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IN THIS EDITION: If you've not gone out with any women lately, it's time to take an honest inventory of exactly why that is...
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WEDNESDAY'S MASTERCLASS: WHEN THINGS GO WRONG WITH WOMEN
Things go sideways sometimes. That's life.
But man, when it comes to women, every friggin' step is like a minefield.
First, you need to approach her and talk to her without messing up.
Got her number? Great. But now you have to message her the right way or she's gone.
First dates? What could happen? (Yeah, right!)
And then there's knowing whether she even likes you or not, let alone when to make a move.
I mean, a lot of us as men shy away from making ANY move nowadays, because of the perceived negative consequences.
Then, when you start getting to know her, she wants to know how many women you've slept with.
That's when you also find out how many guys SHE'S been with.
Navigate that one, and what's next? Waiting out whether she's really crazy under her "best behavior" (however long THAT takes).
You finally feel like you have a girlfriend, and then BAM...it doesn't go so well with her family and friends.
Or worse...her ex boyfriend resurfaces.
And the bickering...is that normal?
What do you do when her jealous streak comes out of nowhere? Or what if YOU suddenly start feeling jealous?
All of these sticky situations and TONS more will be covered in this Wednesday night's Masterclass For Men:
Masterclass For Men: When Things Go Wrong With Women
Although it can all feel overwhelming, most all of these puzzles and problems are super common.
But that doesn't mean you have to get blindsided, let alone put up with them.
From now on, know the right way to unravel just about any potential "bird's nest" with women.
Lots of times, you can even see trouble coming and deal with it before it's ever even an issue.
But yes, you have to know your stuff. This Masterclass For Men will deliver the goods:
Masterclass For Men: When Things Go Wrong With Women
The Masterclass format allows for real-time interaction. Get your specific questions and real-world scenarios handled on the spot.
You even get a month's worth of email coaching and a 30-minute Zoom call to iron out any rough pattern you've seen happen over and over again.
The live event happens THIS Wednesday, the 25th at 8p EST.
Can't make it live? Grab your ticket, tune-in to the replay, and you can still ask me all of your questions as they come up:
Masterclass For Men: When Things Go Wrong With Women
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"I CAN'T GET ANY WOMEN TO GO OUT WITH ME"
As you might imagine, lots of guys tell me that no matter what they do they can't find a woman who will go out with them.
Invariably (and I don't use that word often), the phrase "no matter what they do" doesn't turn out to have been a whole lot.
Never mind the simple fact that some guys aren't doing jack diddly about being the kind of man who attracts a high quality woman.
Never mind that they aren't coming anywhere close to doing their best with what they've got.
The root cause behind such a dateless state is usually even more basic. As such, I typically respond to such claims with a question.
"Well, have you actually ASKED a woman to go out with you lately?"
Roughly 50% of the time the answer is either, "Um...no" or "I forget".
I think we can all agree that whenever someone says they "can't" do something before actually TRYING it there's some sort of psychological block in place.
In this case, I really believe some guys would rather be right than be happy.
After experiencing a certain amount of frustration with women, that frustration can turn to anger.
Once the snowball gets rolling and a guy decides he just flat-out doesn't really like women anymore, the next logical step is to make sure everything supports his beliefs.
Sure, his conscious mind would still like to succeed with women. But unfortunately, his unconscious mind has created an adversarial relationship with women in general such that his overall outlook on things is incongruent.
So what happens next?
Let's say a guy really does gather up the courage to talk to a woman instead of throwing up his arms in the assumption he'll get "rejected".
Often, he ends up asking her questions like this:
"You don't want to go out with me sometime or anything, do you?"
Laugh if you must. But I kid you not, I've had guys tell me point-blank that they've said such things to women.
Not only does that question presume disinterest on her part, it hands her the power to "reject" you on a silver platter—no thanks to the question mark at the end.
On top of all else, it's gift-wrapped in a completely nebulous time frame: "sometime".
Clearly, the man who asks a woman this question isn't simply not expecting a positive outcome...he probably doesn't even WANT one.
This is the same kind of auto-suggestion that tends to be used in "public polls" sponsored by organizations that are hoping for a specific result.
An extreme, almost laughable example would be as follows. Imagine two forms of the same question asking about whether or not you'll vote for a particular candidate:
A: "You wouldn't actually vote to put that idiot in charge of this country would you?"
B: "You're going to make the wise choice and vote for him like everyone else is going to, right?"
Those two versions of the question would likely yield very different ratios of "yes" to "no" answers, even if the same group of people is asked, right?
You really can "engineer" the probability of getting the results you want.
So when we direct conversations with women in a manner that suggests she shouldn't be interested in us, we can't be surprised when she simply follows our lead, right?
We've "manipulated the poll".
If you want an idea of how bone-jarringly common what I'm talking about here is, just check out what other dudes write in their online dating profiles sometime.
"I really don't think this is going to work since women don't really ever like me, but I'm trying anyway."
"I can't get a date in the real world, so I don't know why online would be any different...but let's give this a try."
As Yoda would say, "Do or do not. There is no 'try'."
"Try" is the enemy of success.
One guy's tagline on his online dating profile read, "Here Goes Nothing..." I'll say.
But actually talking to women is a start, at least.
The next step is to lead in a way that assumes positive results rather than negative ones.
And hey, if you've actually gone about the business of taking a shower this morning, brushing your teeth and choosing some clothes with some style for a change that can only help.
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