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WHAT'S INSIDE: Women love to be wined and dined. But not like this.
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ALL THE RIGHT MOVES
It's been about sixteen years ago now since I heard about Rob Brinded for the first time.
To be completely honest, I had no idea what to think. He was saying some of the weirdest things ever.
Apparently, he had been working as a trainer for a British Premier League football club, his specialty being human movement.
That's right. He has this rare and interesting gift of being able to look at a guy and tell how he might be able to play his sport better...just by making adjustments to how he MOVES.
But here's the thing. Rob's unique skills are equally, if not even MORE effective at helping you become more attractive to women.
That's why I invited Rob to join the X & Y Communications team a while back...and it was one of the best decisions I've ever made.
I'm sure you've long since noticed that what really catches your eye about a woman is how she MOVES.
There's a certain slinky, feminine, graceful even feline characteristic to the women who really turns our head, right?
Well guess what? The allure generated by movement is NOT gender-specific.
Rob has a study that shows that women are far more tuned in to how a man moves than we've ever imagined...probably even more than WE as guys are when we notice women.
So what am I saying here?
Simply put, if how you carry yourself, how you gesture when you speak and especially how you WALK aren't attractive to women, YOU won't be attractive to women.
And on the other hand, if you've got all of that in your favor you're UNSTOPPABLE when it comes to creating attraction.
Tragically, this is what most guys never seem to get right, and it's what leads to the dreaded "hidden detractors" I talk about so often.
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I have to warn you. This goes way beyond the same old tips you've heard a thousand times.
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There's nobody else out there teaching any of this.
So if you want devastating advantages no other man has, you've just left the "rehashed pickup advice" zone for sure.
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WHINING AND DINING
By now you know I believe the old, worn-out “dinner and a movie” trope is about the worst idea for a first date imaginable.
After all, the main point of a first date is to get to know each other, not to 1) pile on the pressure at the dinner table, with her not knowing what’s appropriate to order, followed by 2) sitting in the dark silently for two hours…awkwardly.
But meanwhile, there’s still a valid counterpoint for the idea of eating together, isn’t there?
After all, sharing a meal is an act that bonds people together.
It's no wonder that business people often work deals over dinner.
And it’s a foregone conclusion that if you know how to cook a woman dinner at your place, you’ll have her (literally) eating out of your hand. I mean, come on...I've written the book on that subject.
Further, dinner isn’t the only meal. Breakfast or lunch are automatically lower-pressure date gigs. Truth be told, I met Emily at breakfast and it obviously went spectacularly well.
Add it all up and I’m not about to pretend that men and women don’t usually end up at the dining table together when they're getting to know each other.
Hell, even if you do something suitably creative and interactive on a first or second date, you'll likely work up some hunger before you’re ready to part ways.
And once you’re at the table together, you’re going to have to TALK to each other.
That’s where some well-thought out strategy should come into play. After all, if natural entropy is allowed to take its course you’re likely to end up going places in your conversation you never should have gone.
I call it “whining and dining”.
Basically, if left to your own devices, chances are phenomenally high that the two of you will end up bitching about everything.
The service. The food. Your work week. Her boss. Past first dates. Online dating creepers.
God forbid politics.
Worst of all, your exes.
Well, guess what? Negativity is an attraction killer.
And unfortunately for you, it’s unreasonable to expect her to put the quick kibosh on conversation that’s headed southward in a jiffy.
If she has the presence of mind to save the day, great. But it’s a much better idea to come prepared to lead.
So keep a watchful eye over your conversation with women. That goes for any time, really, not just first dates.
It’s a solid idea to come prepared with positive conversation ideas.
My favorite way to do this was to listen to talk radio on the way to meeting women, taking note of interesting (but positive) public interest stories.
You can also ask her questions like what her favorite childhood memory is, or where she would go if she could snap her fingers right now and be anywhere in the world.
Remember also the importance of making her feel safe and secure.
So yes...contrary to all the newbie dating advice out there, if she looks great, tell her. She probably made an effort to do so.
In fact, if you’ve met her online and she looks even better than her pictures, you absolutely should say so.
You’re not going to look needy or desperate by speaking the truth, only if you have an agenda behind the compliment. Let your words stand alone, purely for the purpose of putting her at ease.
Similarly, if you’re having fun, it’s okay to tell her that too.
Be observant and notice if she seems nervous. If so, tell her if you think it’s going well already, and invite her to relax and enjoy herself.
If you’re really feeling adventurous, once you sense she’s digging you, ask her what she likes to do for fun. Expect anything.
Once you enact this simple strategy for remaining positive when conversing with a woman over a meal, you open the floodgates for that intimacy that’s built through bonding.
It's called "connecting", and in case you're new at this it's pretty much the holy grail of first dates.
Perhaps weirdly, you’ll probably also have separated yourself from all the other needy, pushy, socially-inept guys she’s been going out with lately.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
X & Y Communications
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