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IN THIS EDITION: Just for a change of pace, I've asked my good friend Michael Lee to "sit in" for this newsletter. Get ready for something completely different.
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HOW TO PERSUADE OTHERS AND HAVE THEM LOVE YOU FOR IT
I have a fascinating and cool friend named Michael Lee who has the "white hat" side of being influential and persuasive down cold.
Michael presents the secrets in such a compelling way that I was drawn in immediately.
He talks about human interaction at the unconscious level in a refreshing, accessible and dare I say character-based manner, boldly presenting it all in plain English.
it's all about pure, natural social skill.
An added bonus is that Michael is also great at exposing the darker side of influence, thereby showing you how to protect yourself from manipulation.
Pretty cool, right?
I can't help but make the analogy of a hacker hired by law enforcement or an anti-virus software company to "reverse engineer" harmful stuff and rid the world of it.
When you visit his website you really get that idea.
Fair warning, the site's style is "old school", but that only means Michael's information has to be that much more compelling, which it is.
He even has some real, practical examples of how to be persuasive right there on his site (and they're ninja):
Michael Lee's 20 Day Persuasion
Once I realized that dating, attraction and relationships are major interests of his, it was "game on".
He also teaches how to be more assertive (without losing social value) and how to be a master communicator.
Before you know it, I was trading e-mails with Michael and had his 20 Day Persuasion course on my hard drive. This guy's material is SO on-point and jam-packed with real-world practicality that I wanted you to benefit from knowing him also...
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IT'S ALL IN THE EYES: BUILD TRUST AND BE LIKED
-- by Michael Lee
Of all the nonverbal communication signals, eye body language is probably the most fascinating. They say the eyes are "the windows to the soul."
I agree, since your eyes pretty much reveal your inner thoughts and feelings.
Even more amazing is the fact that you can use eye body language to build trust and make people like you. Here's how:
1) MAKING EYE CONTACT IS THE KEY
You must make eye contact around 70% of the time if you want to convey your sincerity and respect. Avoiding eye contact unconsciously gives the impression of dishonesty, shyness, anxiety, or even humiliation.
If you continuously avoid making eye contact, you might be perceived as someone who is insecure, unreliable or even deceitful. Although that may not be the case, that's the normal impression that people have of someone who can't look at them straight in the eye.
If you're too timid or are afraid to make eye contact now, start by just look at the bridge of the nose or the portion between their eyes, and they'll think that you're looking at them.
2) BE AWARE OF YOUR EYE BODY LANGUAGE
Some people unconsciously send body language signals that offend other people, so be sensitive to your eye movements. Don't roll your eyes, as this indicates irritation or even disrespect.
Your eyes glow if you're in a pleasant or joyous state, and they look dull when you're lonely or depressed. So if you're having problems or are in a bad mood, your eyes will unconsciously send signals of your mood or state of mind.
3) REVEAL YOUR EYES
Avoid wearing sunglasses, because covering up the eyes might give the impression that you're hiding something. Since eyes are very expressive, not allowing people to see your eyes' implies that you don't want them to know how you feel or think.
It also makes the other party feel uneasy because they don't know if you're looking at them or not.
4) KNOW WHAT PEOPLE'S EYE BODY LANGUAGE MEANS
How do you know if people are paying attention to you? You'll know it when they establish eye contact while either nodding their heads, smiling, and/or leaning closer.
If they raise their eyebrows, they might want to say or clarify something, end the conversation, or have disagreed with something you've said.
People who deliberately evade your eyes and show no intention of giving you a glance are probably not interested in talking to you, so it may be a good idea to look elsewhere for interest.
5) DON'T LOOK IF THEY DON'T LIKE TO BE LOOKED AT
Be aware of people who might get offended simply by looking at them. Some people avoid eye contact because of extreme shyness; so don't add to their discomfort by staring at them.
Some cultures may consider eye contact a negative or disrespectful act, so be sensitive when you're meeting people of different cultures and adjust accordingly to their beliefs.
Aside from reading eye body language, check other nonverbal signals so you'll have a more accurate assessment of what they're thinking or feeling.
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Thanks to Michael for being our guest.
I really love unique and interesting voices in the world of dating and relationship advice.
If you go to Michael's website, you'll find tons of ingenious ways to improve your interactions with people immediately.
I'm telling you, some of the secrets he shares are so simple yet so right-on that you'll wonder how you've lived as many years on Earth as you have without them.
And yet he's giving them away freely:
Michael Lee's 20 Day Persuasion
Once you start reading about Michael's 20 Day Persuasion program you might become as intrigued as I was.
If you decide to get it, let's just say you will NOT be disappointed.
Basically, I have yet to see more bang for the buck than Michael offers...anywhere.
In addition to his absolutely golden persuasion training (included are both e-book AND audiobook versions), he also includes such a rich array of bonuses that you're likely to think this could be the only setup you'll ever need in order to get social dynamics down to a science.
And you could be right.
He's got several more bonuses on leadership, concentration, motivation and more.
Not to let the cat out of the proverbial bag, but Michael even gives you more unannounced bonuses after you get the keys to the expertly crafted Member's Area, which to me is just pure class.
And you'll be stoked about all of them.
So here's where all of this has been hiding out:
Michael Lee's 20 Day Persuasion
Whether you set yourself up with Michael's 20 Day Persuasion bonanza or just take all the no-cost social skill tips you can carry from his website, this will make your day.
Okay...that's all for now.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
X & Y Communications
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