[X&Y] How To Get Straight As In Masculinity
Published: Wed, 04/29/20
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WHAT'S INSIDE: You've made it to the second date with a
terrific woman. Now what?
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SPEAKING OF MASCULINITY, YOUR TESTOSTERONE
LEVEL MATTERS
Did you know that one in four men over 30 have low t-levels,
and even experience downright hormonal imbalance?
This leads to all sorts of nasty symptoms that wreck your life.
ED and low sex drive are the obvious ones, but also anxiety,
brain fog, and even having a hard time making decisions.
The association between low-t and being an irritable PITA is
also well-documented.
It's scary stuff, and even if you go through the embarrassment,
inconvenience and expense to go to your doctor you might not
get diagnosed accurately.
Worldwide, men’s healthy sperm counts have dropped by 50%
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HOW TO GET STRAIGHT As IN MASCULINITY
One of the most prevalent themes of questions I receive has
to do with how EXACTLY to "be masculine".
Inherently, most of us---men and women alike---suspect that
the diametric opposite personas of "Mr. Nice Guy" and the
"Bad Boy" can't be the only possible choices when it comes
to slotting guys according to their general demeanor.
But based on what you tend to read nowadays, you'd think
that was the case.
Well, by now you know that I spend a lot of time talking
about the concept of being a GREAT MAN.
He is not a neuter, wussified "Mr. Nice Guy" who believes
he can get somewhere by "kissing up" to pretty women.
He is also not an abusive, cold-hearted slacker who slaps
women around.
What he IS about is being a HIGH-QUALITY human being,
who happens to exude sheer masculine presence all the
while.
And it's that "masculine presence" factor that tends to
confound guys everywhere. Surely this isn't about being
"macho". It isn't about "slaying dragons" and "conquering
enemies".
Of course not. At least not these days, for most of us.
So how about some straight-talk about what it IS about?
Right on.
Here are six measures of TRUE MASCULINITY, as adored
by women everywhere.
Notice "adored" starts with an "A". I've made it so every
point below starts with an "A" also.
Call this lesson "How To Get Straight As In Masculinity".
Ready? Here we go:
1) Assist With Strength
Recently I was talking to a guy who was told by a great
woman that he probably wasn't her "type", as disappointed
as she was about it.
When pressed why, the first reason that came to her mind
revolved around how she had been struggling with a heavy
suitcase at the airport...while he watched empty-handed.
Sure, women are more "independent" now than they've
ever been. But here's a major hint: That doesn't mean they
don't appreciate you doing the "heavy lifting" for them.
In fact, if you proudly do the high-reaching, heavy lifting
and pickle jar opening...and she DOESN'T appreciate it,
it's not your problem. I promise.
2) Assert With Strength
Recently I got an e-mail from a guy I am working with
who is making exceptional strides in his newfound
ability to make high-quality women desire him.
The latest? At the end of an event one night, the
venue was closing but a woman (whom he wasn't even
particularly attracted to) needed to use the bathroom
before leaving for a long-ish drive home.
When told she couldn't by some employee of the venue,
our main man reasoned a "newfound commitment to
customer service" into the employee's mindset. He did so
with calmness, but with resolve.
And EVERY woman around, including the one he WAS
attracted to took notice. Terrific.
Take up for the people in your life when it's the right
thing to do. Care not whether or not who you're standing
up for is attractive to you.
Do this especially when it's potentially uncomfortable
for both you AND for the person who requires taking
some initiative toward.
Try opening such conversations with, "You and I need
to 'visit' about something." That's a Texas-born phrase
with universally understood intentions of having a direct
but civil conversation about a point of disagreement.
3) Attend With Strength
Do what you say you'll do, when you say you're going
to do it.
Keep promises, without complaint.
When you mess up, which will be rarely, apologize.
When women can trust your promises, you build that
level of SAFETY in their minds AND in their hearts.
When you tell women you've got things handled, they
BELIEVE YOU.
This is not to be confused with being predictable or
with having a supplication problem. If you are
repeatedly being "owned" by women, then you aren't
getting the concept.
Think rock solid LEADERSHIP versus kissing up and
you are well on your way to greatness.
Women can't resist a man who is trustworthy and
dependable. It speaks volumes about your central
core character strength as a MAN (as we'll discuss
more next).
4) Align With Strength
While #3 above (Attend) speaks to your actions, this
one speaks to your CORE character. This is the more
overarching, far-reaching concept.
Essentially, by "alignment" here I mean that all your
"numbers match", just like what makes a classic car
particularly valuable.
Consistency in all your thoughts, beliefs, and values
...above and beyond words and deeds.
There's a distinct CONGRUENCE between who you
appear to be and who you really are.
In case you're wondering, YES...this is yet another
way to perfectly encapsulate the elusive cure for
"What Do I Do Next Syndrome" that plagues guys
everywhere in their interactions with women.
5) Assume With Strength
Yeah, I know what happens when you assume. But
what we're talking about here is not being naive but
putting away neediness in exchange for social
confidence.
A real man assumes approval and even attraction
while neither demanding it nor begging for it. This
results in an unmistakable aura of flat-out confidence
that exudes masculine presence and dignity.
Lots of guys have no idea what women could
possibly see in Leonardo DiCaprio. He used to be
one of my least favorite actors for exactly that
reason.
Once I buried myself in learning about what women
really want, I soon (and unwittingly) became a
Leonardo DiCaprio fan.
He's got THIS down, that's why.
6) Anticipate With Strength
Well, since "A Plan" sounded a bit, well, forced...I
chose "Anticipate" as the 6th "A" on this particular
report card.
Come to think of it, I believe "anticipate" is exactly
the word I was looking for anyway.
Have a plan. When you pick her up, know where the
evening's headed. Don't offload that on her. She
won't appreciate it.
Have a plan for your LIFE also. Think women want
rich guys? Well, being rich is merely a symptom of
AMBITION, as we've discussed around here before.
Women love a man with a plan for his life.
It's irresistible to them.
But "anticipation" is more than a plan. It's
LEADERSHIP.
He who anticipates has his "plan" mapped out
several chess moves in advance. That way no
matter what goes down, he's never rattled.
He's the guy with the Swiss Army knife. He's the guy
with the jumper cables. We already know (see #1)
he's the guy who rescues his woman when she has
a flat tire.
With the measure of confidence afforded by #5 above,
the guy with the deeply-rooted "field sense" we're
talking about here become the de facto leader in any
situation when the chips are down.
After a few such battle-tested sorties genuine
WISDOM is naturally the imminent--and desired--
result.
Note that all six "A" words are modified with
STRENGTH. My purpose there is that I want you to
clearly see the difference between what women view
as STRENGTH versus the traditionally male
understanding.
The musclehead guys aren't necessarily the "strong"
ones to most women out there. In fact, depending on
their motivations they can appear quite the opposite.
Can you see that distinct difference now? Ruminate
for a moment upon the persona of the kind of guy
who fulfills upon the 6 "As" above.
Can you see how the MASCULINE traits combine
with CHARACTER to form an image that is intensely
attractive precisely to HIGH-CHARACTER WOMEN?
To sum all of this up, being a GREAT MAN who gets
somewhere with GREAT WOMEN is more defined
by what WOMEN THEMSELVES WANT from a man
rather than our own visions of speed, power, all-
conquering wealth and world domination.
So many of us as guys throw up our hands and
pronounce women as "impossible to understand".
Meanwhile, women are on the other side of the fence
puzzling over the "enigma" that is manhood.
Truth is, we're all human. And we're a lot more
ALIKE than you think--especially with regard to what
our CHARACTER is composed of.
If you want women who will lie, cheat and finally
cuckold you someday then deceptive "quick fixes"
and pure "pickup" game may do the trick.
If you want a GREAT WOMAN, the strategy is
WAY different.
But still, understanding the ways we ARE different
is the true secret to transforming exceptional
manhood into exceptional ability to ATTRACT the
MOTOS (Members Of The Other Sex) you want
most.
And it's by no means impossible.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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