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WHAT'S INSIDE: Here are the second five items on my top ten list of bad dating advice given by miserable people.
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TOP 10 WAYS MISERABLE PEOPLE GIVE BAD DATING ADVICE (PART TWO)
Yesterday I gave you the first five of my top ten bits of dating advice that people who are frustrated with their own love lives tend to try to give others...usually with disastrous results, of course.
If you missed that, dig around in your inbox for that e-mail from me. It should have arrived around 5:00 pm Eastern Time.
Anyway, here's the second half of the list. Hang on...some of these are real "barnburners".
6) "You'll never get her to go out with you. She is out of your league."
This is probably spoken by some guy who secretly longs for that very woman you've got your eye on, yet is too much of an utter coward to even approach her.
This guy actually hopes you are rejected if and when you ask for the date, but has just enough fear that you WON'T be rejected that it requires his direct intervention in hopes of not having to ever face that reality.
Think about it... How ironic it is that so many of us assume we'll be "rejected" by a woman we want, yet simultaneously fear that the very next guy who approaches her won't be.
7) "Everyone who is a member of those online dating sites is a freak! I wouldn't dare risk it if I were you."
Whatever. I've been online, and I'm no freak, thank you.
These people have either not even tried it (like most who "hate" sushi), don't have the guts to, or bungled their own experience online...yet pass the blame on to those they wrote to.
Or worse, they waited around for everyone else to write them first.
Everyone has to meet somewhere and online is a great place, especially for busy professionals with full lives.
8) "Keep all your options open because she is just going to break your heart eventually."
This all boils down to whether you are a person who a potential partner can commit to or not. Do you deserve what you want?
This ball is in your court, as discussed around here before. It's as simple as that.
If you are all but giving up on a committed relationship before even trying, guess what: you aren't going to get the relationship you want. Work on that.
9) "Love fades away. Make sure you get someone who takes care of you."
Ah yes, "Kissing don't last but cooking do."
Forget about it. If the kissing's gone, the rest is but a shell anyway. Having the love of your lifetime around should mean that the two of you are more than roommates.
Don't be shallow. Here's a dime, go buy some depth...
10) "Everyone makes mistakes. You have to let that [major] one she made go."
This one follows closely behind staying in a relationship simply because it beats being alone.
Whether you're a man OR a woman, if you are violated, put in imminent danger, manipulated to do that which you do not want to do, physically or emotionally assaulted, subject to destructive addictions and/or cheated on...get out.
Do yourself that favor. Once you accept preposterous presumptions upon your relationship that demonstrate your partner has zero respect for you, you have only opened the door for that to happen again and again.
Every time you stick around when something unthinkable is done to you, the more you have effectively given your supposed "partner" permission to stick it to you some more. Don't do that.
There are others I could have included, but this list should serve to help you think of those on your own.
One final note of caution on the dating advice front. At times there can also be advice from truly well meaning people who happen to have such vastly different experiences from ours that the validity of their advice becomes questionable.
For example, a couple who married at age 16 and have been happily hitched for 55 years can have a lot to offer us. Be careful, however, when it comes to their musings about finding a new partner at age 40 after a divorce. See what I'm saying?
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