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IN THIS EDITION: The craziest thing about this "rookie mistake" I made back in the day is that you might actually look forward to making it yourself sometime soon. Weird...
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SCORE THREE PROGRAMS FOR THE PRICE OF ONE
Typically, every couple months or so I'll send you a promo link that lets you snap up two major X & Y Communications programs for the price of one.
Well, this time you can make it THREE for one.
There's no "fine print". It's that easy:
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Your Choice 3-for-1 + 2 Newest Audios
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THE WEIRDEST ROOKIE MISTAKE I MADE PERSONALLY
Years ago I was a guest on a podcast hosted by a guy who specializes in helping "newbies" learn pickup.
As the conversation turned to online dating (which was still a thing back then), I was asked to share my own experiences and give some recommendations.
I mentioned that when a guy gets good at writing women and screening them, he'll go on quite a few "first meetings", expecting most if not ALL of them to go reasonably well.
As a direct result, he might end up telling a whole lot of women that he's interested in seeing them again.
Before he knows it, there might be 15 or 16 women out there expecting to go out again sometime, and this can actually happen within the brief span of a couple of weeks.
Not giving much thought at the time to the true weight of my words, I casually mentioned that I'd personally experienced that exact scenario.
Now, once the podcast aired the comments on the guy's blog started to pile up, most of them angrily accusing me of lying, and that there's NO WAY I could have been "dating 16 women at once".
To most of the guys who were listening, the thought of having a high quality problem like that was unfathomable.
Nevertheless, I clearly stated in the podcast how I had FAILED to manage the situation, and that it was a ROOKIE MISTAKE for me to allow 16 women to think I'd go out with them again.
But the audience wasn't hearing that part for some reason.
Even though a guy who's focused on learning pickup may think collecting women is some sort of holy grail of success, it's actually NOT any measure of true success at all, particularly if you're all about bringing high quality women in your life.
As crazy and counter-intuitive as it sounds, men who are skilled with women know better than to string along too many at once.
What's up with that?
Simply put, if you or I or any other guy has a dozen or more women waiting to go out with him, we'd have to go on at least one date every day for twelve consecutive days in order to get around to actually seeing each of them once.
That's with no breaks.
And don't kid yourself: if you're even remotely interested in dating high quality women, you'd better see her more often than once every twelve freaking days if you want to keep doing so.
Otherwise, she'll get the message FAST that you aren't all that interested, regardless of what your reality is.
In the real world, when you have that many women hanging around in your inbox, you'll soon realize you have favorites.
Out of the double-digit number of women you've agreed to see again, you're going to actually prefer a subset of them over the rest.
When push comes to shove, you'd rather call one of those women AGAIN after a few days than any the others.
And you will.
On top of that, once you've got about four or five women in your "preferred" group, you'll likely find one of them is always available for you to hang out with.
By now you can see where I'm going with this.
No man of REAL character who has REAL skill with women is literally "dating" sixteen women.
That's not because he can't arrange to have 16 women in his life, but rather because it's a logistical impossibility to see them all.
Well, at least unless he'd like to have his life completely dominated by forced dates with certain women when he would actually rather be with someone else.
And I haven't even mentioned how leaving the "second tier" of non-preferred women hanging is not exactly an ethical thing to do, either.
So then, what in the world would cause a guy to get excited about a newfound ability to "collect" women, at least for a short while?
It's simple. It's because he suddenly realized he CAN.
Whenever any of us has gone a long time without really attracting women, once we start seeing positive results it's easy to feel like a kid in a candy store.
We'll feel like we want to play "catch up" and date ALL the women we can as soon as possible.
We'll want a blonde one, a brunette one and a redhead.
We'll want to hang out with a former gymnast with a spunky personality one day and a tall, leggy sophisticated woman the next.
If the "sickness" gets particularly intense, we may actually still obsess over the one or two women who we can't seem to get to go out with us...even when lots of other women we like are waiting by the phone for us to call.
I'm telling you, it can get ridiculous.
But once we inevitably burn out from that kind of schedule and/or get enough angry messages from women we've made empty promises to, we'll be done trifling with the complicated and counter-productive existence commonly associated with our "collecting" phase.
Mark my words.
Both our curiosity and our ego will be satisfied, and then we can finally get on with the business of dating a reasonable number of women who we really like, all the while raising the bar as necessary and appropriate.
For most men I've ever met who were good with women, that number is somewhere between three and six. For me it was five. Some guys with busy careers only have time for one or two.
And that's a FAR, FAR better way to go.
Yes...you can absolutely, positively date multiple women while you evaluate what it is you really want from a long-term relationship.
But as always wisdom, maturity and character drive a "big four" man's thoughts and actions.
Handle your dating life the right way and you'll see quality prevail over quantity before your very eyes.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
X & Y Communications
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