a specific interest in her..
Remember first, however, that it's a mistake to pre-approve
any woman before actually talking to her and evaluating what
she's really like.
Believe me, I've experienced situations similar to the one you
shared in which I ended up MORE interested in the woman
who I didn't initially expect to like as much.
I know...ironic, right?
So first off, remember not to over-analyze. Follow some basic
social conventions, and chances are everything will go well.
First, the smart plan is to boldly get the group's attention, with a
confident but personable introduction, perhaps observing how much
fun they're having, etc.
As always, be observant in the moments prior to approaching and
you're likely to recognize an obvious conversation starter.
Then, follow solid social convention and be sure to engage each
woman in the group socially at first rather than initially focusing on
one (or some) while ignoring the others.
This demonstrates solid social skill. After all, being rude to people
doesn't often win women over.
That said, bear in mind it's only natural (and expected) that you'll
end up particularly attracted to one in particular.
Women can handle that. After all, they are grown-ups too.
Besides, think of it this way. How's it going to look if you're
trying to get with more than one of them? (Unless that seems
to be their own idea, of course.)
However, if in the unlikely event your concern is validated and one
or more of the other woman somehow manages to "act up" in either
a jealous and/or immature way, that's not really even your problem.
Rest assured that any woman who would put on this display is not
demonstrating true friendship toward the woman you are interested
in.
With some field experience, you'll soon realize that if you follow
the social graces I've recommended, most women are at least
somewhat gracious in return when a man clearly shows interest in
a certain woman in the group.
You are only going to get blatantly "blocked" when either:
1) She's not single after all, or...
2) ...you are creepy, pushy or otherwise an I/J (Idiot/Jerk).
So be the kind of man who deserves what he wants, and there's
very little potential for shame.
If one girl actually does behave like a brat, believe it or not it may
help your cause as the one you prefer apologizes upon finding
herself in a position of embarrassment.
The more gracious you continue to be under such circumstances,
without getting rattled, the better.
But this is all a contingency plan for the unlikely.
Women know better than to be that catty towards their friends
in such situations. In fact, they often are happy for one
another, interestingly enough.
So in the end, what's the worst that can happen? Nothing is
ever as bad as kicking yourself later because you straight-up
"failed to deploy" at all.
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