[X&Y] What To Do If Women Won't Go Out With You

Published: Mon, 05/04/20

If you've not gone out with any women lately, it's time to take an honest inventory of exactly why that is...

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IN THIS EDITION:  If you've not gone out with any women lately,
it's time to take an honest inventory of exactly why that is...

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"I CAN'T GET ANY WOMEN TO GO OUT WITH ME"


As you might imagine, lots of guys tell me that no matter what they
do they can't find a woman who will go out with them.

Invariably (and I don't use that word often), the phrase "no matter
what they do" doesn't turn out to have been a whole lot.

Never mind the simple fact that some guys aren't doing jack diddly
about being the kind of man who attracts a high quality woman. 

Never mind that they aren't coming anywhere close to doing their
best with what they've got.

The root cause behind such a dateless state is usually even more
basic.  As such, I typically respond to such claims with a question.

"Well, have you actually ASKED a woman to go out with you lately?"

Roughly 50% of the time the answer is either, "Um...no" or "I forget".

I think we can all agree that whenever someone says they "can't" do
something before actually TRYING it there's some sort of
psychological block in place.

In this case, I really believe some guys would rather be right than
be happy.

After experiencing a certain amount of frustration with women, that
frustration can turn to anger. 

Once the snowball gets rolling and a guy decides he just flat-out
doesn't really like women anymore, the next logical step is to make
sure everything supports his beliefs.

Sure, his conscious mind would still like to succeed with women.
But unfortunately, his unconscious mind has created an adversarial
relationship with women in general such that his overall outlook on
things is incongruent.

So what happens next?

Let's say a guy really does gather up the courage to talk to a
woman instead of throwing up his arms in the assumption he'll get
"rejected".

Often, he ends up asking her questions like this:

"You don't want to go out with me sometime or anything, do you?"

Laugh if you must.  But I kid you not, I've had guys tell me
point-blank that they've said such things to women.

Not only does that question presume disinterest on her part, it
hands her the power to "reject" you on a silver platter--no thanks
to the question mark at the end.

On top of all else, it's gift-wrapped in a completely nebulous time
frame:  "sometime". 

Clearly, the man who asks a woman this question isn't simply not
expecting a positive outcome...he probably doesn't even WANT one.

This is the same kind of auto-suggestion that tends to be used in
"public polls" sponsored by organizations that are hoping for a
specific result.

An extreme, almost laughable example would be as follows.  Imagine
two forms of the same question asking about whether or not you'll
vote for a particular candidate:



  A:  "You wouldn't actually vote to put that idiot in charge of
  this country would you?"


  B:  "You're going to make the wise choice and vote for him like
  everyone else is going to, right?"



Those two versions of the question would likely yield very
different ratios of "yes" to "no answers, even if the same group of
people is asked, right?

You really can "engineer" the probability of getting the results
you want.

So when we direct conversations with women in a manner that
suggests she shouldn't be interested in us, we can't be surprised
when she simply follows our lead, right?

We've "manipulated the poll".

If you want an idea of how bone-jarringly common what I'm talking
about here is, just check out what other dudes write in their
online dating profiles sometime.
 


  "I really don't think this is going to work since women don't
  really ever like me, but I'm trying anyway."


  "I can't get a date in the real world, so I don't know why online
  would be any different...but let's give this a try."



As Yoda would say, "Do or do not.  There is no 'try'."

"Try" is the enemy of success. 

One guy's tagline on his online dating profile read, "Here Goes
Nothing..."  I'll say. 

But actually talking to women is a start, at least.

The next step is to lead in a way that assumes positive results
rather than negative ones.

And hey, if you've actually gone about the business of taking a
shower this morning, brushing your teeth and choosing some clothes
with some style for a change that can only help.


 
 




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